"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl acts like a virgin, but isn't

SirFratserlot

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So basically, met this girl at a party and got her number, and the first time we hung out we just made out. She didn't want to go any further and her friends made her leave.

We've hooked up more in both my room and her room and we've slept with each other as well. However, she won't let me **** her whatsoever or see her naked. The first time I couldn't get anything off her, the second time I managed to get her shirt off, and the third she's took everything but her bra an panties off.

She told me she's only had sex with one guy and it was a boyfriend ltr high school boyfriend. It seems believable because of the way she acts. I'm wondering how many more times we have to hang out before I get it in. I don't want to sound desparate to her, but at the same time I I am getting impatient and I'm getting sick of handjobs. She's being more open to letting me finger her though, but I can't handle the blue balls anymore.

I'm really a newb at this, I don't want to lose this girl she's cool as hell and she's really into me, like she legit cancels her plans with her friends to come hang out with me sometimes. This is shocking to me because I never thought that could happen to me. However, I've never even seen her vag yet and I think its ridiculous.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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pinkfl

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She probably doesn't want to just be a casual hookup for you. She's likely wanting to wait until she knows you're her boyfriend, because she likely only wants to have sex in terms of a long term/serious relationship and isn't interested in something more casual. She might even be waiting until she feels stronger feelings for you. She ALSO might not be on birth control at the moment or may have just started and therefore needs to wait until it kicks in before she can entertain the possibility of sex. She might want to know if you have an STD. There's a lot of things on her mind.

And as such she's saving that part of herself until she knows that you are committed. It's not that you're off your game or anything like that, she's just simply not as "easy" a girl as others. But I kind of think she's "easy" enough because who the hell makes out with a guy they just met at a party?

I am not giving you any advice really, but I am giving you some insight as to what she may be thinking. To be quite honest though, the conversation about sex and what you are to each other will probably go hand in hand, so be prepared for that.
 

SirFratserlot

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pinkfl said:
She probably doesn't want to just be a casual hookup for you. She's likely wanting to wait until she knows you're her boyfriend, because she likely only wants to have sex in terms of a long term/serious relationship and isn't interested in something more casual. She might even be waiting until she feels stronger feelings for you. She ALSO might not be on birth control at the moment or may have just started and therefore needs to wait until it kicks in before she can entertain the possibility of sex. She might want to know if you have an STD. There's a lot of things on her mind.

And as such she's saving that part of herself until she knows that you are committed. It's not that you're off your game or anything like that, she's just simply not as "easy" a girl as others. But I kind of think she's "easy" enough because who the hell makes out with a guy they just met at a party?

I am not giving you any advice really, but I am giving you some insight as to what she may be thinking. To be quite honest though, the conversation about sex and what you are to each other will probably go hand in hand, so be prepared for that.
Not really just met, but shes been chasing me for quite some time. I just now got to know her. Dont ask me why I was that dumb lol.
 

Plutoman

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Maybe she has standards and doesn't sleep around?

It can happen, you know.

Take it as it is. Just continue being persistent. If it bothers you that much, cut it off and find someone else. Go for a BJ, handjobs suck.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you're getting HJs and she's stripping down to panties and bra, this is NOT a case of low interest. Her interest is quite high.

She's probably a more conservative girl (ie not sl u tty). She prefers a bf to riding the random cawk carusel.

If you want a good gf, she's probably a very good candidate.

If you just want to get laid, not so much.
 

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Patience, man or just hook up and bang easy girls and get rid of em. I would wait it out and see what happens. You gotta get her REALLY hot, to the point where she explodes. See what turns her on and do it. Talking dirty, touching, whatever it is. Tell her to break free sexually. She's a female Neo and you're her sexual Morpheus! Free her vaj!

Once you open the floodgates with her, it's gonna be bang-a-gong city and you're gonna be mayor.
 
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