"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ghost from the past

viking22

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A few months ago I was seeing this girl. We had like four dates and then for no apparent reason she stopped returning my calls. I didn't want to appear desperate so I left it. Didn't hear from her so in a moment of weakness today I sent her a text saying "Hey long time no see, what is up?". She sent me a text back immediately saying "Hey i hope you don't think im a bad person. im sorry i have not been in touch. I have been in trouble with my family and my mind has been unable to think of anything else. But things are better now!".

I was like "OK well when you are ready we can catch up over coffee".

She replied "Give me time to get well..my ankle is hurting me and i cannot work and walk properly and i need to find a new job...then i will see you. I want you to know that you are a nice man"

Im not really sure what to read into this. It sounds like she is stalling and "i want you to know you are a nice man" sounds like she is trying to let me down gently.

Presumably the ball is in her court and if she is genuine she will get in touch when she feels like meeting.

Naturally im seeing other girls and have been for the past few months but i feel with this girl i had unfinished business so i want to know whether there is a chance she is for real.

What do you guys read into this?
 

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Dust 2 Dust

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viking22 said:
She sent me a text back immediately saying "Hey i hope you don't think im a bad person. im sorry i have not been in touch. I have been in trouble with my family and my mind has been unable to think of anything else. But things are better now!".

I was like "OK well when you are ready we can catch up over coffee".

She replied "Give me time to get well..my ankle is hurting me and i cannot work and walk properly and i need to find a new job...then i will see you. I want you to know that you are a nice man"
Low IL. I wouldn't bother with this one any longer. She's giving excuses with no counter offers. If she was having trouble with her family then she would find comfort by talking to you and not pushing you away.
 

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viking22 said:
Naturally im seeing other girls and have been for the past few months but i feel with this girl i had unfinished business so i want to know whether there is a chance she is for real.
obviously if you were doing good with other girls, you wouldn't txt some bytch you never fvcked, who started ignoring you a few months ago...
 

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drak, we slept together once. But yeah ive been seeing some girls since but haven't really met anyone as hot as her which is probably why i texted her.

Dust...yeah that is what I thought. Even if she was having problems in her life, if she was interested she would have told me what was going on so that i would not take off with some other girl. And yeah this thing about needing her ankle to get better and get a new job before she can see me sounds like BS. I am sure she is still seeing her friends and staying in touch with her friends.

It is weird, I wasn't expecting her to reply as like i said the last time i texted her she just ignored it....so i am not sure why she is trying to justify herself now and saying she doesn't want me to think bad of her.

The other thing was that line "I just want you to know you are a nice guy"....it sounds like a classic low interest line
 

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Hmm, could be low interest here.

She said 'when she gets well, she'll see you'...So see if she does. Don't txt her again, and just see if she ever txts you again. If she does, she probably does want to see you. If you..you know she's not very interested.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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