Girl flaked..this is frustrating

[n00bPimp]

As you guys can see I'm not new to this. I think im a master at c&f and acting confident. Sometimes it doesnt work out too well but when it does I can just feel it. And with this girl I "felt it". We had so much in common and I laid the c&f on her and she liked it. We have the same classes and she has friends there but she would always text me with the sweetest excuses like asking me for class notes, and stuff that she could easily ask her other friends. We've known each other for less than a month, seeing each other once or twice a week in school. anyways long story short. I told her she can buy me ice cream if i sit next to her for the test. And she said that I should buy her 2 ice creams because she let me borrow her pen. Yesterday, she even waited for me after the test to confirm that we're going out today.

And now she cant be reached! I sent her a text earlier asking her if 6pm is good for her. No response. I called 1 hr after that. Didn't pick up. So i decided to send her a txt saying I cant make it today so we should do it another day just to see what she says. But no response either. WTF it took me so much work to get this girl, I could've sworn there was something. fack this is so frustrating because it seemed like it was a definate thing. I dont understand tho, if what've learned is not working then what does work?? Why??
How do those other guys do it? They dont have to read tons of articles about dating and they get the freaking girl they want.

 

[rjames407]

It seems that you may have been 'LJBF'ed', How long have you actually known her for? You say less than a month, so I am assuming that it is also near to being a month and to wait for this long before actually going out with her communicates to her that you don't have any sexual intentions and just want to be friends.

What I would suggest: significantly reduce the contact you have with her (phoning/text messages) to once or twice a week - this way she will miss your company. Don't reply to all of her messages, if she calls you up on it say something like you were really busy/left your phone elsewhere. Increase the kino and try to communicate that you are sexually interested.

I think your problem was that you didnt use C&F with the escalation of kino and innuendo's/misinterpretation of things she says.


Good luck fella

 

[n00bPimp]

Great advice thanx man. I realize we havent had that much kino but then again 50% of our interactions were strictly class related. However I think i have made my intentions clear because we went out during our class break for pizza once and i went for the kiss but she kinda avoided and said it was because she just ate. My main goal with her has been to avoid being ljbf, I've been LJBFD so much that i've learned to read the signs and avoid certain types of interactions.
After doing some thinking and trying to rationalize all this I now realize that 95% of the times that I've arranged to get together at a later date the girls have flaked. The lesson: never prearrange the first date, always arrange for the first date to be on the same day we interact.
I still think I have a chance with this girl, she has given me strong IOIs so i think has some attraction for me. I wont talk to her for sometime then try again but this time I'll ask her to hang out on the same day.