"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl always texts me at night saying she's cold

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So me and this girl have been seeing each other for a few weeks now, and we've kissed a few times, hung out a few times, and last Friday I got her really hot and bothered when we were watching a movie (unfortunately nothing happened because she got an unexpected allergic reaction to a starbucks drink and I had to take her home).

Anyway, she always texts me that it's cold in her room at night and I always reply with various things (like "not this again..." and "I'llcome tuck you in at night sometime").

I get the implications of why she's sending me this, but I'm curious as to how some of you guys would deal with this situation. At this point in my life I'm VERY analytical and left-brained, and my creativity isn't as sharp as it will be in a few months. So I don't really know what else to say to her. I'm learning more inner game from David DeAngelo and I've shifted my way of thinking in a way that makes me more secure, but I'm temporarily trading off my spontaneity so I can focus on this stuff. I'll learn how to be wild and crazy in about a month or two :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"Well you should have invited me over earlier then" ;)
 

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Anyway, she always texts me that it's cold in her room at night and I always reply with various things (like "not this again..." and "I'llcome tuck you in at night sometime").
Correct answer:

"I'll be right over to warm you up."

Or possibly "Im coming to take you to a warmer bed"

Any other response means you're gay.
 

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horaholic said:
Correct answer:

"I'll be right over to warm you up."

Or possibly "Im coming to take you to a warmer bed"

Any other response means you're gay.
Hmm if she lives pretty close to you I guess... Within 10 minutes or so. Otherwise you are jumping to attention and following her commands. I'm not going to drive half an hour across town late at night because some girl says shes cold, she could be a bit more explicite and maybe I would. I'm going to give off the impression that I want to be there but I am comfortable enough that I don't have to drop everything and go running to attention everytime the possibility of sex crops up, I'm perfectly happy to say 'your loss, cya next time'.
 

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arutha said:
Hmm if she lives pretty close to you I guess... Within 10 minutes or so. Otherwise you are jumping to attention and following her commands. I'm not going to drive half an hour across town late at night because some girl says shes cold, she could be a bit more explicite and maybe I would. I'm going to give off the impression that I want to be there but I am comfortable enough that I don't have to drop everything and go running to attention everytime the possibility of sex crops up, I'm perfectly happy to say 'your loss, cya next time'.
Really? who said anything about "everytime" I think your projecting some anger here. That's basic chick flirting and about as overt as a young chic will get.

"I'll come keep you warm"
"oh really, how do you plan to do that"
"you'll see when I get there"

It's an invitation. No chic is gonna say, hey you, come over and **** my brains out. Women are covert, men are overt.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah you may be right actually. I probably tend to see more tests than invitations, and when I get invitations I still go hard to get.

No chic is gonna say, hey you, come over and **** my brains out
Well I've got that a couple of times... Only from sluts though, several months later she didn't even remember. Not that I particularly cared, I barely remembered her either.

Game on I guess.
 

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Dude I can't believe how bad you and the other posters here are messing up the signs!!

She is not reaching out to tell you that she wants you in her bed, no way my friend, that would be the logical and simplistic way to think (what fun is that lol?)

I believe that she is trying to tell you one of two things:

1. She has bad circulation

This is very serious! Maybe she is embarrassed about having diabetes or some other kind of disease that can mess with circulation. Find out if she has any kind of disease first. She does not have diabetes? Well, I am assuming that any girl who would dare go out such a bright, ladies man like yourself would have to be quite hefty and does not move around enough to circulate her blood. If you value her life at all, you should buy these for her (http://www.metromedicalonline.com/3071.html) so she is protected from embolisms forming.

2. She is poor.

In this case, she can not afford proper heating for her trailer. If she is under 18, write to the local child abuse agency. Or stop by the local clothing drive to get her some sweatpants and sweatshirts, girls like a guy who can care for them.

In any case, if she is poor you should call it quits with her. After all, what type of dowry could you hope to attain?
 

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arutha said:
Hmm if she lives pretty close to you I guess... Within 10 minutes or so. Otherwise you are jumping to attention and following her commands. I'm not going to drive half an hour across town late at night because some girl says shes cold, she could be a bit more explicite and maybe I would. I'm going to give off the impression that I want to be there but I am comfortable enough that I don't have to drop everything and go running to attention everytime the possibility of sex crops up, I'm perfectly happy to say 'your loss, cya next time'.

This.

Not to mention, if any girls doing this - well, I'm 17 and I wouldn't even want to put up with that type of immaturity.

If this girl is doing this every day I just would see that as annoying.
 

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nice troll Stud

I agree that getting this everyday would be annoying. Once in a while it's fun, even if you can't go over. But everyday I'd just start ignoring it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Anyone else have any more creative lines?
 
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