"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl 'defriends' me. deletes me from facebook THEN wants to start over! fo real

JonDuan

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I've been lurking this site for months but thought i'd might as well register now just because i have my own story and experiences to tell as well as want some advice on things.

Anyway this girl wanted to 'Start over' as friends again. It's a looong story but basically i lied to her about something pretty significant and she got angry and couldn't see me the same way. remember we've been only friends since i've known her (like 2 years) but she basically 'broke up with me'.

This the message she sent me on facebook (to my inbox cos she deleted me from her friends list)

Hey Josh,
It's *Michelle. I know this is completely random, but I just wanted to apologize for what happened between us. I was just really mad and basically took it out on you. And again I'm sorry for that. I understand if you don't want to have anything to do with me anymore, and are probably like 'why is she all of a sudden writing me?' But I just wanted to know if we could have a fresh start and act like this never happened? I really miss being your friend. But if not I totally understand. And again, I'm really sorry for the way I acted to you, it was wrong of me. Just wanted to let you know.
So, I hope to hear from you soon :)

-Michelle (not her actual name)

Well - i think it's just an interesting 'story'. she sent that on April 27 - well over a month ago and i haven't replied or contacted her in anyway since but not entirely intentionally - i've limited facebook contacts cos of exams and everything but now i'm free for another 2 weeks before going back to school as i've finished my exams

so i'm thinking i should just befriend her again. catch up etc. i never really wanted to stop being friends with her in the first place and i think she just overreacted.

and the relevance to this site? well i kinda did the no contact thing after she wrote her looong ass rhetoric on how she doesn't know me anymore bla bla bla doesn't want to be friends and i never replied or said anything. just had no contact whatsoever and what happens? not even 2 weeks later she writes that

Thank you sosuave :rockon:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dj_jazzybrad

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I will be the first to tell you NOT to be friends after a break-up. In my experience, it's generally better to stay away.
 

Five To One

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you shouldnt talk to her.

My ex tryed to apologize a few days ago after telling me I was a piece of **** and to stay out of her life. All I said back was "please delete my number"


Its pretty much the same situation. Fvck her and maybe she will learn from it.
 

Captain

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Forget about her. After a break up, the only reason you should see them again for is sex, if you can remain emotionally unattached.

Also, generally disregard everything that happens on facebook/myspace/twitter and such. Real men do things face to face, or over the phone.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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Did you guys read carefully? They may have "broken up" for a bit, but that terminology is obviously misleading. He said they were just friends, this is not an ex-gf.
 

Kidd

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sounds like she's got some issues. You CAN try banging her, if you want. However if you dont want to, i see no reason to talk to her.
 

Natural Vibe

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Meh. You have nothing to lose, why not?
 

Son of anarchy

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Are you sure she is not planning any kind of cruel revenge and she needs your friendship for doing it?
Dont consider women as men,they have no idea what fair play means...and if they can make you pay 100 if u just made 10 to them,they will and with pleasure.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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