"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Girl cheated on me

Burridge

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 3, 2007
Messages
10
Reaction score
0
I've been dating this girl for three months. Everything was going good but yesterday she made out with a mutual friend of ours and called me crying for like 5 hours. I really liked her, i dunno, what should i do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Modro

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 31, 2004
Messages
421
Reaction score
1
Age
41
^ nothing you can do sir, she probably was only crying because she got caught and didnt want to be called a slut..... was there alcohol involved?
 

speed dawg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2006
Messages
4,734
Reaction score
1,223
Location
The Dirty South
I'd say it's all over.

Pick yourself up and walk away. You will gain TONS of self respect by doing this. Don't ever talk to her again.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Modro

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 31, 2004
Messages
421
Reaction score
1
Age
41
Vypros said:
Not that it matters.

Alcohol is just an excuse.

i know just wondering if it was the catalyst, its game over like i said though.

man i hate women sometimes, good luck though buddy
 

ryannath

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2006
Messages
715
Reaction score
3
Dump her. She didn't respect you enough not to cheat and if you forgive her, she will make your life a living hell and she will probably cheat on you somemore because she will lose ALL respect for you, and probably will dump you too. So dump her. You will feel so much better about yourself if you dump her and show her you don't take that crap. Also, be prepared for her to make it seem like your fault that she cheated. Like, "You weren't there for me emotionally", or some bs like that. And, if she says she was drunk, don't listen to her. It's just an excuse. I know what I am doing when I am drunk.
 

dap

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 19, 2006
Messages
275
Reaction score
7
Location
Durham Cali
You got to let her go. Do it in person though (not over the phone), and be nice about it. She'll probably start crying again; stay until she feels better, then get the **** out of there and go to the tittie bar
 

Jackman

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2006
Messages
184
Reaction score
5
Let's see...be a doormat or have some principle...doormat....principles.... Hmm...yeah, tough choice. Let me sleep on this one. I'll get back to you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

penkitten

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2001
Messages
8,255
Reaction score
235
Age
49
Location
at our house
she disrespected you in more ways than one. the cheating is a given, but to keep you on the phone for five hours just to explain the situation says that she thinks she is smarter than you. she thinks she can talk you into doing whatever she wants. she was being manipulative by crying to try to get the result she wanted.
she knew you needed time to think about it on your own and make your own choice on what you wanted to do from that point, and that is why she kept you on the phone, so that you wouldn't have it.
 

spread_love

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 29, 2006
Messages
131
Reaction score
0
You DO NOT need her, don't even tell her it's over...just move on...you owe it to yourself.
 

TruthHurts

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 27, 2007
Messages
159
Reaction score
1
Location
Boston
actions speak louder then words... she did what she wanted to do... would she cheat on Brad Pit? sorry man... she didnt care about you enough.. next her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Mindtrust

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 3, 2007
Messages
53
Reaction score
0
Get rid of the so called friend and the girl...

One chance, one chance only..

No need to have that in your life.

Mindtrust
 

NewDon

New Member
Joined
Apr 2, 2007
Messages
8
Reaction score
0
hey bro,

it sucks to be cheated on... here's two possible reasons why it happened...
1) you weren't 'alpha' enough for her... this other guy obviously was. she's wanted to cheat on you for a while i'm guessing, just hasn't been able to do it in the past cause she may have felt guilty (now she can blame the alcohol... and the guilt factor disappears)

or

2) she's experimenting still... you know how a lot of the guys on this site keep telling you to not get serious until you've dated and hooked up with a lot of chicks... and tell u to date multiple chicks... well that's what she's doing... it's called casual dating. but the fact that she didn't tell you that explicitly, and led u on, thinking what u had was monogamous makes her a skank... and a bit of an AW.
also, girls like her (which is most girls 20-25) love the rush of a new relationship... it's like an adventure for them... becoming close to a new guy, 'connecting' with him (all the other bullsh!t)...

don't beat yourself up over it... move on... make sure your happiness is never dependant on a woman. i firmly believe that most girls would cheat given the opportunity... the only way to stop this from happening is

1) make sure she's not an AW... and is menatally stable... (these girls you can't stop from cheating)
2) be the most alpha out of all the guys she knows... keep in mind alpha = good guy... not nice guy or jerk... and even though being a jerk works in the beginning, it won't make a girl stay... there are some good threads on here regarding how to be alpha in a LTR.
 

So pimp its scary

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2003
Messages
1,677
Reaction score
3
Age
44
Location
In the C-A-N-A-D-A-Eh!
The only reasonable solution is to drop the girl like a hot potato and not look back.

She cheated on you... try to find the areas where you went wrong so you won't make those same mistakes again...

forgot to remove the sig.
 

The Shocker

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 28, 2006
Messages
418
Reaction score
1
Location
With my parents
Do NOT dump her. Now I know some of you guys are like "WHA'???" Here's what he should do:

1. Call her and tell her that you're very hurt by what she's done, but think you can forgive her if she makes up for it.
2. Get her to come over to your house when your parents are not home.
3. Do the sickest **** you can think of to her sexually. Anal, fisting, anything you want. If she balks tell her that it's the only way you could be comfortable continuing the relationship.
4. Once you're completely satisfied, kick her ass out the door and never speak to her again.
 

S.S.N. 318

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 3, 2005
Messages
122
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
318/404 (South Coast)
spread_love said:
You DO NOT need her, don't even tell her it's over...just move on...you owe it to yourself.
:rockon: word up...Im da same way....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top