Girl didn't return the call?

[tomyv]

Alright guys, I don't post much here, but I'm having a little trouble figuring this one out. I saw this cutie at the bar over the weekend, I've seen her there before. Her and her friends were the ONLY decent looking girls in the place. I decide I'm going to approach. It wasn't a hard thing to do, she was standing right behind me, and I'm not shy in the least anyway. So I say something about the band, blah blah blah, we chat it up a little, then the BIGGEST AFC I have ever seen comes stumbling over (40ish drunk guy) and is like WTF? like they were "talking" or something. Anyway, we just look at each other and smile, and I let this one go and decide to play it cool. So, I go back to talking with my buddies, and laughing at this idiot. He goes away, she comes over to me and starts talking to me this time. we chat briefly, and her friends decide to go play pool, and come to get her....grrrr. Anyway, she says, "I'll be back."

About 10 minutes later she comes back and get's intercepted by AFC who proceeds to buy all 3 girls drinks and give the shot girl (who I've been sleeping with for 2 mths) a $40.00 tip. I'm laughing outright at this guy at this point.

Anyway, she does her shot, then comes over to me and says hi, orders her drink, and sticks around. So I ask her if she has a pen. (I had one) She said NO, and I'm like, ok. Then just keep talking to her. About 30 sec. later she's like what did you need the pen for? I said, "so you can right your phone # down). So she asks the bartender for a pen and gives me the digits.

TO THE POINT.

I called this chic, left a message, and she hasn't returned my call. Her IL seemed real high at the time. Did I screw something up?

Oh yeah, and I'll apologize already because I'm long winded, lol.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Hmm, most people would say you screwed up by leaving a message. Try calling once more at a different time (no message), otherwise Next her.

Oscar.

 

[tomyv]

cool, I wondered about leaving a message. I usually do, but I think I'll change that approach.

 

[JohnJones]

How long between the meeting and the message?

How long since the message?

 

[tomyv]

Met her friday, called her monday. No big deal, she may just be playing the waiting game. And I really dont' care all that much, just used to them calling back right away.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Wait a bit longer before you call again. I don't usually leave messages unless something has changed about a planned date. In the meantime, go out and get some more #'s.

 

[tomyv]

sounds like a plan. I just hate when I have to wait, then the girl wants to go out on the weekend, and weekends are reserved for finding more women, and fishing, etc. etc.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Fvck girls...go fish!

On a serious note, just don't sweat it, you left a message, she got it, if she chooses not to call back...oh well! Let her play the kiddie game of cat & mouse. You be the mouse and go get some more cheese!

M.A.C.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

-Let her play the kiddie game of cat & mouse. You be the mouse and go get some more cheese!


True words to live by

 

[tomyv]

NO doubt!

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Thats sig worthy!

M.A.C.

 

[princelydeeds]

I say don't give up too soon. Be careful not to next too quickly patience and persistence are parts of the game. I argue that there is a big difference between the persistence of an AFC and a confident DJ. This goes against what most on this board say but, I would call her every couple of days for about two weeks. If she doesnt respond by the end of that time then forget about it. I also leave a message teh first time I call, but after that I stop. If you were an AFC or newbie I would say next her but if you understand DJ'ing i don't think it matters. You obviously have other options, so dont get obsessed with her call her a few more times over the next week.

People have lives outside of returning the phone calls of DJ's. You never know things happen and people get busy. I don't know if she gave you a cell number but just as an example, I was talking to my sister the other day and she told me she doesnt even know how to check the voicemail on her cell phone. She has had this phone for like 6 months I don't know if this is the situation but there could be a number of reasons she hasnt called. Don't get discouraged, she might just be testing you to see if your serious or persistent. You don't have anything to lose, you aren't boning the broad now and if you stop calling her you will never bone her.