"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl Flaked on tonight - Couldnt believe it

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Even if we've fvcked 15 times over a couple of months and she flakes one time, she's gone. She can call/text but I ain't answering. If she shows up at my doorstep, I'm calling the cops.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Espi said:
I'm just not buying the girl's excuse.

If a girl wants to see a guy badly enough, she can--and she will.
Show me a women who tells Brad pitt she doesn't have enough money to go out, and i'll show you Sasquatch juggling flaming knives singing the entire score of the HMS pinafore.

If a women wants to see you, she will make damn sure to be available. Weak excuses mean either a lack of interest and or another better guy in the picture. I think you are reading more into this than you need too, but giving it one more go won't hurt.

All the girls that were into me in the past year made it very clear to hang out again. if they couldn't make it, they counter offered plans. Basically I had to try to get rid of them. The ones that didn't always spoke vaguely, or not at all. As a guy, you start to realize when something is worth the time and when its a waste of time.
 

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Her excuse sounds pretty weak and when boiled down far from a serious prevention of seeing you.

Oh well. Don't try to rationalize this stuff like the other fellas here are saying, it is pointless and will only lead to frustration.

Simply shrug it off, give it a day or two, and throw some alternative plans her way. If she accepts carry on, if not, deuces.

And don't go checking her facebook, that will only lead to more frustration and confusement, with that being said too, a tip, don't friend plates on there.
 

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BigSmooth said:
Sometimes $hit does happen. People do run low on money, car breaks down, dog eats homework...etc.

She couldn't go this one time, no big deal. Play it cool and collective, and confidently ask her out again (but not too soon).


If she keeps on flaking though, ditch her. I love telling flakers, "Well it was a pleasure meeting you but you're really kind of boring because I never get to see you which is a shame." Leave it at that. If she tries to get in touch with YOU afterwards...

You know her intentions then.
I Love that quote! I've gotta use it!

If a woman wants to see you, she's totally available! She'll move a mountain to see you!

When it comes time for the meet up, the girl will review all her offers and the looks of the person who made the offer. If a better guy comes along, what do you think will happen to you?
 

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Update: Texted her today, made up some bulslhit excuse about her car, i called her out, and she said shes going through alot, not sure if she wants a relashionship..

I said bull****, we're done, please dont text me again Funny part is. I saw her profile on POF literally 2 hours later. Women crack me up sometimes, gotta laugh it out and women behavior, if i didnt ide be gonig crazy lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crissco said:
Women crack me up sometimes, gotta laugh it out and women behavior, if i didnt ide be gonig crazy lol
This sentence just works ^

Amen, brother! :rockon:
 

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After reading the first post in this thread, I thought:

"If she was really into you, would she want to meet up?"

Of course. She would do anything to make it so. Refer the RT quote in my sig.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that so called "quality" girls will not give it up the first time.

Your "quality" girl is the same girl who gave it first time to the hot spanish guy she met on her holiday or whatever. Happens all the time.

"Quality" girls who have been in relationships for 6 years or more, or married have given it up for me (and countless other guys) within a couple of times of meeting (or the first time) since it all comes down to attraction, not logic.

Simply put, it was a case of only medium interest. Unfortunately you couldn't amplify the attraction (for whatever reason, doesn't matter) and then made it even worse by calling her out on it.

We've all done the same in the past, but here is a great post explaining why it is a waste of time calling her out:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176859

Worth reading.
 

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runner83 said:
After reading the first post in this thread, I thought:

"If she was really into you, would she want to meet up?"

Of course. She would do anything to make it so. Refer the RT quote in my sig.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that so called "quality" girls will not give it up the first time.

Your "quality" girl is the same girl who gave it first time to the hot spanish guy she met on her holiday or whatever. Happens all the time.

"Quality" girls who have been in relationships for 6 years or more, or married have given it up for me (and countless other guys) within a couple of times of meeting (or the first time) since it all comes down to attraction, not logic.

Simply put, it was a case of only medium interest. Unfortunately you couldn't amplify the attraction (for whatever reason, doesn't matter) and then made it even worse by calling her out on it.

We've all done the same in the past, but here is a great post explaining why it is a waste of time calling her out:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176859

Worth reading.
Even a married woman will forget she's married if she meets a hot guy who's better! I had a neighbor like that years ago who never mentioned her marital status to me and we knocked boots when the house was empty.

Runner, that link must remain in my courtroom! I loved it!
 

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5string said:
Didn't they discover flaking was part of the female genome?
It was in Scientific Weekly about a 2 months ago,

Even a married woman will forget she's married if she meets a hot guy who's better! I had a neighbor like that years ago who never mentioned her marital status to me and we knocked boots when the house was empty.
Ha Ha..Same, made out with a married women, and mother of 4 outside of a bar Halloween night.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Came to realize that also. I knew alot of what was in this thread already, it just finalized what I was thinking.

Thanks everyone for the help and support. Nothing else i can do here.

/Thread Closed/

runner83 said:
After reading the first post in this thread, I thought:

"If she was really into you, would she want to meet up?"

Of course. She would do anything to make it so. Refer the RT quote in my sig.

Don't fall into the trap of thinking that so called "quality" girls will not give it up the first time.

Your "quality" girl is the same girl who gave it first time to the hot spanish guy she met on her holiday or whatever. Happens all the time.

"Quality" girls who have been in relationships for 6 years or more, or married have given it up for me (and countless other guys) within a couple of times of meeting (or the first time) since it all comes down to attraction, not logic.

Simply put, it was a case of only medium interest. Unfortunately you couldn't amplify the attraction (for whatever reason, doesn't matter) and then made it even worse by calling her out on it.

We've all done the same in the past, but here is a great post explaining why it is a waste of time calling her out:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176859

Worth reading.
 
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