Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl admitting to have herpes

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I just got back from meeting up with this girl, long story short she said she has oral herpes from babies spitting at her face (She studied early childhood education) I don't think I have herpes. I remember having pimples, atleast thats what i thought at the time on my upper lips.

They say 80% of the general adult population has it, I know eventually I'll catch it with some other girl so it doent matter if its now or later. What matters is if my body can keep the herpes dormant.

What do you guys think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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penkitten

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you don't catch herpes by saliva , its a skin to skin condition
 

scotties

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penkitten said:
you don't catch herpes by saliva , its a skin to skin condition
Well am pretty sure she doesn't know better, plus its safe to assume she kisses the babies too.
 

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scotties said:
. They say 80% of the general adult population has it, I know eventually I'll catch it with some other girl so it doent matter if its now or later. What matters is if my body can keep the herpes dormant.
I'm grateful my azz don't have it....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheBaconator

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scotties said:
I just got back from meeting up with this girl, long story short she said she has oral herpes from babies spitting at her face (She studied early childhood education) I don't think I have herpes. I remember having pimples, atleast thats what i thought at the time on my upper lips.

They say 80% of the general adult population has it, I know eventually I'll catch it with some other girl so it doent matter if its now or later. What matters is if my body can keep the herpes dormant.

What do you guys think?
LOL, that sounds like BS. She probably told you that because you wouldn't wanna know what guys have been "spitting" on her face.
 

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From what I know of her, she said she has been in only 2 relationship and she is 25. Also her character does not seem like she messes around with random guys. Anyway that's beside the point.

Should I next her? ask her to let me know if she is having a breakout or not before kissing? dammit finally a girl i really like and I get this crap.
 

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scotties said:
From what I know of her, she said she has been in only 2 relationship and she is 25. Also her character does not seem like she messes around with random guys. Anyway that's beside the point.

Should I next her? ask her to let me know if she is having a breakout or not before kissing? dammit finally a girl i really like and I get this crap.
Dude, didn't you just say you just got back from meeting her? You already think you have a fair assessment of her "character" and you already really like her? Sounds to me like a case of oneitis developing.

I would personally not risk it. May sound cruel but herpes are for life.
 

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If it was something curable I would say go for it, but nah sit this one out. Plenty more fish in the sea
 

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At first I thought you wrote that dudes were spiting their babies @ her face
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Prodigy746

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SayWord? said:
At first I thought you wrote that dudes were spiting their babies @ her face
ahahhahah


Well its a hard decision man... There are many girls out there that have it so there is a pretty good chance that you could hook up with a random girl that will give it to you later on. Atleast she was honest with you, do some research i believe you can only catch it when she is braking out... i dunno.
 

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sorry buddy, a 25 year old has had a lot more guys than you think. hence, she has herpes. the obvious is sometimes the hardest thing to believe.
 

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The OP and a few responders should research the difference between genital and oral herpes since they're being discussed as if they're the same condition.
 

DonGorgon

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scotties said:
Also her character does not seem like she messes around with random guys..

LOL...!!!!!! Males love to think stuff like that to make themseves feel better.... The truth about most women is too painfullll for most men...

Women are human they go through phases when they F like crazy randomly unprotected then they become "good" again... they will never tell even themselves aBOUT ALL TEH WIDE CRAZY FUN STUFF THEY HAVE DONE... SO THEY WONT TELL YOU EITHER!!! Face it. MOst of the biggest S!UTS eventually become some ones wife after 35 soooooo..... what you gonna do????
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you have to be a damn simpleton to even give this chick any slack...as soon as I hear the word herpes :nervous: I'm already down the street.
 

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Jeezus!

She just told you she gets cold sores. That's it!

Tell her about Lipactin (get it at the drugstore) and live life.

This isn't a big deal, and does not imply any slutty habits.
 

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OneEyedJack said:
Jeezus!

She just told you she gets cold sores. That's it!

Tell her about Lipactin (get it at the drugstore) and live life.

This isn't a big deal, and does not imply any slutty habits.
Quoted For Truth.
 

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Most people have it/will get it, without symptoms. You probably already have it. Just make sure that if she's breaking out with a cold sore to use caution (I wouldn't let her near my wang.)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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