Girl cries after sex

[Crissco]

Spot on here too. My EX was Bi. But actually got the impression she like girls A LOT more than guys multiple times too. Including liking her best friend. But I could tell her friend didn't feel the same way back.

I know my EX was full on lesbo during highschool. I have a feeling she could of been faking liking guys as much as she did.

She also used to cut herself. BAAAD.(Serrated peices of glass even) Same for you Crisco?

Either way.

Bottom Line: Do you want to be with chick who's sexually damaged? As a result of that you will have to put up with mental anguish of why your being denied. Do you want to be with a chick who's sexuality / desire for you is questionable?

I wish I would've asked myself those types of questions sooner. Although I didn't find out she was molested until I was going to break up with her over it.

Already been asking my questions that, in the end i know its honestly not worth it.

About the cutting part im not sure, didnt see any scars on her or anything

 

[Crissco]

Maybe you didn't do a good job?

Always do, thats not even an issue in my head, had her cumming like crazy last night.

 

[joverby]

Always do, thats not even an issue in my head, had her cumming like crazy last night.

He was trolling, yo.

 

[Crissco]

Had her over again last night...Had sex again...Alot easier for her mentally this time because we used a condom..She still had her self in that gerbil wheel though. Keep thinking, doing the same thing over and over. This girl cannot be fixed. I can tell shes going to be like this for the rest of her life unless she gets her self out of that wheel.

 

[bigneil]

Bottom Line: Do you want to be with chick who's sexually damaged? As a result of that you will have to put up with mental anguish of why your being denied. Do you want to be with a chick who's sexuality / desire for you is questionable?

Exactly. There is NOTHING more damaging to your self esteem than to be with a woman who is not attracted to men in general! If she calls herself "damaged goods", has been molested, doesn't like to kiss, or rations sex - run.

 

[Solomon]

It's normal for a girl who was abused to cry after sex. It's also normal for them to tell you you're the greatest lover she ever had. It's also normal for them to call you at work to ask for directions when she gets lost on the way to see her other lover.

lol @ no one catching this!

 

[Crissco]

lol @ no one catching this!

I read it, I only had her call me for directions once to my place...5 min later she was at my door

 

[joverby]

Had her over again last night...Had sex again...Alot easier for her mentally this time because we used a condom..She still had her self in that gerbil wheel though. Keep thinking, doing the same thing over and over. This girl cannot be fixed. I can tell shes going to be like this for the rest of her life unless she gets her self out of that wheel.

Not sure what you mean by the gerbil wheel but it doesn't sound like a good time.

How fun is it having sex with a chick who has constant anxiety the entire time and doesn't even enjoy it? I guess more power to you if you don't mind HAVING to wrap it up everytime or she has a mental break down but I would probably rather jerk off.

 

[Crissco]

Not sure what you mean by the gerbil wheel but it doesn't sound like a good time.

How fun is it having sex with a chick who has constant anxiety the entire time and doesn't even enjoy it? I guess more power to you if you don't mind HAVING to wrap it up everytime or she has a mental break down but I would probably rather jerk off.

My exact thought last night was that..I was if she has hangups and anxiety everytime is this even worth it for me. I enjoy being with her overall as a person, good personality...etc but some of the hangups just arent worth it.


The gerbil wheel is when you get into the same mindset or routine over and over again with it changing...Like with her, she thinks the same ****, why did i do this, never again, then makes the same mistake, then thinks the same thing..over and over again, its like a living in your own mind and not doing anything about it.

 

[joverby]

My exact thought last night was that..I was if she has hangups and anxiety everytime is this even worth it for me. I enjoy being with her overall as a person, good personality...etc but some of the hangups just arent worth it.


The gerbil wheel is when you get into the same mindset or routine over and over again with it changing...Like with her, she thinks the same ****, why did i do this, never again, then makes the same mistake, then thinks the same thing..over and over again, its like a living in your own mind and not doing anything about it.

It was the same for me. I liked this girl a lot, hell I loved her at one point. But it was too much anguish / trouble for me. In a healthy relationship people should be able to fvck. My girl used the whole, that's all I care about. I would just have to throw back if it was happening more I wouldn't be talking about it etc... Wasn't fun.

I finally got sick of being shot down.(This could even be her lying there like a dead fish when I"m tyring to put moves on her acting like I'm not. Or pretending to be asleep)

So I called her up, pretty much immediately dumped her. Then digressed and tried to get it out of her why she was like that. She told me over text(how she was molested and has terrible anxiety the entire time)

I was being a stonewall. Just pretty much saying it wasn't my problem etc.(In different words but that was the point more or less) What's crazy is after I dumped her I actually felt like some weights were lifted off my shoulders and felt some temporary joy.(There was a lot of hot/cold in the relationship and caught her in some stupid lies)

I took her back unfortunately, but it was never the same. I just didnt' feel the same, wasn't as happy around her etc.

This was before our last break up fight, which was about a month or so later.

Moral of the story. There are mentally healthy chicks out there that you won't have to put up with this kind of sh1t. Giving yourself anxiety through out the day thinking about her. Being frusterated with your sex life etc.

 

[Crissco]

It was the same for me. I liked this girl a lot, hell I loved her at one point. But it was too much anguish / trouble for me. In a healthy relationship people should be able to fvck. My girl used the whole, that's all I care about. I would just have to throw back if it was happening more I wouldn't be talking about it etc... Wasn't fun.

I finally got sick of being shot down.(This could even be her lying there like a dead fish when I"m tyring to put moves on her acting like I'm not. Or pretending to be asleep)

So I called her up, pretty much immediately dumped her. Then digressed and tried to get it out of her why she was like that. She told me over text(how she was molested and has terrible anxiety the entire time)

I was being a stonewall. Just pretty much saying it wasn't my problem etc.(In different words but that was the point more or less) I took her back unfortunately, but it was never the same. I just didnt' feel the same, wasn't as happy around her etc.

This was before our last break up fight, which was about a month or so later.

She told me she was molested the third time we hung out so i knew it for a while. When we fu*k shes not a dead fish at all actually, she rode me the past 2 nights, made her *** both times so the sex isnt that bad, its just im used to girls wanting it all the time, she would rather cuddle or be held..I hate that i have to actually seduce her and override her logic after 6 months of this. Gaming a girl no problem in the beg but after 6 months i shouldnt have to be doing that anymore.

And im not giving my self anxiety thinking about her, im honestly just trying to help in a way, which i realize isnt possible in this case.

 

[joverby]

She told me she was molested the third time we hung out so i knew it for a while. When we fu*k shes not a dead fish at all actually, she rode me the past 2 nights, made her *** both times so the sex isnt that bad, its just im used to girls wanting it all the time, she would rather cuddle or be held..I hate that i have to actually seduce her and override her logic after 6 months of this. Gaming a girl no problem in the beg but after 6 months i shouldnt have to be doing that anymore.

And im not giving my self anxiety thinking about her, im honestly just trying to help in a way, which i realize isnt possible in this case.

That's a problem in itsself. You aren't a therapist are you?

Just to clarify she wasn't a dead fish when we boned, just sayin' she might go dead fish when she new I was trying to initiate when we were laying on her bed.

That's fine dude, was just sharing my experience and trying to relate. If you're OK with how it's going , then who is anyone else to judge. But she obviously has some huge issues and you obviously would rather be with a chick who doesn't have those.

You will ALWAYS have to do that too FYI. I almost felt like walking on egg shells every time I wanted to fvck. I got to at least raw dog though.(Birth control FTW)

But I'm moving on to greener pastures now.

 

[Crissco]

That's a problem in itsself. You aren't a therapist are you?

Just to clarify she wasn't a dead fish when we boned, just sayin' she might go dead fish when she new I was trying to initiate when we were laying on her bed.

That's fine dude, was just sharing my experience and trying to relate. If you're OK with how it's going , then who is anyone else to judge. But she obviously has some huge issues and you obviously would rather be with a chick who doesn't have those.

You will ALWAYS have to do that too FYI. I almost felt like walking on egg shells every time I wanted to fvck. I got to at least raw dog though.(Birth control FTW)

But I'm moving on to greener pastures now.

You make a good point bro. Like I said i broke it off once, she contacted me, i was horny that day, took her back, then it all started from there again.

I know that feeling of walking on eggshells everytime u want to fu*k, even though i always get sex. I get that sometimes too.

If I do end it, what do u think is the best way, just wein her off of me little by little, say im busy...etc and shell get the hint, or tell her straight up like i did last time.