"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl at Restaurant

knglerxt

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I was at this local fast-food restaurant that I frequent, and as I was waiting for my milkshake I saw this girl out of the corner of my eye. I turned around to look at her, and she was looking right at me. We made eye contact. This girl actually works there, but I guess she was on her break or something because she was sitting in a booth smoking a cigarette, not behind the counter or anything.

After I got my milkshake, I started walking towards the door, and out of the blue she says "Have a nice day." I looked at her and said "You too." She was also touching her hair as she said it.

Now maybe she was just being nice, but I sensed some attraction there. If she had been working behind the counter and said that, I wouldn't have thought too much about it, since customer service people are paid to be nice. But, like I said, she was on her break and sitting in a booth, so it kind of came out of nowhere. Plus, I get looks from girls all the time, but they rarely just up and speak to me like that.

Some of you have probably seen some of my other posts on this site, so you know I have some problems in this area. What's the best way to go about talking to her? Should I wait a couple weeks to go back in there, or go back tomorrow and say something to her to make it more obvious that I like her? By the way, this girl is probably a HB8.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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holy **** man.

you didn't do anything about a girl that actually talked FIRST?

quit making it difficult and say hi.

she'll say hi back and you ask her if shes on break. BAM! instant convo, and it'll branch out from there.

well your PERFECT opportunity passed... go back WHENEVER you feel like it... day doesn't even matter... but seriously that was the perfect opportunity.

"...and say something to her to make it more obvious that I like her?"

yeah you "like" her... are you one of the people who fall head over heels about someone too fast? you don't know her, so you don't like her... you just think shes a pretty girl... don't start getting emotionally attached when you don't even know her... lmao.

anyway... go when you feel like it... and just say hi. don't have a conversation ready... just have a few topics to talk about that can relate to your opener.

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introduce yourself... dont apologize, but tell her you were in a rush the other day.

if she asks why... branch it out from there.
 

knglerxt

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Michele said:
"...and say something to her to make it more obvious that I like her?"

yeah you "like" her... are you one of the people who fall head over heels about someone too fast? you don't know her, so you don't like her... you just think shes a pretty girl... don't start getting emotionally attached when you don't even know her... lmao.

Nah. I'm not like that. By "like her", I meant I like the way she looks.

I'll do what you said. I'll just go in there when I feel like it and say something to her.
 

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Man I'm actually more concerned that there's some nasty-ass fast food restaurant that lets their employees smoke in the booths.
 

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knglerxt said:
Some of you have probably seen some of my other posts on this site, so you know I have some problems in this area. What's the best way to go about talking to her? Should I wait a couple weeks to go back in there, or go back tomorrow and say something to her to make it more obvious that I like her? By the way, this girl is probably a HB8.
I'd give it FIVE YEARS. Then go back in and ask her out.















lol Of course you should go back in. The IOI's where off the charts man. SHE ACTUALLY SPOKE TO YOU FIRST! Damn, man, that's like spoonfeeding you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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