"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hey guys, well lets get straight to the post shall we. i am new to this and i would like to know how i should proceed with this situation.. i've been at this school since 9th grade(bout to be in 12th) i am not shy at all but i have major problem about not being serious enough. In other words, i play around to much. i know i am attractive some even call me conceded but i haven't had a girl since 7th grade(sad but true) but i have been working on it and i managed to have simple conversations with some girls that are in my class 1 in which i'm interested in. anyways after school today the one i was interested in was sitting alone and i decided to walk up to her i said "looks like alex left you alone" she smiled and said yeah and told me to sit with her i sat down and we talked for like 10 mins which was really good considering i play to much haha the best part was when her ride showed up she said "my rides here already!" by that time it was around 4:30 an hour after we get out of school and the odd thing was that it was the normal time she gets picked up so i took it as if she was sad she was leaving. i was gonna get her number but i felt like she wouldn't have time to write it down. what should i do now guys?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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puaprodigy said:
hey guys, well lets get straight to the post shall we. i am new to this and i would like to know how i should proceed with this situation.. i've been at this school since 9th grade(bout to be in 12th) i am not shy at all but i have major problem about not being serious enough. In other words, i play around to much. i know i am attractive some even call me conceded but i haven't had a girl since 7th grade(sad but true) but i have been working on it and i managed to have simple conversations with some girls that are in my class 1 in which i'm interested in. anyways after school today the one i was interested in was sitting alone and i decided to walk up to her i said "looks like alex left you alone" she smiled and said yeah and told me to sit with her i sat down and we talked for like 10 mins which was really good considering i play to much haha the best part was when her ride showed up she said "my rides here already!" by that time it was around 4:30 an hour after we get out of school and the odd thing was that it was the normal time she gets picked up so i took it as if she was sad she was leaving. i was gonna get her number but i felt like she wouldn't have time to write it down. what should i do now guys?
Nahhhh don't play...you were afraid to ask her and now you're trying to justify it to yourself...

Some of you guys have a lot to learn. These journals, especially those by NDJ and I show our transformations from virgins to DJs, and it can show you how we THOUGHT vs. how we now THINK.

Basically you over-analyzed the hell out of this situation. Next time you see her just say something like "hey, so I wanted to get your number the other day but you seemed like you were in a bit of a rush..."

If she's interested she'll give you her number. If she dodges it, not interested, simple. Trial and error dude, how do you think people get good at anything? By having the instructions put in front of them every time? How would these people succeed when the instructions are taken away...

LEARN DAMMIT!
 

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Sounds like its going good so far. Is Alex her boyfriend or...? If he is, he might be a problem. Watch out for that. I hope you established some type of kino while talking to her by the way. Especially when she had to go, thats a free hug guarantee.
But what BPH said, get her number soon. Dont ASK for it though, ask her in a way that isn't a question. But be polite, you're a funny dude this should be a breeze.
 

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puaprodigy said:
"looks like alex left you alone"
Hittin' on my girl b1tch?!:box:
 

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BPH i understand what your sayin but i'm pretty sure i wasn't scared to ask for her number we were alone so getting rejected wouldn't have even phased me alex is just her friend not that it matters anyways haha
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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puaprodigy said:
BPH i understand what your sayin but i'm pretty sure i wasn't scared to ask for her number we were alone so getting rejected wouldn't have even phased me alex is just her friend not that it matters anyways haha
Oh really?

Then why didn't you ask an attractive girl that you want to have sex with for her number when you had the opportunity? Please tell.
 

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bph if your not gonna be helpful gtfo my post i had already explained to you the reason. Unless your some therapist that knows me personally you shouldn't be saying sh1t about my way of thinking unless i ask you to.
 

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bph if your not gonna be helpful gtfo my post i had already explained to you the reason. Unless your some therapist that knows me personally you shouldn't be saying sh1t about my way of thinking unless i ask you to.
You were clearly too scared to ask, don't attack the guy for saying it. You were one on one with the girl and couldn't ask for her number because "she wouldn't have time to write it down". You're obviously making an excuse, relax we all pvssy out from time to time.
 

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no offense guys but now that i think about it i see you guys say stuff like don't over analyze it and the truth is that is exactly what you guys are doing with all these routines and in depth psychology on women that is not needed at all. this one guy even told me to make pu a lifestyle not a hobby and i was literally shocked i guess i'm trying to say pu is useless srry for posting on here i thought that you guys would be helpful. all you really got to do is talk and touch that's all it is so why all this other b/s?


PUAPRODIGIES RESIGNATION :cool: :cool:
 

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puaprodigy said:
no offense guys but now that i think about it i see you guys say stuff like don't over analyze it and the truth is that is exactly what you guys are doing with all these routines and in depth psychology on women that is not needed at all. this one guy even told me to make pu a lifestyle not a hobby and i was literally shocked i guess i'm trying to say pu is useless srry for posting on here i thought that you guys would be helpful. all you really got to do is talk and touch that's all it is so why all this other b/s?
puaprodigy said:
hey guys, well lets get straight to the post shall we. i am new to this and i would like to know how i should proceed with this situation.. i've been at this school since 9th grade(bout to be in 12th) i am not shy at all but i have major problem about not being serious enough. In other words, i play around to much. i know i am attractive some even call me conceded but i haven't had a girl since 7th grade(sad but true) but i have been working on it and i managed to have simple conversations with some girls that are in my class 1 in which i'm interested in. anyways after school today the one i was interested in was sitting alone and i decided to walk up to her i said "looks like alex left you alone" she smiled and said yeah and told me to sit with her i sat down and we talked for like 10 mins which was really good considering i play to much haha the best part was when her ride showed up she said "my rides here already!" by that time it was around 4:30 an hour after we get out of school and the odd thing was that it was the normal time she gets picked up so i took it as if she was sad she was leaving. i was gonna get her number but i felt like she wouldn't have time to write it down. what should i do now guys?
To me it sounds like you're the one who's doing the over-analyzing.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yes alex i realized that that's why i'm just gonna go with my instinct
Which is? im curious to know.

Also let me note that in reconstructing himself a man has to first discover what is wrong with him by way of analyzing, and then make habit those new attributes which he has learned. In short, over-analyzing is advantageous in the long run.
 

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Listen. If you want to get good with girls, you need to try and fail. You WILL NOT succeed at first. You will fail.

How do you think I got good? By knowing the routines to run on girls and knowing exactly what to say? F*** NO!

You are not different and you are not special. I want to see guys like you succeed, I really do, but in order for that to happen, you have to submit your ego, accept that what you know now is wrong, and try to learn through trial and error.

There is no METHOD that works for everybody, because everybody is different. Go ahead, try Mystery Method or Gunwitch. I guarantee you will have no success until you find what works specifically for YOU. I'm not here to bully you, I'm here to let you know when you're being honest with yourself, and when you're being dishonest to spare your ego.
 

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Puaprodigy, you do not understand the mentality of this forum or how to be successful with people. When someone on the Internet criticizes you, don't take it personally, analyze the statement to see if it's true first. If it isn't true, know WHY it isn't true. If it is true, learn from it!

This forum is about self improvement, not routines. When you post here and ask for advice (the obvious answer to the original post was get her number. Even you knew this) part of our job as forum members is to break down the patterns that are keeping you weak.

Once we break those down, you go in and start building up new patterns yourself. Do not cling to your old mindset. Grow! Evolve!
 

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Jesus Christ puaprodigy, break up your sentences. I can't read your posts.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i think we are similar in nature bro.. i too get a lot of female attention but i am either to lazy to respond or too shy to ask them out..if a girl looks at me or i must says stares at me, what does it mean? am i too weird looking or she wants to talk to me? O LORD when will ifind my loved one.
 
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