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Girl asks questions about me/family?

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alright so this hb8.5 was over at my house yesterday, I had some people over and my parents were out. So originally everyone was in my room, she looks at the guitar and asks if I play. I said yes and my dad's in a band so we have alot of guitars. Anyways she seemed interested so I told her I'll show her the basement where everythings at.

So me and her go down there, anyways, I flirt with her a little and tease her about playing guitar. But she seemed intrigued and was asking quesitons about if I was a only child, pictures, etc.


Regardless, I'm going to go for it. But is it a sign of intrest if shes asking questions about you and all that?
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
Yes it is.But don't give her your life story.
lol I did'nt, I was very vague about everything.

I don't mean to sound ike a newbie asking annoying questions, But I've never been really in a situation where the girl was asking quesitons about myself. I was always the one asking questions about her
 

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Great question.

In case some of the great DJs here read this, I also have some answers that need answering:

Here's the deal, today I went out with chick. And we went on her car. So when I'm getting of the car, she asks me "do you lock the door or do I lock it?" So, I'm wondering, was she sarcastic, was she attacking me, or was she genuinely asking that?

On saturday, I went out with another chick. Now, I saw this hb I knew from years before, and I felt as she was looking at me, so I asked her to look over to see if she was, so she told me "no, she isn't" and continued talking. Was this a sign of dis-interest? Was she jealous? Was the hb really looking at me and she decided not to tell me? Do you guys think I shouldn't have asked her that?

OH, and finally, I almost forgot. Today, I was going to the gym, and this hb I'm dating saw me and "holla'd" at me, and asked me why I was going so soon to the gym. Do you guys the fact that she said hi was a good sign? Or was she upset? Was she impressed that I was going to the gym, or was she making fun of me because I don't have a bodybuilder body, but was going to the gym? Oh, and she asked me out, do you think she was making fun of me, or was she genuinely interested in going out with me?

Maybe you can help me out bearfan... or any of the great DJ's out there. I'm freaking out here, don't know what to do, it's crazy here.
 

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SamePendo said:
Great question.

In case some of the great DJs here read this, I also have some answers that need answering:

Here's the deal, today I went out with chick. And we went on her car. So when I'm getting of the car, she asks me "do you lock the door or do I lock it?" So, I'm wondering, was she sarcastic, was she attacking me, or was she genuinely asking that?

On saturday, I went out with another chick. Now, I saw this hb I knew from years before, and I felt as she was looking at me, so I asked her to look over to see if she was, so she told me "no, she isn't" and continued talking. Was this a sign of dis-interest? Was she jealous? Was the hb really looking at me and she decided not to tell me? Do you guys think I shouldn't have asked her that?

OH, and finally, I almost forgot. Today, I was going to the gym, and this hb I'm dating saw me and "holla'd" at me, and asked me why I was going so soon to the gym. Do you guys the fact that she said hi was a good sign? Or was she upset? Was she impressed that I was going to the gym, or was she making fun of me because I don't have a bodybuilder body, but was going to the gym? Oh, and she asked me out, do you think she was making fun of me, or was she genuinely interested in going out with me?

Maybe you can help me out bearfan... or any of the great DJ's out there. I'm freaking out here, don't know what to do, it's crazy here.
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squirrels said:
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
It's not a laughing matter, and it hurts my feelings that you laughed at me and didn't help me. I'm going crazy here.

Something very odd happened to me tonight.

This chick, grabs my lower back, and turns me so that I spoke to her. And then starts talking with me like for 10 minutes. Do you guys think that she was trying do delay me in whatever I was going to do in the day? Or maybe she was just asking me stuff so that she could laugh at me for it. She also told me that I should dance with her. Was it a test? Should I have said something when she said that? Should I have said something DJish like "men don't dance, we fight!"? Or maybe something alpha like "dancing is for women and ponces, I'm a man"!?

Turns out we're meeting on thursday, what do you think I should wear? Should I ask her about her family?
 

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What the F*ck???

Okay, first it's rude to hijack someone's thread. Open your own nex time.

Answer to first question: Sounds to me like she possibly sees you as a friend. Have you made it obvious you like her? If you have, then she may just want some information, get to know you better. Not all communication comes from body language.

Second question: No idea about the first one. Okay, that could have come across that you were checking out other girls instead of her. Put it this way. How would you feel if your date asked you if some guy was checking her out? Next one, you're dating the girl so of course she's going to say hello. And she was probably making small talk about the gym.

So a girl grabs you in the street to talk to you. Sounds like she just wanted to talk to you. I don't see why she would want to laugh at what you say if she doesn't even know you. Where were you two when she asked you to dance? If you weren't in an appropriate place (bar, nightclub, etc) then that would be a weird question. And DJ's and PUA's do dance, depends on what sort of dance of course.

I get that you like to ask about specific situations, I do too but your questions are all based on the negative aspects of the interaction. You need to take a step back and realise that most of these women are approaching 'you', which they wouldn't do unless there was some interest. Hope I've helped.
 
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SamePendo said:
It's not a laughing matter, and it hurts my feelings that you laughed at me and didn't help me. I'm going crazy here.

Something very odd happened to me tonight.

This chick, grabs my lower back, and turns me so that I spoke to her. And then starts talking with me like for 10 minutes. Do you guys think that she was trying do delay me in whatever I was going to do in the day? Or maybe she was just asking me stuff so that she could laugh at me for it. She also told me that I should dance with her. Was it a test? Should I have said something when she said that? Should I have said something DJish like "men don't dance, we fight!"? Or maybe something alpha like "dancing is for women and ponces, I'm a man"!?

Turns out we're meeting on thursday, what do you think I should wear? Should I ask her about her family?
I just vomited in my toilet after hearing that
 

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bearfan34201 said:
alright so this hb8.5 was over at my house yesterday, I had some people over and my parents were out. So originally everyone was in my room, she looks at the guitar and asks if I play. I said yes and my dad's in a band so we have alot of guitars. Anyways she seemed interested so I told her I'll show her the basement where everythings at.

So me and her go down there, anyways, I flirt with her a little and tease her about playing guitar. But she seemed intrigued and was asking quesitons about if I was a only child, pictures, etc.


Regardless, I'm going to go for it. But is it a sign of intrest if shes asking questions about you and all that?
When two people talk about each other's family it's usually (note I said two people) an indicator that they both want to know about each other mutually and that in itself is an Indicator of Interest (IOI.) You asking about her family and her not returning the favor is not IOI. In any case if the female is CURIOUS.. sincerely curious about your family/history it is clear IOI. A girl that just asks broad/vague questions or using "What about you question after she spent 5-10 minutes blabbing" is not IOI.

It's good, Go for another meeting and bump it up.
 

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Na, she seemed interested in my family and was asking questions about me, I did'nt even have to keep the convo going. She was asking alot bout me.

I'm trying to set something up with her, But its hard. Shes actually a high-demand girl, and I'm in highschool. So you know how those girls go. I did'nt get her number, Was'nt afraid of getting her number, just did'nt have my cell on me.


We'll see what happens, I got about 4-5 girls I'm working on right now. Potentially up to 6
 

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just a little update for you guys, Talked to that girl tonight at a party. We talked outside for a few and she asked me why I didnt talk to her tonight and some other bull****. I go "we'll talk more nextime, whats ur number". She told me she seriously wants me to call her, blah blah. So I'm hoping to work on that, I need to display something more than the other guys that leech around her.


She called me on my way home for some reason and asked "who is this" I was confused cause she called me, I told her it was bearfan and I asked why she called she goes "ohh I'm just making sure you got my number. bye". Or some bull**** lol.

Lookin good. onward we go!
 

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So it looks like she's interetsed.



How would you gus approach this, shes very "in demand" w/guys. This is the only girl I'm stumped on, Because guys are all over her.
 
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