Girl from earlier in the year, need advice.

[AIWIANG]

Hey fellas, I need some advice. Starting out, this girl and I earlier in the year had a fling for about 4-5 months. We went out on about 4 dates and pretty much just became F-buddies. We both just got out of relationships prior.

Eventually we just stopped talking to each other. I became overwhelmed with school and work and she did too. Well, about three months ago she called my cell and left a message on my voice mail telling me to give her a call. But I never got around to it and kind of forgot because I erased the message after listening to it.

My problem is I starting thinking about her and I would like to give her a call but I can't bring myself to do it because I waiting so long since she called out of the blue. I keep feeling it's going to be no good to call her because what if she is seeing someone now and then I feel like I should give it a shot.This girl is just stunningly gorgeous and I would like to pursue some kind of relationship with her but I don't know how to pull this off since we had the fling earlier which I feel might damper my pursuit. Has anybody pulled this off. I am stumped and need some type of direction.

 

[AIWIANG]

anybody?

 

[chlywly]

Well the first thing to do would be to "call" her

 

[AIWIANG]

I've never been in this situation with a girl I had a fling with.
When I call her should I mention why she called a few months back and ask her if she would like to get together for dinner or something?

 

[AIWIANG]

When this girl tried calling me in June, wouldn't she have tried calling again when I didn't try calling her back or do most women try one time and give up?

 

[megz_hunni]

first of all yes you should call her. clearly by calling you shes sayin that she wants to see you, single or not. ive been in a similar situation and ended up dating a guy that i had a fling with. it didnt last long cause of the history between us but it was fun while it lasted. if your cool with that sort of thing, id say go for her.

-meagan

 

[AIWIANG]

Well I tried calling her today around 7pm and got her voicemail. I left a message for her to call me. Was this the right thing to do is is this a bit AFC? If she doesn't call back within the next few days should I just give up and NEXT her? Or should I at least try to call one more time? Damn this stuff is tricky.

 

[NatureGuy]

Wait a few days to see if she returns
your call. If not, and you want to pursue
this, don't leave another message. Just
call every day or two until you reach
her in person. Don't tell her how many
times you've actually called.