I met this girl through a friend about a year ago, and we'd only hang out when we were out with our mutual friend, who is really cool. Over time we became decent friends. The thing that frustrates me is that she's really flakey. We all hang out roughly every other weekend, but she flakes out almost as much as she actually comes out.
We all went out last night for drinks, and when our mutual friend left, we got to a bit of flirting. She was pretty fun to hang out with. I had to leave early because I work in the morning, but we made plans to meet up tonight for a free show that was playing in our area.
So fast forward to today, I text her when I'm on my way home from work, and told her since the weather sucks we shouldn't go to the show (it was an outside show). She said that's cool, how about you just come over to my place. I said I could come over a little later because I was still in traffic, and I'd call her. Then she texted me like 90 minutes later saying she was still not feeling well (she said she was really hungover from last night in our initial conversation) and asked for a rain check.
I still haven't responded because I am not sure if this is a sh!t test (why is she giving me one anyway??) or how I should respond. If I get mad I come off insecure and if I say no worries then I am encouraging that behavior. Considering she has a pretty full past of pulling stuff like this, it's not safe to say it won't happen again.
So, how do you deal with this? She's my friend and I don't want to cut off communication with her, but I'm getting frustrated with this type of behavior. I know it's not just me, because she flakes on her best friends all the time as well. She's a fun person to hang out with but she is getting hard to deal with.
Thoughts, on her, and how I respond tonight?
Thanks.
We all went out last night for drinks, and when our mutual friend left, we got to a bit of flirting. She was pretty fun to hang out with. I had to leave early because I work in the morning, but we made plans to meet up tonight for a free show that was playing in our area.
So fast forward to today, I text her when I'm on my way home from work, and told her since the weather sucks we shouldn't go to the show (it was an outside show). She said that's cool, how about you just come over to my place. I said I could come over a little later because I was still in traffic, and I'd call her. Then she texted me like 90 minutes later saying she was still not feeling well (she said she was really hungover from last night in our initial conversation) and asked for a rain check.
I still haven't responded because I am not sure if this is a sh!t test (why is she giving me one anyway??) or how I should respond. If I get mad I come off insecure and if I say no worries then I am encouraging that behavior. Considering she has a pretty full past of pulling stuff like this, it's not safe to say it won't happen again.
So, how do you deal with this? She's my friend and I don't want to cut off communication with her, but I'm getting frustrated with this type of behavior. I know it's not just me, because she flakes on her best friends all the time as well. She's a fun person to hang out with but she is getting hard to deal with.
Thoughts, on her, and how I respond tonight?
Thanks.