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Girl disrespected me as we're planning trip...need advice

gimmeyofonenumba

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We met in the town I used to live in, been dating about 5 months now, because of the distance we only see each other once every 2-3 weeks. We were planning another trip, and i detected a lack of interest, and pulled contact for a few days and it worked. Heres where I get pissed. She says she wants to do another trip, I ask her what weekend works, no response. few hrs later, she txts me, i ask her again, no response. Even told her i needed to know by the next day. Nothing. 2 days later she txts me pics, tells me she wishes i was there for sex,etc. That was last week,im bout to book the trip as she finally tells me what days work, but part of me is saying screw her for not getting back to me on time and just completely ignoing me. advice? thanks.
 

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Sounds like she doesn't want to go and doesn't respect you or the effort you're putting in this.

Why do you want to take a trip with her again? So you can put up with more of this sh*t?
 

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Go on the trip by yourself and pay a single's supplement.

Pick up another girl on vacation -- or a few girls and post them on facebook.
 

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I say go without her and have a blast. She'll learn her lesson when she sees the vacation pics on facebook.
 

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you should change the title of your thread to "I'm planning trip"

because you're going solo bro

how can you say "we're" when she keeps flaking on you

she doesn't want to go because she ignores you

you should get the hint and lose this chick

find a new one that will go on a trip with you

Happy Hunting!
 

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well i know if i go she'll pick me up, im going to her place. We'll have a really good time,etc. I just feel disrespected I told her last nite that I'd call her today as I couldnt talk b/c my phone was dying. I'm gonna flat outt tell her not to disrespect me again.
 

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Take it from me, you don't want to go on a trip with a girl who doesn't respect you and/or when the relationship is not going well. To make a long story short, she got impossible and I ditched her in the middle of the trip and finished it on my own. Not a bad trip but a nasty experience nonetheless.
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
We met in the town I used to live in, been dating about 5 months now, because of the distance we only see each other once every 2-3 weeks. We were planning another trip, and i detected a lack of interest, and pulled contact for a few days and it worked. Heres where I get pissed. She says she wants to do another trip, I ask her what weekend works, no response. few hrs later, she txts me, i ask her again, no response. Even told her i needed to know by the next day. Nothing. 2 days later she txts me pics, tells me she wishes i was there for sex,etc. That was last week,im bout to book the trip as she finally tells me what days work, but part of me is saying screw her for not getting back to me on time and just completely ignoing me. advice? thanks.

make her think you are going then cancel at the last minute and give her a BS reason.. she is done with you but wants to play games and **** u over so you must strike first...
 

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Ya im thinking so Don. I texted her last nite that i needed to talk to her tommorrow. She responded "ok about planning the trip?" I got the feeling she thought I was gonna call to breakup, thats why she threw in askin about the trip. It's funny cause the last trip we did, just 3 weeks ago, I was getting a low interest level as we were planning it, but when she's here, she's very submissive, like I have her in the palm of my hand, and the trip goes really really well.
 

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
Ya im thinking so Don. I texted her last nite that i needed to talk to her tommorrow. She responded "ok about planning the trip?" I got the feeling she thought I was gonna call to breakup, thats why she threw in askin about the trip. It's funny cause the last trip we did, just 3 weeks ago, I was getting a low interest level as we were planning it, but when she's here, she's very submissive, like I have her in the palm of my hand, and the trip goes really really well.
Why are you wasting so much time, effort, and money on a girl that sounds like she could take it or leave it? It being a trip. I mean find someone who is super excited and thankful to take instead.

Sometimes I wonder. :rolleyes:
 
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Stuff like this is the reason I never try to make plans, ESPECIALLY big plans, via text message. She may have had to check on a few things and was only being disrespectful by not alerting you to the fact that she was working on it and had to get back to you later about it.

Texts are too easy to put down and forget about. When it comes to planning, it's always worth a phone call.
 

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The fact that you only see her every 2-3 weeks is pretty telling right there. She's probably talking to other dudes and is weighing her options with you right now. This is why she doesn't respond to you right away.

Are you paying for these trips or is she chipping in?
 
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