Girl accepts lunch, then regrets it

[BadBoy89]

Asked out a good looking girl in her late 20s. Had to go via text. Could have done it in person but it would have taken longer. Lunch is company money. Girl does not work at company.

[Badboy]: Hi Sharon, because you helped me out a few times I’d like to take you out to lunch. Let me know what works.
[Sharon]: Hi Badboy, that would be great. How about next Tuesday?
[BB]: Next Tuesday great. Do you like Italian? Great place on 1st street. I can make the reservation for 12. Does it work for you?
[Sharon]: Sounds good. But I get off work at 1:30, can we do it after?
[BB]: OK. I can make the reservation before 3 or after 5, in between it’s booked. What time works for you?
[Sharon]: Silence

Obviously could have said how about 2, 2:30, 2:45, but already said 12. She doesn’t counter with a specific time, have to ask again. If ask again, another excuse.

*This* close to withdrawing the offer.

Thoughts?

 

[AttackFormation]

Thoughts?

What do you expect? You think she cares so little to meet you that you feel you have to bribe her just to show up, you can make the excuse that it's "company money" on this occasion but the principle is the same. Your own behavior shows you presupposed that she doesnt want to meet you, so what do you expect?

 

[Georgepithyou]

OP what you should of said

"that's the only time i got free this week, but we can work something out another time"

Wait for her to hit you up if she is interested, if not you move on.

 

[bat soup]

Asked out a good looking girl in her late 20s. Had to go via text. Could have done it in person but it would have taken longer. Lunch is company money. Girl does not work at company.

[Badboy]: Hi Sharon, because you helped me out a few times I’d like to take you out to lunch. Let me know what works.
[Sharon]: Hi Badboy, that would be great. How about next Tuesday?
[BB]: Next Tuesday great. Do you like Italian? Great place on 1st street. I can make the reservation for 12. Does it work for you?
[Sharon]: Sounds good. But I get off work at 1:30, can we do it after?
[BB]: OK. I can make the reservation before 3 or after 5, in between it’s booked. What time works for you?
[Sharon]: Silence

Obviously could have said how about 2, 2:30, 2:45, but already said 12. She doesn’t counter with a specific time, have to ask again. If ask again, another excuse.

*This* close to withdrawing the offer.

Thoughts?

Complete waste of time. Even if she did meet you, her behaviour indicates that she would just be there for the free meal as her interest is extremely low. Anytime a woman says "next week", you might as well drop it there and save yourself the time.

In any case, taking random women out for expensive meals is a bad idea. What has she done to deserve this? Her attitude totally sucks. Also, saying "because you helped me out" is making it platonic. It also reveals that you already had several interactions with her and didn't make a move.

I know that you think there is a higher chance she'll accept if you make it look platonic and offer a free meal, but that's not a good strategy. You actually want to filter low-interest women and women that just want friendship out early. The last thing you want is to wait a week, pay for an expensive date and then get a peck on the cheek and "it was nice to meet you. Bye".