"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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girl bailed.. now what?

James Dean

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So long story short got a girl's number, outlined a little 'study' session for a college final, called her... She said she was in the caf and would call me later when she got back to her room and we could figure out what we wanted to do then.

I didn't think too much of it, lots of guys came over to my room and we watched Manchester United beat Arsenal. By the time the game was over, it was almost time for me to leave for the final and I realized she wasn't going to be calling. I said hell with it, went, took it in 15 minutes (she was there too of course, I ignored her presence).

I got back, put my stuff away, and headed to elevator. When I got to the bottom she was waiting to go up with some other girl I didn't know (we live close, she wasn't stalking me or anything). She asked me how I did, blah blah. I wanted to tell her "Thanks for the call, b1tch" but I refrained, said one line, and walked on my way.

I want to know how I should react to a girl not calling back. She had a solid 2 hour window to do it, and seemed like she was definitely going to. Maybe she forgot what she said and expected me to call. But honestly, that doesn't look like the case. I'm not going to beat myself up over it, probably just delete the number and blow her ass off. I don't have time for **** like this. More importantly, Man U won. Hell yeah.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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f283000

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1. Read the 2 strikes rule (see my signature)
2. Going by the 2 strikes rule give her another chance but this time show some INTENTION. Ask her out rather than pu$$yfoot your way again by asking her to study with you. This always seems to backfire as a way to seduce women. It's always the best option to show intention for the beginning.

Women aren't f**** guys they study with. That's just a fact of life brother.
 

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You can totally get laid through the study date, but I would not recommend it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Some people like to study by themselves. Or maybe she just wanted to be free from distractions. Give it another shot, then if all else fails call er quits.
 

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Wow, you took that real badly. Sorry to say but this happens all the time and as long as you're hitting on women, you can expect it to happen many times to come.

Best way to deal with it is to move on. Some girls are just indecisive, they love the attention, but when it comes to actually taking action, they run scared. Others have one particular guy on their mind (often an ex) and even though they know they should be moving on, they can't do it.

Unfortunately, you can't control the way they feel, so best thing you can do is just move on without burning any bridges as there may come a time when she's in a better frame of mind she'll get back to you.
 

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James Dean said:
So long story short got a girl's number, outlined a little 'study' session for a college final, called her... She said she was in the caf and would call me later when she got back to her room and we could figure out what we wanted to do then.

I didn't think too much of it, lots of guys came over to my room and we watched Manchester United beat Arsenal. By the time the game was over, it was almost time for me to leave for the final and I realized she wasn't going to be calling. I said hell with it, went, took it in 15 minutes (she was there too of course, I ignored her presence).

I got back, put my stuff away, and headed to elevator. When I got to the bottom she was waiting to go up with some other girl I didn't know (we live close, she wasn't stalking me or anything). She asked me how I did, blah blah. I wanted to tell her "Thanks for the call, b1tch" but I refrained, said one line, and walked on my way.

I want to know how I should react to a girl not calling back. She had a solid 2 hour window to do it, and seemed like she was definitely going to. Maybe she forgot what she said and expected me to call. But honestly, that doesn't look like the case. I'm not going to beat myself up over it, probably just delete the number and blow her ass off. I don't have time for **** like this. More importantly, Man U won. Hell yeah.
After reviewing your case, I have found you guilty of lack of attraction. This makes a girl just not that into you. If she was into you, she would've moved mountains to get by you. But I commend you for not worrying about this situation now. Regardless of the reason why she wasn't interested, the end result is the same; She's getting with another guy who's more interesting or has more to offer. You're not that guy. Just move on and jack off if you need to. That's my ruling.

Case closed.
 
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