"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl at a Swimming Lesson

amoka

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I though I got things under control untill I messed up with a girl. I am taking a swimming lesson and there is this girl in the class who had a great interest in me. At first I played it cool and acted as if I have no interest in her. Then, I got her number. I never called her untill after about two weeks. I scheduled for a date but she said she had other plans. It was my fault, I know. I scheduled the date for the same day I called. (#1 rule of DJ skills violated.) Anyway, we see each other twice a week at the swimming lesson. Last friday I called her to go practice swimming together but she said she was watching a movie and that she will call back after the movie but she never called. It did not bother me. I saw her today at the swimming lesson but we never spoke. I used the opportunity to chat with other girls in the class and I think she was not pleased with it. (This is just a speculation). I know it was the wrong thing for me to not talk to her. And it looks childish, at best. Anyway, I will be seeing her in few days. I would like to know if it would be wrong of me to talk to her about her not calling or simply talk to her and not bring up the case that she did not call. What do you all think?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't overthink it. Just act like nothing happened and take her for a drink, look out for any other signs of flaky/wackjob behaviour, and bail out if she starts talking about how much she hates her parents or her medication.
 

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the fact that you didnt call her is no big deal given you were seeing her twice a week at swimming class.

so why is she acting hte way she is?

simple.

1) women love drama (ie. not talking to you at class)
2) women love making men chase them (ie. not calling you back)

now a mature woman would do the opposite. she wouldn't make you chase her and she wouldn't create drama.

so this woman, in my opinion, is immature.

but while you are sitting there trying to figure her out. shes probably sitting there trying to figure you out, trying to figure out why you aren't making an effort to overcome her sh*t test (ie. her not calling you back).

this is how lots of women have been conditioned to treat men. if you think its bad now, hook up with her and see how bad it gets a month or two down the road.

my advice, stay away from women who play these kinds of games. the moment a woman disrespects you - and not calling you bakc when she said she would is disrespect - you should forget about her and move on.

there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
 

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Never question your behaviour, you played it cool. It's her that's wack. Keep chatting up the other broads.. talk to her like you would a friend for now.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amoka said:
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.. Last friday I called her to go practice swimming together but she said she was watching a movie and that she will call back after the movie but she never called.

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Why would you even consider dating a woman who broke the FIRST promise she made to you.
NEXT !

This woman is a self absorbed brat who believes that she is entitled to be pursued by men and she is also ENTITLED to act with disrespect because she wears a skirt and has perky tits . Teach her a lesson -
NEXT !
 

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Glad to know I did nothing wrong by ignoring her. Thanks guys.
 

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Hmm maybe I'm too tolerant of flaky bytches... how ironic
 
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