"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girl at work is confusing me.

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I work at American Eagle in my local mall. There's this really hot girl I work with that seems different, it's hard to explain but here goes...

First off, I work with some ****y guys, who are funny and seem to do all the things a DJ should do, I notice their all flirty with this particular girl, but she just rolls her eyes or doesn't even smile whenever she hears them just being guys and talking, and being funny. They have more of a 'Wild and crazy' personality. I actually have a hard time NOT busting out laughing listening to how they talk and stuff.

Now I have more of a laid back, and calm personality. I'm not very funny, I can be ****y, but humor doesn't come naturally to me. But for some reason, this hot girl only smiles whenever I try to jump into a conversation and say something funny, even though nobody else thinks it is. A few times while I'm working I notice her just watching me talk to customers and such, and whenever I look over at her, she smiles at me. I think I am more good looking than the other guys there, but I don't have nearly as much personality. Do you think it sounds like she's into me? Because if she is, it confuses me that all I have going for me is looks, while the other guys, who still look good also, have alot more going for them in personality and such. Could looks really mean more? Or do you think it just varies from girl to girl?

Keep in mind, I do still portray alot of confidence in my body language and such, I'm just not nearly as social as the other guys.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Phyzzle said:
It could be looks, it could be those guys are TRYING TOO HARD to impress her.

Here's what you do:

Read the freakin' very 1st line of the freakin' very first post of "newbies start here" in the freakin' DJ Bible:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56520
I'm not a newbie.... I just have a certain rule that I don't date girls that I work with, it would make it awkward being there working with her. It was more of a question as "Why does she seem more into me when all the other guys I work with seem to be much better with women?" We're not even supposed to date girls we work with there, last time 2 people at work hooked up, they had to transfer one of them to another store. But she is hot, so I might consider it, I'd just have to keep it on the low-down. Not even sure how to go about it at work. Especially since being real flirty don't seem to work with the other guys.
 

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Hey, if you got a policy, that actually makes it LESS awkward.

Say, "hey, I'm not allowed to ask, but we should hang out sometime. You could give me your number." If she's not interested, she has a very easy way out, "Oh, we're really not allowed." That will prevent most awkwardness, if you wanted to try it. She can say no without rejecting you.

But who cares why she likes you? Humor is great, but it isn't everything. Go ahead and try.
 

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DON'T WONDER.

that is a waste of life! why wonder when you can find out?

NOT by confessing your love or some shyt like that....

JUST ASK HER OUT!

RIGHT THERE AND THEN, you will have your answer on whether she's into you or not.

DO NOT WONDER.

delta
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dude.. you're working a minimum wage job. who gives a fuċk if you hook up with your co-workers. it's not like you will ruin your career by hooking up with her. worse case scenario is you have to find another minimum wage job, and if you're in a big city, that isn't hard to do at all.
 
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