Agree. The girls I ve LTRed with have often pushed back on 2nd date. Long as its going on a positive direction no need to rush. However skill does play in. I ve sleep with many girls on the 2nd or 3rd dates and the comment has often been I feel like I ve known u for longer. I m pretty sure from their social circles and subsequent behaviour these were not average party slvts.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Girl dumped me on second date for escalating too fast. What to do?
- Thread starter dungonnon
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
noobs read DJ bible first, then come back here to dicuss DJ stuffs.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
And I'd hazard to suggest that this is the difference between civil and barbarous behavior.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
White knight foooools, there They are!
1: You are far to over-invested in this girl after two dates, you didn't get dumped, you guys weren't exclusive
2: You may have set off her ASD, aka you didn't build enough trust for her to sleep with you.
3: She now isn't interested, move on!
4: By constantly texting her after, you definitely killed any attraction that could have been there!
5: Read the DJ bible if you haven't already.
2: You may have set off her ASD, aka you didn't build enough trust for her to sleep with you.
3: She now isn't interested, move on!
4: By constantly texting her after, you definitely killed any attraction that could have been there!
5: Read the DJ bible if you haven't already.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Go SHO shoo go save a hoe pleAse. Save her from the alphas. Save her life!!!
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
White knight infiltration.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Im a savage I aint romantic. If the biatch aint fauckin Im nexting.
ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
As u make up stories of banging chicks hahahaha.
For God's sakes. The guy kept trying to push the girl into the bedroom on the second date after she denied him twice he kept pushing now she wont even respond to him. The stoey explains its self.
No reason to overanalyze. And i couldn't bear to read more than a sentence no offense.
Look at this wanna be pretend badass ***** slayer. Hahahaha.
He's on this forum enough to where he hasnt had an hour to even have a date.
Telling fictional tales to strangers to feel better about himself.
Weak white knight beta
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
ADD me on Snapchat ill eat your heart out beta .
Snapchat is for bitches
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Some members added me and know that Everything I post on here is the truth lmao. Go eat your heart out. Im getting my d1ck saucked after Work.
Boom. Sh1t test failed. It wasn't the escalation--it was your lack of confidence in your right to escalate. Never apologize for an authentic action. A lot of girls reject you to see how you react and your reaction was to tuck tail, go back on your intent, & to basically admit to her that you aren't entitled to or accustomed to girls of her caliber.
Also, asking a girl to your bedroom is way too overt & uncalibrated (unless a girl is 100% into you or low inhibition). Next time, use plausible deniability--Oh, come look at my stamp collection or just pick her up & carry her in that direction while you're making out. She will make it very clear if she doesn't want to, in which case you just back off & wait for her to reinitiate anything physical.
Bottom line is she went into the date not sure how she felt about him. Him introducing the idea of sex answered her question. The idea of having sex with him turned her off more than it turned her on. It happens. He shouldn't take it personal, and he should just move on.
Yes. And i learned that women can't handle rejection because they aren't used to being rejected. Every single woman that blew their chance with me lost their minds when i said no.
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
Wrong and bad advice.
What @TheGambino is referring to may apply to s*lutty immature "girls" but not a woman of value who's worth dating or LTR material. Women of value will generally make you wait exactly for the reason OP described. They DON'T want to be seen as easy or slutty and most of all they want to make sure you're into them, the person, not just their p*ussy. This happens a lot if a guy pushes too fast too soon. It also communicates the guy has very little depth, panache, and game.
If I'm seeing a woman I actually like, I purposely hold off on sex for a while so she can see I'm into hanging out with her and not in it just for the sex. Works every time.
So if you want more success here, you have two choices:
1- Escalate fast and most likely scare them off like you did. Some may even think you're going to rape them so you will never hear for therm again.
2- Slow down ,Speed Racer, and show her you're the man, a DJ, and you could take or leave the sex part for now. Then, after a few more dates, ask her if she wants to get "more comfortable." A "yes" = sex. A "not sure" or "not now" means she needs more time or maybe is just not into you. Then, you need to decide if and how you want to proceed.
My 9-year LTR did this to me. She looked like a Croatian super model. On the second or third date I went for the kill and tried to have sex with her. She said no. I got a little p*issed but shook it off and we continued with the date. We did everything but intercourse for a couple months then we had sex on the couch during a Bears game, lol, about two months in. BUT, she was uber-high quality, hot, good job, smart and really had her act together. As non-Cluster B as you could get. So I did wait. I asked her after why she made me wait so long for sex. Her exact answer was: "If I had given in too soon, you would have been gone and I didn't want that." And she was right. I most likely would have seen her like every other chick I banged on the second or third date (a s*lut) and would have moved on.
Good luck.
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Eat your heart out??? Haha
This is a chick. Only girls say chit like that.
Congrats getting a bj. Like its a big deal.
Dude trying too hard.
What's What's next, gonna brag about moving into your parents basement?
Who cares.
Why are u on here u got it figured out.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.