"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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faiNt`

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I don't really like her, but I figure if I can get something out of it, why not? So she called me today, twice, she had some obviously rehersed line about me naming ice cream for something she was trying to invite me to go to .. anyway I basically hung up because it was late and I wasn't in the mood. I know that because of how I act I could have her easy, but how do I just get free bj out of it. Especially need help because I don't think she's the type to do that at all; however, I've heard it can be done and that most chicks are "like that" when they are alone.

Don't b*tch at me for this, I do not care.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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john paul

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Why dont you like her? Is she completely unattractive or is she just not the girl of your dreams.
 

faiNt`

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She's a 6 maybe, she's just not that good looking. Funny thing I've noticed I go more for personality, and she has a great one, but I still don't like her (I don't understand this) ..

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SinJester

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Don't try and get a chick just for a sexual act, it isn't good for your rep or anything really. I've had situations like this but if she legitimately likes you I don't really see how you can turn it into a friends with benafits thing. She is going to get burnt. It will probably damage your rep. It's not good for your confidence/image either. You should just move on.

The one exception is that you can get away with it if you are sexual and sincerely don't give a fck.
 

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SinJester said:
Don't try and get a chick just for a sexual act, it isn't good for your rep or anything really. I've had situations like this but if she legitimately likes you I don't really see how you can turn it into a friends with benafits thing. She is going to get burnt. It will probably damage your rep. It's not good for your confidence/image either. You should just move on.

The one exception is that you can get away with it if you are sexual and sincerely don't give a fck.
is it really not good? i have one gal after me too...i thought i could play around...since i was played with too...im so sick of it all.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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it will damage your rep in the long run, if a girl plays around in HS she is a slut
if a guy plays around in HS he is given the nickname "player"
not good for your rep
think of all the guys in your school who are well known players in senior year,
they start to struggle to get girls once they clock on to the fact that they will just get played
its the way society stereotypes us into groups
DON JUAN IS THE WAY TO GO!
 
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Philbert

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this was the right thing that you have done. I don’t think that you were wrong.
 

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Girl coming on to me but

Hi
You are not clear with your thoughts, will you give more information. So I can help you out in this matter.
 

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This is a 2 month thread necro!

On topic: I, too, have something like that going atm. I haven't managed to get some sex out of it yet... but tbh I'm a little afraid of it. I know I'm gonna dump her soon. If I manage to "talk" her into it, it'll break her heart even more.
Through this, I find myself hesitating. I'm not going to start a LTR with her, neither is she the type for light, care-free sex. I would have to put on an act and deceive her.

I hate passing on such a chance, but I guess I'll just break it off before she gets even more attached.
Poor girl... she put in so much effort... I feel like I'm a flaking chick with a d!ck :/
 

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Guys, you can't get these girls that want a relationship to give you sex free! If you want that use common sense and go find a s1utty girl. If you try with these chicks that want relationships you might be waiting a long time and it's going to leave with you with a big mess.

@Huffman: Don't worry about it. You have to look after yourself first, don't ever feel bad for rejecting a girl. I have to reject girls a lot, I would love to get some free sex out of it but I know that isn't going to happen and I'm not going to get into a relationship with a 6. Also, you feel bad becuase she put so much into it? That's why she likes you. If you put in mor effort then her you would be an AFC ;) Hope that helps.

Don't get me wrong, if you just want sex you can probably find it. You might need to find the right girl though, and you need the right mindset going it. Let her know that:

1. You don't judge girls for there sexuality and hold anything against s1uts.
2. The sex wont change anything between you to.
3. It's not a big deal.
4. It's normal.

That might be hard for some people. But ask yourself what you really want. If you just want hookups hit the party scene.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks for your kind words SinJester. Actually, before reading your post, I dumped her today.

I'm not specifically looking for a s!ut. My initial plan was "hey cool she really digs me... mh I could use some sex right now", but all of a sudden she was running after me and transformed into AFC girl.

It's just that if I'm going into a relationship, it's not going to be this girl. I would have loved to have sex with her (been a while), but she was already clinging to me and I wasn't going to be an a$$hole.
 

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Huffman said:
Thanks for your kind words SinJester. Actually, before reading your post, I dumped her today.

I'm not specifically looking for a s!ut. My initial plan was "hey cool she really digs me... mh I could use some sex right now", but all of a sudden she was running after me and transformed into AFC girl.

It's just that if I'm going into a relationship, it's not going to be this girl. I would have loved to have sex with her (been a while), but she was already clinging to me and I wasn't going to be an a$$hole.
good on ya!
 

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Huffman said:
Thanks for your kind words SinJester. Actually, before reading your post, I dumped her today.

I'm not specifically looking for a s!ut. My initial plan was "hey cool she really digs me... mh I could use some sex right now", but all of a sudden she was running after me and transformed into AFC girl.

It's just that if I'm going into a relationship, it's not going to be this girl. I would have loved to have sex with her (been a while), but she was already clinging to me and I wasn't going to be an a$$hole.
Looks like your on the path to being a true DJ
 

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Well, I've heard that haveing the reputation of beeing the ******* can be good though. But i better don't want to try^^

It's better you dumped her. The last girl, i had that problem with is still after me, 1 and a half years after i ended our relationship! That really sucks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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