"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I knew this girl from last year, and she had a crush on me, and I thought she was very attractive. Sadly, I'm not a DJ, so I didn't ask for a # or an e-mail, so I didn't talk to her for like 2 months. Now, I see her around again. She was talking to this bi-sexual guy. She was sitting right next to me, and the bi guy was sitting behind me. She starts talking about this guy at lunch she really likes, but won't date because he is too young, and that this other guy that she wants to invite to her house on friday. Then out of the blue, she asks for my number.

What does this mean? Any tips, or suggestions that I could use. I'll see her three times this week, and hopefully I get my drivers license this week, and maybe I could ask her to go cruising with me somewhere. I am not a DJ, more like a DJ in training.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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she just wanted to feed her ego and make herself think she can get any fckin man she wants without any problem.
 

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So, just forget about her?

P.S. I read your thread about breaking up with your girlfriend. Stay strong.
 

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If she was talking to the other boy in a voice loud enough so as to make sure that you could hear her, she might be playing for your jealousy. Then again, maybe not.

Either way, make her work for you. She asked for your number, did you ask for hers? If you did, hold off on calling her, make her call you. Flirt with sexual innuendo. If she does have other guys that she is looking to go out with, she will go after the one that is hard to get, and if you are too easy to be with, then she will forget about you.
 

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No I didn't ask for her number. She knows that I am ticklish, so after I gave her my number, I layed my head down, and she began to grab my sides. We actually had "something" going last year. She would always grab my leg to tickle me, but sometimes I would grab her hand, and we would basically be holding hands until we mutually let go.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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When a girl tickles you, it means she wants you to touch her. So holding hands is half right. I would tickle her back. She puts her hand on your thigh, you do the same to her. Sometime, though, youll have to lead. (Ex: kiss her).
 

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Well, then should I not ask her to chill, and kinda play hard to get and make her try harder?
 

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I would ask her out, make your intentions clear that you like her in a way that is more than friends, and make sure she has a great time. But after you go out with her, dont make yourself available for a while... and all the basic stuff the DJ Bible tells us to do.
 

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Yes, I've been reading the Bible almost everyday, and making mental notes. I will ask her if she wants to chill with me somtime. Thanks for the help, P.S. do you have aim? I would like to talk with you about other subjects aswell, since I am new and I want to absorb everything I can.
 

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So you gave her your number, that's great. I'd let her do most of the foot work but play the game still. Directing her into conversations that you want to have and giving her notions of what you wnat to do should be your goals. It's not difficult being a DJ once you've got your sea legs about you and have a general feel about where you want to go.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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