"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl at work, close, wants me, but I hope I know better

Poonani Maker

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She's worked with me, just me and her, for One day, two years ago. We see each other periodically each weekday evening, maybe 3 times a week. She's Still not LTR but has many dudes after, fo sho cause she's decent, but these dudes are All lower-level. She sees me as the Answer to her life just drifting along with not much purpose. Her name is pretty, and I've really never ever met another woman named that first name. Tonight she was on her knees asking me a question looking back up at me *think d!ck-suck position, me standing* can't say I wasn't drawn in by her big eyes. I answered her question, but she still sought other others' answers for confirmation of what I said was true. She didn't want to go on my rock solid experienced-backed info, even after I told her why she needn't question any further because of the numerous times I've been down that road. Others in the office see us as a potential match, and have tried to bring us together.

I believe it's a trap, for me. That nothing good could ever come of it, being that these are my most Immediate co-workers who I see almost every day. It's just not a good idea, I've been fired (indirectly) 8 years ago for getting tangled up with a female co-worker.

My family is Really pressuring me to get married these days cause ALL of my brothers, and cousins (except 2 girl cousins) are married and having children. These last 2 years my parents (mainly my mom) has been, basically, pleading with me to find someone to marry (I think, cause her sister's son's wife is now spitting out kids finally). Seriously feeling the pressure, but I tell them ALL about Our So-Suave lines of thought about American women, about the hypergamy (a term NO ONE knows about and look like color-me-stupid frowns on their faces anytime you mention the term), about the *****dom of Most of this country's women these days, the divorce laws, the courts, the Misery that Most Guys endure while being Attached at the hip to these entitled biatches. How it wasn't always like this in the very distant past, where..women back then half of the time lived in fvcking Fear of her own husband, because A) She couldn't just go out and get a fvckin job B) She couldn't get child-support, alimony, the house, and on and on if she just one day FELT like leaving and C) Her survival minus being an old maid sooner-rather-than-later somewhere in darkness or a mental hospital, totally hinged on the ONE man that she was "stuck" with, that she chose, "for better or worse."

I tell them that it's just too bad, that I could lose All that I've worked for or get severely set-back in my mid-life living EVEN IF I had kids with proposed American woman. I've seen it within the past year to my co-workers I mean even just recently we had a family appreciation shindig with photos donuts etc etc and I guess that NOW they'd better be taking down those photos of two of the family we celebrated at work, cause they are No More! DIEvoreced as of last month for one, and mid-last year for the other. Seriously, I see these very hard working male buds, get shafted by their wives Even Though they Both have 2-3 Young daughters and sons.

My fam says I "must take risks" that life's short, and that I Must start settling down Now!!! they think it's getting sad for me. Do or die time, "you don't want to be alone, do you?" etc etc. Hah, this is coming from people who, they themselves have divorced and are not married (But have had children, see there, we risked it, we tried). For real, really?? when it's now worse than it's ever been? due to our societal restructuring to ensure the male to Fail! yeah right. They call it risk, I kinda call it suicide to legally bind myself to a 80%-chance-she's-a-wh0re, wh0re.

And these women Only see me for my money, and that's a fact. Maybe pretty good looks for a 37 yr old but lets be real is, $$ in these biatches' eyes blinkin' why not she entertain the numerous offers from much further behind YOUNGER dudes who I know she's getting bombarded with? I know exactly why, she sees me as the Big Time, as a upper echelon upgrade to leave these scabbers behind, but I Know, that even if I were to take her in, she'd STILL have that option to Drop me, Take a cut of my Dough, and recitivism backward to the scabbers should she one day, grow Bored of me. Why in the Fvck would I Risk my life on that...today's option-full American woman. It's like an option that expires worthless for the man in the end, at maturity always, yet expires In The Money for the woman in the end, at maturity always. What man would Buy such an option? It's like bonds today, on one ever makes any money on bonds, so why in the Fvck does some muther fvcker ever buy one of them financial instruments? You're losing money always.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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