"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl Accepted Friend Request after 1.5 years lol

SanDog11

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So last night this girl accepts a friend request, that after looking I sent April of 13 lol. She is from MI like me, knows mutual friends, and now lives in SoCal like me.

She's obviously not interested but for some reason decided to accept the request, which makes me wonder why da fuk she kept it in her inbox so long?

Anyway, what's something funny/smart ass I can reach out and say to her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She is running short on orbiters?
 

Heisenberg

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A couple weeks ago I accidentally accepted a friend request from about 1.5 years ago as well. On the Facebook app for the iPhone, the friend requests button at the bottom is kind of obtrusive. It doesn't minimize - it's just always there as you browse around.

So while I was mindlessly tapping about the site, I accidentally hit the friend requests button and I guess my thumb clicked accept on this ancient request. I promptly unfriended, but she would've already gotten the notification. Ha!

That could be all it is. I say send nothing.

Oh, and on a more "big picture" sidenote: If you have to ask what a smart ass thing would be to say, that means you're not naturally a smart ass. Which means you shouldn't try to sound like one. It'll sound forced and weird. That's the thing about being a smart ass, it really means you're quick witted. If you have to plan a line in advance, that ain't too quick.

Us smart asses were born this way, it's our blessing and curse. You just do you! Girls will like that.
 
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