"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl counteroffers but in a *****y way

Matt Rogers

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I ask out this girl, we've been on three dates so far. Her interest level is not all that high but so far she's been agreeing to go on dates and while things are moving kinda slow she seems to like it when I kino her and when I kiss her she kisses me back and smiles.

Anyway I suggest another date tuesday night and she says she is busy with a term paper. I say no worried and hope the paper goes well. She says "Yeah ive gotta do it this week cos ive got exams in two weeks time and wanna get started on revision". Im like "ah exams and deadlines are some of the few things i don't miss about uni" She replied "Are you free this weekend". I say "well im out saturday night and have a squash game sunday morning but otherwise pretty free". She says "Well I promise ill make time for you sometime this weekend. Fair?" Im a bit thrown by the "Fair?" bit as i didn't know about her papers and its not like im being unreasonable in wanting to see her again but i ignore it and say "Sure" and make my excuses and get off the phone.

So Im going to just wait to see if she does get in contact about doing something this weekend and if not her loss.

But her last comment "Fair?" got to me a bit as it completely negated the good sign that she bothered to counteroffer. Is it just her being a ***** because she is stressed out or is she trying to give me the hint that Im being too pushy and should back off?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Matt Rogers

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Sorry maybe Im reading too much into it. I guess its just the way she said "Fair?" after her counteroffer.
 
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Dude, what the hell are you talking about? Getting your panties in a bunch because of one little word? I guess it must have been her tone, because there is nothing in the word fair that would warrant this reaction. Isn't that just a way of of asking whether you agree to her compromise?
 
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