girl breaks no contact (need some input!)

[thorwynn]

girl A asked for no contact for a week since sunday, to make up her damn mind. but she broke up with me on facebook this tuesday. i removed her from my friends, just that and she immediately messaged me, and i didnt reply. yesterday she messaged me again during noontime, again i didnt reply. i was already dating another girl (B) during that time til 9pm in the evening, we got too drunk so i went home, and at the same time i was messaging a different girl (C) when i got back. well while i was sleeping girl A suddenly messages me twice; i received the messages 12:45AM i read it when i wokeup suddenly by 3AM. again i didnt reply.

Am I doing things correctly guys? what are your thoughts on this?

 

[betheman]

text..."you got what you asked for, what is your problem"

of course, if you want nothing more to do with her, dont repond at all
the fact she wanted a break says one of two things,
1) there is someone else
2) head games/wants more out of you

 

[thorwynn]

@betheman: if you'd be in my position what will you do?

 

[oneboy21]

HE already told you that throwynn
thats a best advice.
now you need to decide what you want to do

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

@betheman: if you'd be in my position what will you do?

She's a flake. I dealt with the same situation, but it wasn't a real gf. It was just a girl from online that I met a few times. Once I got sick of her games and delay tactics, I said: "Have a nice life, bye". She IMMEDIATELY changed course and tried to stop me from leaving her.

Look, she's only interested because she's losing you. You deleting her off FB made it real for her. She is spinning plates and doesn't want to lose you as an option. But that's all you are to her, an option. It is like when you get a job offer but you think there is a better one coming down the road. You try to use delay tactics as much as possible so that you don't miss a sure thing for something that could be better but is not 100% solid.

Forget her. Once a flake, always a flake.

 

[thorwynn]

oh ok man, i didnt get it during the first time i read his reply. any more thoughts on this

 

[thorwynn]

@tilltheendoftime: yeah that's what i was thinking since last week.

just to let u know, i was her 2nd bf, she came from a hardcore born-again christian family with her parents being a major factor on deciding on who will her partner be. well we became together without the approval of her parents, she is still a virgin, just as what she said...i was the first guy who worked up her body when i brought her to our house. she even cried. she doesnt even drink any other alcohol than red wine

our situation was her parents was interfering with her being with me (but her mom likes me), suddenly she hasnt "properly" moved on from her ex, who flaked on her with another girl and her parents doesnt even want him, well this guy was getting a little insecure from me from an info i got two weeks ago (he kept on saying my girl "you're unfair, what about your promises to me, you got a new one" while he got dumped by another girl). we were having little problems during that time, she started msging him over just to have a "proper breakup" with him. it was disrespectful for me so when she asked for a week to decide with her parents i started dating other girls i banged before asap.

well now the latest msgs i rcvd with which i didnt reply was:

1: "Im sorry, i know you'll understand, i want to focus my commitment to god. thank you and the lord bless you"

2: just a group message with a bible quote and have a blessed day ahead

3: i'll hope you'll continue to seek the lord even if we're not together anymore. i know u have hard feelings with me, but still you are with my prayers. and i know that even if you dont want to have any form of communication with me im still here for you if you will be needing me or not. ones that feeling of yours has healed, im still here. you can count on me, we can still be friends. just open your heart to the will of the lord. im blessed and thankful to god because i have known you *thorwynn* thank you and the lord bless you"

she just friggin LJBF'd me wtf, haha, well i didnt reply to any of those.

well what happened to that girl of yours when u said that? was she like "oh please let's get back together again?" haha...any more thought im just listening to you guys

 

[GhengisT]

@tilltheendoftime: yeah that's what i was thinking since last week.

just to let u know, i was her 2nd bf, she came from a hardcore born-again christian family with her parents being a major factor on deciding on who will her partner be. well we became together without the approval of her parents, she is still a virgin, just as what she said...i was the first guy who worked up her body when i brought her to our house. she even cried. she doesnt even drink any other alcohol than red wine.

our situation was her parents was interfering with her being with me (but her mom likes me), suddenly she hasnt "properly" moved on from her ex, who flaked on her with another girl and her parents doesnt even want him, well this guy was getting a little insecure from me from an info i got two weeks ago (he kept on saying my girl "you're unfair, what about your promises to me, you got a new one" while he got dumped by another girl). we were having little problems during that time, she started msging him over just to have a "proper breakup" with him. it was disrespectful for me so when she asked for a week to decide with her parents i started dating other girls i banged before asap. well so far shes not entertaining other guys yet since we broke up because i still got access to her accounts.

well now the latest msgs i rcvd with which i didnt reply was:

1: "Im sorry, i know you'll understand, i want to focus my commitment to god. thank you and the lord bless you"

2: just a group message with a bible quote and have a blessed day ahead

3: i'll hope you'll continue to seek the lord even if we're not together anymore. i know u have hard feelings with me, but still you are with my prayers. and i know that even if you dont want to have any form of communication with me im still here for you if you will be needing me or not. ones that feeling of yours is heald, im still here. you can count on me, we can still be friends. just open your heart to the will of the lord. im blessed and thankful to god because i have known you *thorwynn* thank you and the lord bless you"

she just friggin LJBF'd me wtf, haha, well i didnt reply to any of those.

well what happened to that girl of yours when u said that? was she like "oh please let's get back together again?" haha...any more thought im just listening to you guys

Psycho braud. Be glad she gone.

 

[thorwynn]

yo guys any more thoughts on my situation? im keeping my mind open to your opinions on what went wrong, and what i should have done.

 

[oneboy21]

You keeping too much effort and time in a chick you didn't even fock!
So just stop and look for new one's

 

[vatoloco]

Am I doing things correctly guys? what are your thoughts on this?

Holy shit, son! You, my friend, are a No Contact Master. You are doing everything by the book. I only wish more guys were like you and when they went NC, they stayed NC and not be like "Oh, I'm just gonna send her a little text..."

Keep up the good work!

Edit: Hardcore Christian girl trying to make herself feel better with her religious blabbering, huh? Sounds like a winner!

This girl is a Wrong Woman. You just dodged a huge bullet. You are one lucky bastard.

Go buy a lottery ticket or two. If you win, remember: "Daddy loves ya!"

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

@tilltheendoftime: yeah that's what i was thinking since last week.

just to let u know, i was her 2nd bf, she came from a hardcore born-again christian family with her parents being a major factor on deciding on who will her partner be. well we became together without the approval of her parents, she is still a virgin, just as what she said...i was the first guy who worked up her body when i brought her to our house. she even cried. she doesnt even drink any other alcohol than red wine

our situation was her parents was interfering with her being with me (but her mom likes me), suddenly she hasnt "properly" moved on from her ex, who flaked on her with another girl and her parents doesnt even want him, well this guy was getting a little insecure from me from an info i got two weeks ago (he kept on saying my girl "you're unfair, what about your promises to me, you got a new one" while he got dumped by another girl). we were having little problems during that time, she started msging him over just to have a "proper breakup" with him. it was disrespectful for me so when she asked for a week to decide with her parents i started dating other girls i banged before asap.

well now the latest msgs i rcvd with which i didnt reply was:

1: "Im sorry, i know you'll understand, i want to focus my commitment to god. thank you and the lord bless you"

2: just a group message with a bible quote and have a blessed day ahead

3: i'll hope you'll continue to seek the lord even if we're not together anymore. i know u have hard feelings with me, but still you are with my prayers. and i know that even if you dont want to have any form of communication with me im still here for you if you will be needing me or not. ones that feeling of yours is heald, im still here. you can count on me, we can still be friends. just open your heart to the will of the lord. im blessed and thankful to god because i have known you *thorwynn* thank you and the lord bless you"

she just friggin LJBF'd me wtf, haha, well i didnt reply to any of those.

well what happened to that girl of yours when u said that? was she like "oh please let's get back together again?" haha...any more thought im just listening to you guys

She wanted us to stay in touch. Out of the blue, unsolicited, she e-mails me her new cell number. I was like, "thanks, but I didn't ask you for it. Have a nice life."

We had a conversation and it ended up in me getting the true story out of her. She was spinning a plate and it fell and cracked to pieces. That's why she suddenly came back into the picture. By this time, I was already a bit of a DJ and not an AFC. I was smart enough to figure it out before she admitted it, but I just wanted to get it out of her.

So I left the relationship dead in the water. Just ignored it. Never contacted her again. I knew she was too much of a narcissist to bother me by phoning me. Her little narcissist ego would shatter. She wanted ME to do the chasing with her passive-aggressive bullsh1t, e-mailing me her new phone number. Common man. I can see through that.

Still no contact years later.

 

[thorwynn]

@tilltheendoftime: when did you have that "conversation" with her? did it take years or months? so you did not contact her ever again, but is she still contacting you until now? how many years since then? i just wanna find out from your experience.

 

[Love Me Do]

Dont even talk to that slut anymore

 

[thorwynn]

@vatoloco: yo dude, some people here keep on sorta talk bad in some of my threads i started. i admit, i got my own game too. im just only good in the beginning of the flirting and relationshpi stuff. the problem is that i cant "maintain" the relationship for too long. its just that when i things get awry i post my problems here. i developed my game by reading this forum since 2007, & became a member just last year in the forum. for me its a normal thing for DJs to lose a lot of times before they find quality women. its part of the learning curve right? im just keeping my mind open to all your opinions and with the other guys out there who might have had the same situation.

 

[bigneil]

People here will give you the harshest possible response any time a girl doesn't reply. That leads to all these rules and regulations.

But sometimes the girl is playing us because she wants us. Wait a few days and write as if nothing happened. .

 

[thorwynn]

hehe she just messaged me again tonight while i bought some books

girl: "i miss you! but i need to control my emotion "

still i did not reply.

 

[thorwynn]

@bigneil: i agree, sometimes we just need some of the harshest advice with the guys here in order to get over the woman, im just voicing out my opinion from my other threads 'cause i became too pathetic hehe

 

[bigneil]

WARNING: Whenever a girl breaks NC she is in SUPER SENSITIVE MODE.

The slightest thing (or nothing at all) will set her off, and your tendency is to apologize, but that is her game - to get YOU to apologize even though SHE broke NC. Don't do it.

Instead, if it happens, call her bluff and say something more risky as if you don't care if you offend her. Then wait her out and she'll spill the beans on her feelings.

 

[thorwynn]

@bigneil: what do you mean by this from your last message? i don't understand it properly can you please elaborate on this?

"The slightest thing (or nothing at all) will set her off, and your tendency is to apologize, but that is her game - to get YOU to apologize even though SHE broke NC. Don't do it."


"Instead, if it happens, call her bluff and say something more risky as if you don't care if you offend her. Then wait her out and she'll spill the beans on her feelings."