Girl asks me to be exclusive then next day she has regrets..

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Fri night. We got a lil tipsy had sex. Then after that she asked to be exclusive. I accepted. The next day we didn't hang out but she called me up just to verify that we both agreed to be exclusive. Then we hangout sunday and she is in a real bad mood. I can tell she isnt excited to be around me and I was thinking about asking her to leave but before that even happened she went to my room started crying over her ex tbat passed away. Then left my place. She texts me this morning offering to go to lunch. I declined because Im busy. Im getting the feeling that my value is dropping to her. Should I just not contact or hangout with her for a week or so. Then revisit this?

 

[5string]

No. Replace her.

 

[Iceberg]

I'd probably start becoming distant with her.

Sounds like now that she knows she can have you, she's lost the thrill of the chase. And if that's the case, she's not the type of woman you want to be exclusive with anyway.

 

[bigneil]

She asked to be exclusive. I accepted. The next day we didn't hang out but she called me up just to verify that we both agreed to be exclusive. Then we hangout sunday and she is in a real bad mood. I can tell she isnt excited to be around me ... Im getting the feeling that my value is dropping to her.

This is nearly the exact, precise thing that happened to me (though I dodged the exclusive question). On Date #10 she wanted to talk about "What are we?" Then on Date #11 she was fine that night but the morning after she was in a bad mood and didn't seem as (100%) excited as she had.

I think part of it is this: by the time a woman is asking YOU for a commitment, her interest level is about 95%. From that point, there's nowhere to go but down, so it feels anticlimactic. It's like in The Art of Seduction. The last chapter is Beware the After Effects. We've already successfully seduced these women. To maintain them, we must periodicaly re-seduce them because once we reach the pinnacle, there is a natural decine. Sort of like a team on a winning streak after a loss. They are 11-1 but feel down.

In my case it's been 16 days NC so that's what I recommend.

 

[5string]

This is nearly the exact, precise thing that happened to me (though I dodged the exclusive question). On Date #10 she wanted to talk about "What are we?" Then on Date #11 she was fine that night but the morning after she was in a bad mood and didn't seem as (100%) excited as she had.

I think part of it is this: by the time a woman is asking YOU for a commitment, her interest level is about 95%. From that point, there's nowhere to go but down, so it feels anticlimactic. It's like in The Art of Seduction. The last chapter is Beware the After Effects. We've already successfully seduced these women. To maintain them, we must periodicaly re-seduce them because once we reach the pinnacle, there is a natural decine. Sort of like a team on a winning streak after a loss. They are 11-1 but feel down.

In my case it's been 16 days NC so that's what I recommend.

bigneil

I thought you and your woman were getting along fine? What's up?

 

[cordoncordon]

This is nearly the exact, precise thing that happened to me (though I dodged the exclusive question). On Date #10 she wanted to talk about "What are we?" Then on Date #11 she was fine that night but the morning after she was in a bad mood and didn't seem as (100%) excited as she had.

I think part of it is this: by the time a woman is asking YOU for a commitment, her interest level is about 95%. From that point, there's nowhere to go but down, so it feels anticlimactic. It's like in The Art of Seduction. The last chapter is Beware the After Effects. We've already successfully seduced these women. To maintain them, we must periodicaly re-seduce them because once we reach the pinnacle, there is a natural decine. Sort of like a team on a winning streak after a loss. They are 11-1 but feel down.

In my case it's been 16 days NC so that's what I recommend.

Bro I thought this girl was "super special" and in love with your existence to the point she could not function without you? We tried to tell you. A druggie stripper is NOT someone you want to get all exited about. I do understand the initial lust you had for her, but a girl like that will break your heart every time, and twice on Sunday.

But yeah, what happened. Details man.

 

[nismo-4]

This is the story of the typical Atlanta woman. They all seem to go for the ballers. It seems you had a stroke of luck.

You need to cut and run. When a woman starts getting close, keep your distance. I can't trust women who approach me these days. The majority of them are either strippers, hookers, golddiggers, and flakes.

 

[Love's Orphan]

Next time, Dont say yes so fast when asked about exclusivity. Tell her to give you some days to think about it. Next time you meet, you dont touch the subject. If she ask about it, you say this:
"Do you keep contact/communicate with any exes by facebook, email, phone, telepathy, whatever?"

Most of them do, they like to string them along.

If she says: "Yes, but we are JUST friends.", you say something like: "I think its better to keep it as it is." (you dont tell a women to get rid of them, overtly. If she really likes you they will be gone.)
But never forget that some may even lie about breaking contact with their exes. Good luck, dont thank me, thank Doc Love.

 

[bigneil]

Why, tell me why did you not treat me right?
Love has a nasty habit of disappearing overnight.

McCartney 1965