"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Firestar786

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i got to know this girl over the last month.
so far she has:
1) tried to find out who my family was.
2) checked my company profits/turnovers
3)called the real estate agent to find out how much I paid for my house(just bought a house)
4)claimed my car is a rental(try to interoggate me who the car belongs to - high end car)

asked a few freinds , and they think shes tryiung to confirm my wealth to ultimately gold dig me..


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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Firestar786 said:
i got to know this girl over the last month.
so far she has:
1) tried to find out who my family was.
2) checked my company profits/turnovers
3)called the real estate agent to find out how much I paid for my house(just bought a house)
4)claimed my car is a rental(try to interoggate me who the car belongs to - high end car)

asked a few freinds , and they think shes tryiung to confirm my wealth to ultimately gold dig me..


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You're here to have fun and hook up. Not be interrogated, get rid of this girl.

And what car?
 

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3)called the real estate agent to find out how much I paid for my house
What the fvck really.
Ruler said:
Tell her to fvck off, straight up.
Too late for that, he should apply for a restraining order.



Hmm...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Firestar786 said:
they think shes tryiung to confirm my wealth to ultimately gold dig me..
Ya think? :crackup:

Marry this one and she'll have the money held so tight you'll be begging for gas money and will need to supply a log book.
 

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Psycho alert.
 

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Ruler said:
Holy sh!t?! The v12?! Way to go man :D

And yah, she's definitely a gold digger. Tell her to fvck off, straight up. Go pick up other girls, this one's toxic.
V10.

Don't let this chick steal your cash or ruin your life man... What do you do for a living?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Absolutley sprint in the other direction.

Or lie and say you have horriable finacial problems and see if she sticks around.
 

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salinechow said:
Absolutley sprint in the other direction.

Or lie and say you have horriable finacial problems and see if she sticks around.
LOL that is probably the easiest way to get rid of a girl
 

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My advice https://youtu.be/iMf4BzfH458?t=3m55s

That's definitely creepy and borderline stalker material on her end. You haven't been going out that long, and she's digging up that much material. It could be gold digger material like you said, but overly clingy/obsessive behavior early on is a good indicator of a BPD. Either way it's a red flag, and you need to be very careful.
 

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Firestar786 said:
Opinions please, thanks
What you said just screams that she is a gold digger.
That's all the proof you need.
Now, that she confirmed your wealth, I don't think you will be able to drop her that easily
 

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Firestar786 said:
audi R8
bought a new one, literally 3 days old.

Damn son that's 115k in the states. Way to go, with that kind of car you will see a lot more of this!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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excellent comments by everyone:
@ Ruler its a V8, the V10 is the more expensive one lol
@ way2smart - its hard to drop her but ive started to ignore her now lol.

this year has been good for business so i decided to get a new car and house to match my new income. i never discussed business etc with her and promised I wouldnt. Presumably she started doing checks on me to confirm who I am or who Im not and if what I have is truly mine or not. Now that its confirmed all the stuff is mine she doesnt want to leave.

Either way I have removed her and ignoring her from now on.

Regardless of her gold digger ambitions it is strange to say the least shes calling car companies and real estate agents to find out how much my sh1t is worth.

Stalker/Psycho/BPD tendencies as one user wrote here and we all know what happens when we get with a girl like that!

Will update everyone to show you how it goes hopefully will add some juicy text message screenshots too ;)
 

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Gold digger alert!

I've had too many girls like this. One was trying to find out who my dad/family are by googling their names. One girl a few weeks ago googled my name during the actual drink date (I still banged her afterwards but went NC since) and asked to see my driving license :crackup:

One way to screen for it is using the girl's game on herself. One way girl's sh1t test you is by bringing up some ex or some guy she dated once and to say he did this and this. Special note: never agree with her on this nonsense like say "oh yeah that guy sounds like a jerk" or "I would never do that to you". Just say "OK" with a smile as if you don't give a fvck, and you shouldn't, and change the subject.

The way you can use this technique to your advantage is how I used it last night. I told her my ex-girlfriend was incredibly wealthy. I bring this up when escalation isn't happening and I know something is up (she previously said she's been dating doctors). Her first words that came to mind were "why didn't you marry her... if I was in the same situation I would definitely marry the guy...perhaps it's more fantasy than reality".

Another gold digger snuffed out. :rock:
 
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