"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Gifts for female friends

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OK so I know this AFC who once a had thing for this girl and she for him. However, due to he being an AFC he was fz'd and she now has a boyfriend whom I sure she screws.

Anyway, he feels the need to buy her a gift (around $50) for her birthday. They're still friends but I don't really know how he feels about her. He says he doesn't have feelings for her but I don't buy it.

I told him getting her a gift is lame (not including remaining friends with girls who fz'd you) but he doesn't listen. He doesn't get gift for guys. I think he's putting too much emphasis on this girl. I mean $50!

What can I tell him? Do you guys think the same way I do?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tell him to give you the $50 for the quality advice you just gave him. And ask him what she got him for his bday.
 

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I wouldn't tell him anything.

He's not learning anything by you telling him not to do it, he has to go through it himself.

Advice is only heard when hindsite is 20/20.
 

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thedeparted said:
Tell him to give you the $50 for the quality advice you just gave him. And ask him what she got him for his bday.
:crackup: she pretty much told him to get her something. I think she gets him some p.o.s. gift just so he'll buy her something pretty nice.

And yeah, he has often told me I'm right on issues after the fact, relating to dealing with girls and such. So I guess he's just going to waste time and money on a girl who has no interest in him.

I seriously hope he still doesn't like her but I just don't see that being the case. I mean he bends over backwards for her all the time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Whats fz'd?
 

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DonGorgon said:
I will take them out if they are f'ing.
:crackup: I can literally guarantee that they aren't.

oh and fz'd is friend-zoned (i.e. getting put in the friend-zone).
 

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You cant save everybody...
 

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$50??? His gift will probably be more expensive than her boyfriend's. Do something to stop your friend from making this mistake. Tell him to get her a card instead.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Juan_Man said:
$50??? His gift will probably be more expensive than her boyfriend's. Do something to stop your friend from making this mistake. Tell him to get her a card instead.
hey good point. I didn't think about what her bf got her. I should probably ask him when/if he finds out. That would be really interesting to hear. Plus it will hopefully make him think twice about doing **** like this in the future.

and sadly, he has already bought the gift. So I guess it sucks for him. Some people will never learn.

I want to tell him that even if he doesn't care about her and only likes her as a friend, that she is just using him. He's your typical emotional tampon guy. She's told him all sorts of crap about her life and her problems. She also uses him for help in school. He doesn't really see it though.

She never contacts him otherwise (to be fair he doesn't go out of his way to call her, but when she calls him they'll talk for a while). He's a smart guy too. Sad he's blind. Every time I mention something he insults me and says I'm ignorant. It makes me laugh.
 

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That's a lot to spend on a friend's birthday present.

As someone else said, you probably should just stop trying to help, because he's obviously not listening. Sometimes you just need to let them make their own mistakes.
 
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