"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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girl cold for two months..don't know what to do!

Chilz Swayze

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Girl situation ..hlp
Ok I have been talking to this girl
for some time now for three weeks
now.I gamed her using
the text game,using ****y and
funny,teasing,flirting and sexual stuff, she
responded well,made her laugh alot
and she liked it.she's one of those
girls who gets it,we hit off quite
right.Told her to meet and we did on two occasions.But now she went all cold on me about two months ago and from there we haven't really connected..thought I would break the ice by texting her but don't know how to go about it,need some help on how to go about it...plz!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pdx1138

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It's obvious she isn't interested.

An interested girl will not get you into a "I don't know what to do" way of thinking.

drop the idea of being with her and meet someone else.
 

VladPatton

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It's simple, man. She did all the work for you, she lost all interest in you. Happens to all of us, just move on to another one and stop getting hung up about it. The more you think about it the less you will progress.
 

Kbomb

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you didn't escalate physically. Women don't like men who don't know what they are doing. Shows inexperience which is the mark of an undesirable man.
 

Harry Wilmington

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Dude... seriously. There is NO such thing as text game. Texting KILLS relationships. Unless you're doing it to specifically plan out a date, everything else you do texting-wise is a waste of time. Save it for in person.

In reality, you don't know how she responded to your text because you weren't there to hear her laugh or see her roll her eyes at what you were saying. You assume an "LoL" indicated she found what you were saying funny. Not always the case. And even if she did, it doesn't mean she felt a connection with you. The only way to build up a genuine connection is when you meet with them in person. You essentially wasted 3 weeks texting this chick when you should have been dating and/or hooking up with her.

If she hasn't responded to you in 2 months, it means she's not interested. Point blank. What, you think after date number 2 she got Alzheimer's disease and forgot who you were? If she wanted to be around you, she would have contacted you by now or responded to your texts/calls/whatever. Move on, dude, it's been 2 months already.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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