Energy25 said:
I have been friends with this girl this school year. She is in a lot of my classes and is on my sports team. This past weekend she and I happened to be at the same place and were drinking with people and she admitted to "liking me since October".
You have any idea as to why she did this? Why would she just come out and tell you that? Unless she was drunk out of her gord,she had some reason for saying that to you.
Energy25 said:
She was very flirty with me and eventually came back to my room afterwards. (college). She and I were not completely drunk but definitely somewhat. She said that she "never does this"
Ah,the old "I never do this/I've never done this before" line. That should have been music to your ears. I feel undescribe-able joy when I hear a girl say that.
Energy25 said:
and she doesn't cheat, and that she hopes I don't think she is not loyal because of this.
Lol,:crackup:.
She said she doesn't want you to think that she isn't loyal because of "this"?
What "this"? You mean her fooling around with you behind her boyfriend's back?
Her being in a RELATIONSHIP with one guy,but going back to the dorm room of another? She went to your room,you two touched,kissed,and groped each other,basically had foreplay,most likely did everything just short of actual sex.
She did ALL THAT with you,then turned around and told you she doesn't want you to think she cheats or isn't loyal.
So she doesn't want you thinking she's not loyal. Hmm.... Now where would she get a silly idea like that?
Energy25 said:
She also then kept telling me to "admit it", meaning that I like her. I kind of just kept deflecting it and eventually said I like her this much, while holding two fingers barely apart from one another, sorta joking around.
You should have went sexual on her.
Whenever a girl tries to get something out of you that would boost her ego,go sexual. When she tried to get you to "admit" that you liked her,you should have said something like,
"Well yeah,of course I like you. You have the biggest boobs/nicest ass/(whatever,as long as it's physical),I've seen in a while".
That way,her ego gets nothing out of it. If you say "I like you" to her,you'll pump up her pride because there's only one "her". She's the only (her name) there is,so she'll get a big head out of it.
If you say something sexual,something about her body (boobs or butt),her ego gets zero because EVERY GIRL has tits and azz. She's not stupid. She knows that no matter how "hot" or "attractive" she is,that in a split second,you could just turn you head and see another girl just as hot or attractive.
So the next time she tries to get you to "admit" something concerning feelings for her,go sexual.
Energy said:
I do like this girl, and I think I would get into a relationship with her.
Well she's already demonstrated the type of relationship partner she'd be,so if you have no problem with what you've seen so far,then have at it man.
energy25 said:
She kept asking if she "was worth it?"
Again,she's seeking attention for her ego. Solution:go sexual.
Energy25 said:
and that it is up to me to decide what happens.
Up to you to "decide what happens"? What does that mean?
Energy25 said:
Should I talk to her when we are both sober and just say were good friends and I wouldn't mind seeing where in goes and to try it out? And maybe then she'll dump the BF?
You're waiting for her to dump her boyfriend? Didn't you say that she's "very insecure"? If so,then why would she rock the boat with him?
Energy25 said:
She keeps hinting at wanting a relationship with me, but she is still with her bf. What should I do?
Date somebody else.
Look,if you think that you're just going to sit around and wait out her relationship,sorry,but it doesn't normally work that way.
As long as you're around,she'll likely keep things EXACTLY the way they are.
She has sex with her boyfriend,while having you boost her ego. You supply the emotional,while her boyfriend supplies the sexual.
That's how it's been for a while,and that's how it is RIGHT NOW. Why would she want to screw that up?