There is this girl I once met in a club. Actually, I do not remember her but we were dancing next to each other that night and a day after I found a friend request on fb from her. I still have no idea how she managed to find me because we did not even speak to each other in the club. After that, we have been texting a few times and because she was hot I tried to set up a date as soon as possible. Even though I made a good impression in my messages (I was funny and I knew she likes me) the end result was never really meeting her. I have never initiated the conversation asking her what happened, I always stayed non-reactive, in silence. It was her who always messaged me after some time saying that she is tired and always at work having no time for her social life. Last week I was throwing a party at my place so the day before the party I invited her saying just time and place. She replied with excitement and agreed to come. I did not text her back. Surprisingly, she did not come. Now, after 4 days she messaged me again, I gave her a cold response, she tried to play it cool and asked me not to be angry with her to which I did not responded. Now, I don't give a **** about her I am just curious about what is the case. I was not needy, I was not giving her too much attention and I was spinning other plates as well. In my eyes I did everything perfectly, yet after a half of the year of her texting me still did not bang her. I am looking forward to your opinions
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girl flaking out on me for 6 months
- Thread starter Kubjak
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
umm who cares? why do you want to know, seriously? can be a million reasons, most likely shes just anti social and nervous to hang out with you. secondary reason is a tease. those two could possibly be switched around.
i get how you feel and why you are curious. but stop it and dont be. our opinions are irrelevant cuz we r not God. no one knows. who cares
suffice it to say its her not you.
i get how you feel and why you are curious. but stop it and dont be. our opinions are irrelevant cuz we r not God. no one knows. who cares
suffice it to say its her not you.
Thanks Alexandar, I guess you're right. I simply like to analyze things to describe the dynamics, nothing more. This is just a situation I have never faced before and I am not satisfied till the mosaic is complete.
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Not every girl will be into you just like not you're not into every girl
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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dont they teach you to write using paragraphs at school?
Anyway, in my opinion you acted too aloof, cold and indiferent, and this is why you havent meet her in the end.
If a woman shows interest in you and YOU ACT TOO COLD, she loses interest cause she thinks you're not into her, dumbass. You say it was her always the one to initiate contact...what about you??
I've read a few threads lately talking about the same issue.
Guys, if a woman shows interest REPLICATE THAT INTEREST. You dont have to bombard her with messages everyday, or arrange 5 dates in a week so you look desperate, but you have to show some damn real interest!
Not just "meh..." interest.
Anyway, in my opinion you acted too aloof, cold and indiferent, and this is why you havent meet her in the end.
If a woman shows interest in you and YOU ACT TOO COLD, she loses interest cause she thinks you're not into her, dumbass. You say it was her always the one to initiate contact...what about you??
I've read a few threads lately talking about the same issue.
Guys, if a woman shows interest REPLICATE THAT INTEREST. You dont have to bombard her with messages everyday, or arrange 5 dates in a week so you look desperate, but you have to show some damn real interest!
Not just "meh..." interest.