"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl acting strange - Possibly lost attraction?

Bestie

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I've been with this girl from long time and things were good. I don't need to explain how good, because everyone know how it all starts.

Anyways, from few months she started getting more and more distant, and finally she started behaving bad.

So finally, she broke up with me, without even giving me any reason. I tried to convince her but she broke up, and i accepted. Then after a week, i started begging and asking for one last chance (without having any mistake!).

She agreed and came back! But after that time, she's acting very cold and distant. She's annoyed by everything i say, no matter what.

So at this point, what should be the best solution? I know I've messed up badly, but for me to have best possible chances of getting her back to who she used to be, what's the best thing I can do right now?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A lot of people seem to expect the limerance stage to last forever. When it doesn't (because it can't) they move on to the next infatuation and the next and the next....
 

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Bestie said:
Anyways, from few months she started getting more and more distant, and finally she started behaving bad.
It happens. So you broke up with her, right?

So finally, she broke up with me, without even giving me any reason. I tried to convince her but she broke up, and i accepted. Then after a week, i started begging and asking for one last chance (without having any mistake!).

She agreed and came back!
Oh, so you convinced her to stay with you after she treated you ****ty? Why would you do that?

But after that time, she's acting very cold and distant. She's annoyed by everything i say, no matter what.
What did you expect?

You're acting like a bottom feeding cuck who's a glutton for punishment. You are welcoming and rewarding her ****ty behavior.

So at this point, what should be the best solution? I know I've messed up badly, but for me to have best possible chances of getting her back to who she used to be, what's the best thing I can do right now?
She has zero respect for you. She considers you a loser, and by your actions, you are a loser. Best course here is to stop being a loser and to break up with her.

Then, stop wasting people's time and do some research on the 8 Trillion other threads dealing with your same exact scenario.
 

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Dude, her attraction has been long gone before she broke up with you. Have some dignity and end this before she dumps you again.


Bestie said:
Anyways, from few months she started getting more and more distant, and finally she started behaving bad.
Should've dumped her at this point. Don't take bad behavior from women in relationships.

Bestie said:
So finally, she broke up with me, without even giving me any reason. I tried to convince her but she broke up, and i accepted. Then after a week, i started begging and asking for one last chance (without having any mistake!).
She dumped you and made her decision. Never beg or try to convince women to take you back. It makes you look very weak begging trying to change a woman's mind who doesn't want you.

Bestie said:
She agreed and came back! But after that time, she's acting very cold and distant. She's annoyed by everything i say, no matter what.

She doesn't want to be with you anymore, her words and actions are showing it. She dumped you already before and will do it again. Her attraction is already gone.



Bestie said:
So at this point, what should be the best solution? I know I've messed up badly, but for me to have best possible chances of getting her back to who she used to be, what's the best thing I can do right now?

The best thing you can do is end it now. She dumped you and is acting cold again. She isn't going to be who she used to be. It seems she took you back out of pity when you were begging her. He coldness is her way of showing it's over. Do yourself a favor bro and cut her off before she dumps you again.
 

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Dump. Then go ghost. Save yourself some dignity. When you beg, plead, or try to convince, you hand over your balls. Take your balls back and then move along.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When a woman gets distant it is for one of two reasons. You are too clingy and need to give her space OR there is another dude in the picture.

Others have said this and I will repeat.... NEVER beg her to take you back. This never works. She might feel sorry for and take you back but it never lasts and the whole time she is with you she will make your life miserable.... the longer you put up with her BS the less respect she has no respect = no love.

The only thing you can do at this point is to dump her and walk away.... never look back. You're done.
 
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