"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

girl asked for my number

Canibus27

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2005
Messages
101
Reaction score
0
I knew this girl from last year, and she had a crush on me, and I thought she was very attractive. Sadly, I'm not a DJ, so I didn't ask for a # or an e-mail, so I didn't talk to her for like 2 months. Now, I see her around again. She was talking to this bi-sexual guy. She was sitting right next to me, and the bi guy was sitting behind me. She starts talking about this guy at lunch she really likes, but won't date because he is too young, and that this other guy that she wants to invite to her house on friday. Then out of the blue, she asks for my number.

What does this mean? Any tips, or suggestions that I could use. I'll see her three times this week, and hopefully I get my drivers license this week, and maybe I could ask her to go cruising with me somewhere. I am not a DJ, more like a DJ in training.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

DasaniWater

Banned
Joined
Mar 19, 2006
Messages
256
Reaction score
0
she just wanted to feed her ego and make herself think she can get any fckin man she wants without any problem.
 

Canibus27

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2005
Messages
101
Reaction score
0
So, just forget about her?

P.S. I read your thread about breaking up with your girlfriend. Stay strong.
 

river105

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2006
Messages
28
Reaction score
0
If she was talking to the other boy in a voice loud enough so as to make sure that you could hear her, she might be playing for your jealousy. Then again, maybe not.

Either way, make her work for you. She asked for your number, did you ask for hers? If you did, hold off on calling her, make her call you. Flirt with sexual innuendo. If she does have other guys that she is looking to go out with, she will go after the one that is hard to get, and if you are too easy to be with, then she will forget about you.
 

Canibus27

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2005
Messages
101
Reaction score
0
No I didn't ask for her number. She knows that I am ticklish, so after I gave her my number, I layed my head down, and she began to grab my sides. We actually had "something" going last year. She would always grab my leg to tickle me, but sometimes I would grab her hand, and we would basically be holding hands until we mutually let go.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

river105

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2006
Messages
28
Reaction score
0
When a girl tickles you, it means she wants you to touch her. So holding hands is half right. I would tickle her back. She puts her hand on your thigh, you do the same to her. Sometime, though, youll have to lead. (Ex: kiss her).
 

Canibus27

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2005
Messages
101
Reaction score
0
Well, then should I not ask her to chill, and kinda play hard to get and make her try harder?
 

river105

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 12, 2006
Messages
28
Reaction score
0
I would ask her out, make your intentions clear that you like her in a way that is more than friends, and make sure she has a great time. But after you go out with her, dont make yourself available for a while... and all the basic stuff the DJ Bible tells us to do.
 

Canibus27

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2005
Messages
101
Reaction score
0
Yes, I've been reading the Bible almost everyday, and making mental notes. I will ask her if she wants to chill with me somtime. Thanks for the help, P.S. do you have aim? I would like to talk with you about other subjects aswell, since I am new and I want to absorb everything I can.
 

PRMoon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2003
Messages
3,739
Reaction score
41
Age
45
Location
-777-Vegas-777-
So you gave her your number, that's great. I'd let her do most of the foot work but play the game still. Directing her into conversations that you want to have and giving her notions of what you wnat to do should be your goals. It's not difficult being a DJ once you've got your sea legs about you and have a general feel about where you want to go.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Top