girl from fb, club, friends in common

[pyros]

Some days ago I messaged this 21 years old chick on FB, and we exchanged a few messages.

Last night I went out with my friends and there was this chick I did not know who was friends with a friend of mine. They introduced her to me, I found her
pretty cute, we talked a bit, laughed etc.
One of my friends got wasted and started to argue with anoher friend of us for an hour or more, so our night was not so nice...we had to keep them at distance, there was this negative vibe in the air...I went upstairs with my buddie while the rest, this girl included, kept downstairs. I could not even say bye to this chick.

Anyway, today I message again this chick from FB and then...I REALISE IT IS THE SAME GIRL I MET LAST NIGHT WITH MY FRIENDS! what a coincidence!
we exchange a few messages and she realises it as well, so we crack up.
She asks me several questions, my age, what I do etc blah blah, I ask her some questions...you know typical stuff to get to know someone. Then I ask her out for some day this week, and here it comes the convo:

me: "so let's meet for an ice-cream or something, when are you free this week?"
her: "hahahahhaa, ok, I can meet you with my cousin (another chick)"
me: "no, no, I mean the two of us, no friends"
her: "hahaha ok sometime... yeah"
me: "see this, text me sometime this week so we hang out, or not, no problem anyway"
me: "see you around"
her: "hahahaha, sure, we could go grab a drink someday..."
her: " xoxo pyros"
me: " its nice to have met you "
her: " :*** "
me: "nice to meet you too cutie "

So, I think she likes me but now she's not "available".
My plan is to wait two weeks and ask her out again or just forget about her and let her text me when she's "ready"


Opinions?

 

[marmel75]

You think she likes you, but she wants to meet up with you with her cousin? Cmon bro, you cannot be serious. No woman interested in a guy is going to offer to meet up and bring their cousin, then give you BS responses when you press the issue. I've had....ooooohhhhh.....exactly ZERO woman offer to bring a friend along when I've asked them out.

Ice cream? Why not take her out for a drink? Alcohol helps loosen women up and by your FR's you seem to need lots of help...

 

[WanderingMan]

Was her cousin a female? If so, personally, I would have been 100% fine with it. I agree main girl's interest may not be too high at the moment, but that is okay. Not every woman is going to be infatuated with you right off the bat, after talking to you for only 2 minutes.

Go out with them, have fun, and be outcome independent. Who knows, the cousin could be smoking hot as well. Ice cream leads to drinks, leads to messing around, leads to going back to one of your places...leads to....

Just sayin. But don't think about this^ when you're out with them, again: outcome independence.

However, you tried to make it just you and her, that didn't work - hind sight is 20/20, no big deal. Here's how I would have played it a little different after she seemed to let you off easy:

me: "so let's meet for an ice-cream or something, when are you free this week?"
her: "hahahahhaa, ok, I can meet you with my cousin (another chick)"
me: "no, no, I mean the two of us, no friends"
her: "hahaha ok sometime... yeah"

"sometime". FVCK THAT

After that, I would have said something simple and non-committal on your part

you: maybe

In essence, her non-commitance is now lowering your interest, or at least it should be if you're a high value man.

Then soft next until she contacts you, and tries to make it up to you.

Instead, what you did was YOU rewarded her for her non-commital wishy washy somewhat disrespectful behavior - do not do that. Among many things, it will be perceived as desperation (which it is), and her IL will drop or just all out disappear.

A lot of this comes down to having standards, not giving a fvck, and simply (again) being outcome independent.

 

[marmel75]

Was her cousin a female? If so, personally, I would have been 100% fine with it. I agree main girl's interest may not be too high at the moment, but that is okay. Not every woman is going to be infatuated with you right off the bat, after talking to you for only 2 minutes.

Go out with them, have fun, and be outcome independent. Who knows, the cousin could be smoking hot as well. Ice cream leads to drinks, leads to messing around, leads to going back to one of your places...leads to....

Just sayin. But don't think about this^ when you're out with them, again: outcome independence.

However, you tried to make it just you and her, that didn't work - hind sight is 20/20, no big deal. Here's how I would have played it a little different after she seemed to let you off easy:

me: "so let's meet for an ice-cream or something, when are you free this week?"
her: "hahahahhaa, ok, I can meet you with my cousin (another chick)"
me: "no, no, I mean the two of us, no friends"
her: "hahaha ok sometime... yeah"

"sometime". FVCK THAT

After that, I would have said something simple and non-committal on your part

you: maybe

In essence, her non-commitance is now lowering your interest, or at least it should be if you're a high value man.

Then soft next until she contacts you, and tries to make it up to you.

Instead, what you did was YOU rewarded her for her non-commital wishy washy somewhat disrespectful behavior - do not do that. Among many things, it will be perceived as desperation (which it is), and her IL will drop or just all out disappear.

A lot of this comes down to having standards, not giving a fvck, and simply (again) being outcome independent.

Yeah I mean maybe if I was still in high school I'd agree to meet someone with that obvious low IL.

The number one mistake most guys make is spending 90% of their time trying to make uninterested or low interested women more interested instead of spending 90% of their time finding women that have a high IL already. Why would you waste your time even considering this? You come across looking like a chump that is so desperate for a date you won't even have any self respect for yourself and obviously that you have no options.

 

[Mr Wright]

My opinion is that there is no hiding from the truth. She's not that into you. No sweat though, onto the next one. Don't be contacting her again unless you intend to join her army of "guys who keep messaging me"...girls have a lot of those, they feed off of the attention.