Girl comes crawling back?

[Raikojo17]

girls must have the most messed up minds i have ever seen.
i dont kno if u guys remember or not, but i made a thread about 2 months ago about a big fight between me and this girl's BF over her. it basically ended with me looking more like a sap than he did, but i saved myself by pulling out before he did, making me look more mature. but he won out in the end.
this destroyed me because this girl was my oneitis for a long time, and then she went and hooked up while we were talking. then says that we never talked like "that" and we were just friends.
here is the ironic twist.
she went and hooked up with that bf of hers. I, being the bigger man, wished them luck and just forgot about her. she called me an A hole and everything.

now, 2 months later, she comes crawling back to me talking about "boohoo, it took me getting hurt to realize that i chose the wrong guy, and that i should have chosen u, and im sorry. and i understand if u dont want to talk to me"
apparently, that dumbass she hooked up with hurt her in some way, now she's coming back to me expecting that i take her right back like some sap.

frankly, it would be nice to have her, but i dont kno if i want to lower myself just because she realizes she made a mistake, and now wants the man, over that boy she had.

so should i make her work for my attention? take her back anyway? or just leave her to live with her on junk? i need some experienced insight guys.

 

[kyphan]

Why on earth would she come back to you after choosing the other guy? Think about it.














(keep thinking about it for another minute)
















(no cheating! think hard about it)













It's very simple: something happened and she's decided to see if she can use you to help her get herself back on her feet. You're not just second place here, you'll BECOME second place again once she finds someone else - after all, what girl can respect herself for long by crawling back to her second choice? You let her in and before long she'll believe she HAS you, and considering your oneitis I'd say she definitely would HAVE you.

Tell her you just want to be friends and never call her back. Do not mention other women, she'll just become jealous and want you more.

 

[spider_007]

him hurting her, donesn't mean that she broke up with him and that she will never see him again.

 

[kdnash82]

I've said it before... I'm real big on revenge. Call her over to watch a movie (stay at home date). DO NOT bring up anything that happened in the past. It brings up old emotions and girls already like to overthink things. Before the movie is even over, you should have already put the moves on her to have her in your bed screaming. You get yours and she doesn't. After that never speak to her again.

 

[Skel]

I use to go through **** like this with my ex. She would basically dump me for someone else and then when she was done with that person she would come back to me and I would take her back and then she would dump me again when she found something better.

You are option number 2...a backup QB. Is that what you want to be? If not then dont take her back.

 

[danno1]

**** her and never talk to her again

 

[kyphan]

Guys, you're suggesting he have sex with a woman he is struggling to resist? I do not feel Raikojo has control over himself with his oneitis and the fact that he's considering taking this girl back, even though it's obvious he's second place. It's nothing against you, Raikojo - you need to drop her and move on. You will not have it in you to say "no" to her after you get laid and she wants more of you in her life until she can find better.

Move on, buddy.

 

[Raikojo17]

Guys, you're suggesting he have sex with a woman he is struggling to resist? I do not feel Raikojo has control over himself with his oneitis and the fact that he's considering taking this girl back, even though it's obvious he's second place. It's nothing against you, Raikojo - you need to drop her and move on. You will not have it in you to say "no" to her after you get laid and she wants more of you in her life until she can find better.

Move on, buddy.

lol u guys, i said she used to be my oneitis. she's not now. now im seeing tons more girls thn just her. im just wondering if i should consider even talking to her again.

but yea, on the sex thing, i dont thinki would be able to lay a girl and then just drop her, that's not my style.

 

[dynamicallyidle]

girls must have the most messed up minds i have ever seen.
i dont kno if u guys remember or not, but i made a thread about 2 months ago about a big fight between me and this girl's BF over her. it basically ended with me looking more like a sap than he did, but i saved myself by pulling out before he did, making me look more mature. but he won out in the end.
this destroyed me because this girl was my oneitis for a long time, and then she went and hooked up while we were talking. then says that we never talked like "that" and we were just friends.
here is the ironic twist.
she went and hooked up with that bf of hers. I, being the bigger man, wished them luck and just forgot about her. she called me an A hole and everything.

now, 2 months later, she comes crawling back to me talking about "boohoo, it took me getting hurt to realize that i chose the wrong guy, and that i should have chosen u, and im sorry. and i understand if u dont want to talk to me"
apparently, that dumbass she hooked up with hurt her in some way, now she's coming back to me expecting that i take her right back like some sap.

frankly, it would be nice to have her, but i dont kno if i want to lower myself just because she realizes she made a mistake, and now wants the man, over that boy she had.

so should i make her work for my attention? take her back anyway? or just leave her to live with her on junk? i need some experienced insight guys.

This is not about having experience. This is about having principles. The ONLY circumstance in which I'd take her back is if she explained what happened very thoroughly, and BEGGED to have you back. I mean, for at least a week. And when you do give her a chance after a week of begging, don't let up yet.

She better earn it.

 

[gherald]

just forget about her because she might be using you as an emotional tampon...

 

[sexxyback]

have some self respect

 

[Kevin Cass]

This is not about having experience. This is about having principles. The ONLY circumstance in which I'd take her back is if she explained what happened very thoroughly, and BEGGED to have you back. I mean, for at least a week. And when you do give her a chance after a week of begging, don't let up yet.

She better earn it.

you need to listen to him becuase he knows what he is talking about.
1. drop her and move on. say no thanks.

2. if you want to give it a shot. do what dynam said

is if she explained what happened very thoroughly, and BEGGED to have you back. I mean, for at least a week.

 

[mrRuckus]

This is not about having experience. This is about having principles. The ONLY circumstance in which I'd take her back is if she explained what happened very thoroughly, and BEGGED to have you back. I mean, for at least a week. And when you do give her a chance after a week of begging, don't let up yet.

She better earn it.

I absolutely made an ex of mine come crawling back after she left me. She begged me for a week. I didn't even respond to her. She begged and begged for days and later on admitted she would have kept it up for a while longer and even would have stepped it up. Eventually i responded, she came over to talk, i made as many demands as i wanted and she'd agree to anything and i said "if you break any of this we're broken up again." Then we had awesome crazy sex.

In end it didn't last but she sure followed through with what i made her promise because she knew i meant business.

I'm really not sure if it's worth your time in getting back with someone or not. I'm leaning towards no; it's a hell of a lot easier to start fresh with someone else.