"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The girl from the last post that I didn't do so hot with came into work yesterday with her mom and I've never seen her in there before. I talked to her briefly, made some small talk about her dog since she mentioned it woke her up that morning. I can't help but think we could really click. I find it hard though to really let loose with this girl and I think it's because I feel there's some very strong attraction there. I'm thinking it goes both ways but I want to talk to her today, maybe ask her if she slept with the spray bottle or something. lol She's told me quite a bit that we can talk about so I want to talk to her today and show a different side of me, the one she probably thought she saw before. I want to lead her into a wonderful state of mind. Given what happened before and the awkwardness, what should be my move? I'd like the conversation to go better and maybe tell her that I think she's the most intriguing girl I've seen around because it would be sincere at least. I haven't used her name really either so I think I can put that to use.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude... relax. There's no way you'll get anywhere with this girl if... well, ok, there's no way you're getting anywhere with this girl.

But, theoretically, you should get yourself to a point where you don't overthink everything so much. What happens if you do end up going out? You'll be racking your brains all night in search of something to say and it'll be horrible.
 

white cloud 8

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just go with the flow.....JUST DO IT!
 
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yeah, I talked to her after class. A little small talk, asked her if she got a nice wake-up doggie bath then asked where she was going. But she was walking like a race-horse on the last lap to the bathroom and said she was going to her next class but I knew she wasn't (lol). before she went in the bathroom, I asked her if she got her lifeguard certificate and her little whistle and she smiled, saying that it was coming in the mail. A little while later I was walking across campus to where my car was parked. She had driven from the parking lot which is near the building where our class is over to the parking lot where I park. AS I was walking toward the parking lot, she was walking toward me and I just pretended not to see her, looking ahead and down 'cause it was awkward that she told me she going to a class. So when I looked up, I was gonna act surprised and say something smart to her like "shouldn't you be in class instead of following me everywhere"? But when I did, she was looking down and she had this sweet smile on her face...either the smile that says "I think that guy's the weirdest loser in the world" or the one that says,"I think it's cute that this guy is so interested in me and persistent even though I'm gonna be gone soon". Anyway, I got to thinking that maybe she really is attracted and just awkward under the circumstances about talking to me...not wanting to get too attached.
 
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The major problem is that I'm infatuated with this girl and I've had a gut instinct about this girl, that she's what I've been looking for. It might be pointless but I feel I have to tell her what I think because when she's gone, I just might be thinking about her for a while.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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go and date other girls to boost your self-confidence and overall image ;)
 

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Originally posted by white cloud 8
go and date other girls to boost your self-confidence and overall image ;)
I like this notion. I'm all for spreading your time out in an effective manner. If you're too "infatuated" with this girl to the point where you don't speak to her with confidence and have to play strange socil games with her then you should strike up conversations with other girls and see where that will lead. If you like this girl that much then talking to other girls should be super natural and easy because your intrest lie in other places so you'll probably get a good respons from the other girls you're talking to (hope that makes sense). Also while talking to other girls, you'll realize in yourself that they're no different from the initial girl you like so much and you'll be more confident about how you should handle her.

Two birds, one stone.
 
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