"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl at work..Hb 9.5

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Alright with all the signs this girl gives me would lead me to think shes interested but she still throws her ***** shield up at random moments. This girl loves to flirt, when I give her neghits and throw in some ****y and funny lines she loves it and even has some cute comebacks of her own. Theres alot of kino that goes on between us but everytime I mention that we should hang out or say something about kissing the ***** shield comes up.(bTw she got my number but never called saying shes been busy)

She does have a bf(AFC) but she never talks about him. The other day she told me they got in a fight and was showing me these text msges he sent her about how much loves her blah blah. I started to play with it telling her she should tell him its not you its me and that they should spend some time apart so she could figure her self out. He end up coming to visit her at work she just gave him a hug and they talked for a min that was it.

Alright lemme get to the point I started to get the feeling that she playing me for a dumbass and thats shes just an attention wh0re so I blew her off telling her i dont like her ect.. and continued to ignore her the rest of the shift. She came back trying to apologize for whatever she did wrong asking to shake my hands still wanting to be friends. I just told her was hand was to dirty and walked off.

Did I do the right thing blowing her off like that? I kind of feel bad cuz I was really starting to like her and I know she likes me but I just felt shes playing with my emotions and if I didnt do this I end up falling for her and getting hurt. Btw shes the religious type goes to church every sunday.

Any advice or questions would be appreciated thanx..:rockon:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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It does sound like shes just using you for the attention.

It's obvious that she enjoys your attention but you want more and she doesn't.

You've got balls to end it like that. That was the right thing to do. I don't think you should have lied about dirty hands. That's lame. When she reached over to shake your hand, you should have been honest and told her that you don't want to be friends.

Fack the religious type... bleh
 

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Don't EVER let a girl get you mad. It shows definite weakness in your ability to handle yourself and it also comes off as insecure. If she acts and plays like an attention *****, then she probably is one (and that's what your giving her so it seems).. but that's just her personality and playing with people's emotions is what they prefer to do. You shouldn't get all emotionally unstable, have a grudge against her, and do nothing about it. Try to start a regular conversation with her to get things rollin again or that negative vibe (mainly on your side so it seems) between you 2 will stick... good luck
 

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Originally posted by driveon
It does sound like shes just using you for the attention.

It's obvious that she enjoys your attention but you want more and she doesn't.

You've got balls to end it like that. That was the right thing to do. I don't think you should have lied about dirty hands. That's lame. When she reached over to shake your hand, you should have been honest and told her that you don't want to be friends.

Fack the religious type... bleh
Thanks for the response driveon its just that she show such high interest its like shes not letting herself get any closer to me. Everytime I have a chat with her if I throw a C&f its the first thing shes back talkin to her friends about. She remembers things I told her when we first met and when she brings it up it like brings us closer. If she were to tell me she never saw me "that way" I would just wonder how she could fix her mouth to say that. I get her blushing all the time calling her on it blahhhh..........

I'm going to a baseball game now and plan on making some cold approaches to get my mind off this trick peacee...
 

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Originally posted by sensefull
Don't EVER let a girl get you mad. It shows definite weakness in your ability to handle yourself and it also comes off as insecure. If she acts and plays like an attention *****, then she probably is one (and that's what your giving her so it seems).. but that's just her personality and playing with people's emotions is what they prefer to do. You shouldn't get all emotionally unstable, have a grudge against her, and do nothing about it. Try to start a regular conversation with her to get things rollin again or that negative vibe (mainly on your side so it seems) between you 2 will stick... good luck
Yeah I was actually planning on talking to her again but kinda starting over this time. I'm just gonna be more of a friend like she "says" she wants just not give her all that attention thats shes used to me giving her. I'm just gonna be cool with her and move on.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stop being such a pu$$y!! Dood you did the right thing blowing this chick off, she's playing you for a dummy!!! Let tell you something. All girls LOVE to flirt, with guys. Doesn't matter if your good looking, ugly, short, tall, skinny or fat!! However if she's unwilling to hang out with you alone, there's NO REAL INTEREST on her part.

She might like the way you flirt with her and remember things you've said to her, but look at what her ACTIONS are saying:

-I'm too busy
-I have a bf


Be glad your not the tool aka bf who probably doesn't trust her worth shiat, and always wonders if he's going to lose her (total AFC). And you should know that you never give out your number to a girl expecting her to make the first move. She probably put your number in a drawer with all the other chumps who have been drooling over her.


MOVE ON!



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