"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girl always texts me at night saying she's cold

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So me and this girl have been seeing each other for a few weeks now, and we've kissed a few times, hung out a few times, and last Friday I got her really hot and bothered when we were watching a movie (unfortunately nothing happened because she got an unexpected allergic reaction to a starbucks drink and I had to take her home).

Anyway, she always texts me that it's cold in her room at night and I always reply with various things (like "not this again..." and "I'llcome tuck you in at night sometime").

I get the implications of why she's sending me this, but I'm curious as to how some of you guys would deal with this situation. At this point in my life I'm VERY analytical and left-brained, and my creativity isn't as sharp as it will be in a few months. So I don't really know what else to say to her. I'm learning more inner game from David DeAngelo and I've shifted my way of thinking in a way that makes me more secure, but I'm temporarily trading off my spontaneity so I can focus on this stuff. I'll learn how to be wild and crazy in about a month or two :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Well you should have invited me over earlier then" ;)
 

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Anyway, she always texts me that it's cold in her room at night and I always reply with various things (like "not this again..." and "I'llcome tuck you in at night sometime").
Correct answer:

"I'll be right over to warm you up."

Or possibly "Im coming to take you to a warmer bed"

Any other response means you're gay.
 

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horaholic said:
Correct answer:

"I'll be right over to warm you up."

Or possibly "Im coming to take you to a warmer bed"

Any other response means you're gay.
Hmm if she lives pretty close to you I guess... Within 10 minutes or so. Otherwise you are jumping to attention and following her commands. I'm not going to drive half an hour across town late at night because some girl says shes cold, she could be a bit more explicite and maybe I would. I'm going to give off the impression that I want to be there but I am comfortable enough that I don't have to drop everything and go running to attention everytime the possibility of sex crops up, I'm perfectly happy to say 'your loss, cya next time'.
 

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arutha said:
Hmm if she lives pretty close to you I guess... Within 10 minutes or so. Otherwise you are jumping to attention and following her commands. I'm not going to drive half an hour across town late at night because some girl says shes cold, she could be a bit more explicite and maybe I would. I'm going to give off the impression that I want to be there but I am comfortable enough that I don't have to drop everything and go running to attention everytime the possibility of sex crops up, I'm perfectly happy to say 'your loss, cya next time'.
Really? who said anything about "everytime" I think your projecting some anger here. That's basic chick flirting and about as overt as a young chic will get.

"I'll come keep you warm"
"oh really, how do you plan to do that"
"you'll see when I get there"

It's an invitation. No chic is gonna say, hey you, come over and **** my brains out. Women are covert, men are overt.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah you may be right actually. I probably tend to see more tests than invitations, and when I get invitations I still go hard to get.

No chic is gonna say, hey you, come over and **** my brains out
Well I've got that a couple of times... Only from sluts though, several months later she didn't even remember. Not that I particularly cared, I barely remembered her either.

Game on I guess.
 

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Dude I can't believe how bad you and the other posters here are messing up the signs!!

She is not reaching out to tell you that she wants you in her bed, no way my friend, that would be the logical and simplistic way to think (what fun is that lol?)

I believe that she is trying to tell you one of two things:

1. She has bad circulation

This is very serious! Maybe she is embarrassed about having diabetes or some other kind of disease that can mess with circulation. Find out if she has any kind of disease first. She does not have diabetes? Well, I am assuming that any girl who would dare go out such a bright, ladies man like yourself would have to be quite hefty and does not move around enough to circulate her blood. If you value her life at all, you should buy these for her (http://www.metromedicalonline.com/3071.html) so she is protected from embolisms forming.

2. She is poor.

In this case, she can not afford proper heating for her trailer. If she is under 18, write to the local child abuse agency. Or stop by the local clothing drive to get her some sweatpants and sweatshirts, girls like a guy who can care for them.

In any case, if she is poor you should call it quits with her. After all, what type of dowry could you hope to attain?
 

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arutha said:
Hmm if she lives pretty close to you I guess... Within 10 minutes or so. Otherwise you are jumping to attention and following her commands. I'm not going to drive half an hour across town late at night because some girl says shes cold, she could be a bit more explicite and maybe I would. I'm going to give off the impression that I want to be there but I am comfortable enough that I don't have to drop everything and go running to attention everytime the possibility of sex crops up, I'm perfectly happy to say 'your loss, cya next time'.

This.

Not to mention, if any girls doing this - well, I'm 17 and I wouldn't even want to put up with that type of immaturity.

If this girl is doing this every day I just would see that as annoying.
 

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nice troll Stud

I agree that getting this everyday would be annoying. Once in a while it's fun, even if you can't go over. But everyday I'd just start ignoring it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Anyone else have any more creative lines?
 
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