"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was at the library a few minutes ago, and I saw a girl that I had a class with last Fall. She's this hot, petite blonde. I'd say she's a 9 out of 10. I looked at her as I passed by, and she looked back at me. This is probably the third time I've seen her off campus. There's a good chance she's single because she's always alone when I see her.

The thing that really gets me is I didn't do anything. I didn't wave, or say "Hello". I just walked by. This really makes me get down on myself. Most guys my age have had girlfriends, yet I can't even say "Hello" to a girl in passing at the library. This has got to be the most frustrating thing I've ever experienced.

Tomorrow is my birthday. I'll be 25 years old. And still single.....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Just come to the library so often and say Hi to her each time. Then later say "Hi How Are?". The later ask her if she recomends any books on i.e. cooking. Then later ask her out for coffee etc.
Libraby pick ups are generall quite easy. She cant walk away from you since she's supoose to be working.
 
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All you have to do is try. Say hello and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, there are other women.
 
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Freddy1 said:
Just come to the library so often and say Hi to her each time. Then later say "Hi How Are?". The later ask her if she recomends any books on i.e. cooking. Then later ask her out for coffee etc.
Libraby pick ups are generall quite easy. She cant walk away from you since she's supoose to be working.
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Actually, she doesn't work at the library. She was just there looking up a book or something on the computer. It would be a lot easier if she did work there.

The Fall semester is about to start, though, so I should see her around campus.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I agree w/ MightyMate on this.
Just say the obvious - that you've seen her around - what is your name - what's your major, ect. Shouldn't be too hard. Sounds like your nervous about this ONE girl because of her looks - get over it, and don't hang your hat on making her your one and only. Just talk to her to see how she responds - favorable? Unfavorable? The only way to find out is to say a few words in her direction that will cause her to say something back.

Never know, it may turn into something, or it may not. Either way, you WIN. The next time you see a girl you'd like to talk to, you will have had the experience of what happened with this other one....and on, and on, and on.....
 
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