Recently El Stud created a thread about Ghetto chicks and it got me to thinking. Since there are no threads that discuss them, lets get a little discussion going about 'em and see what we can come up with. Here is my two cents on the situation. Anyone else who has dealt with ghetto chicks or has some theories, fire away!
First things first, I don't think being ghetto is correlated to having no money. For example, I think a JAP (Jewish American Princess) who feels she is entitled to everything is acting ghetto, as is a gold-digger who has money but wants yours. To me the idea of acting ghetto is being overly materialistic or confrontational to mask insecurities. In my opinion, the underlying reason behind ghetto behaviour is an upbringing with warped values based on previous experiences.
These out of wack values are the hardest thing for your average Joe to understand about these chicks. It is almost unfathomable to imagine how ghetto girls were either spoiled rotten or treated like sh!t all their lives, and why they act the way they do. they practically come from a different planet
so as a result, the average guy has little/no success with these women. Once you understand how her illogical behavior is actually logical based on the experiences she has had in life, the game gets so much easier.
Speaking of different planets, Ghetto people are, for the most part, either on one side of the end of the spectrum or the polar opposite when it comes to their relationship experiences. The reason being that middle class morality concerning dating and etiquette don't apply for either the spoiled or the abused. You are either too downtrodden to buy into the romantic ideals... or so spoiled that you feel entitled to them.
For spoiled ghetto chicks, their lives really are akin to the materialism you see on The OC or 90210. Since I have had little experience dealing with these kind of ghetto chicks personally, I won't delve into this.
For the abused ones, their lives really are as fvcked up as an after-school special. For the ghetto women I've encountered thus far, they have had to deal with sh!t that has had a lasting result on their lives. These chicks have complexes so big it can house a football stadium full of people.
Like most things in seduction, it all boils down to insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something, but the difference is with abused ghetto chicks they try to veil their insecurities with aggressive behaviour. Understanding the insecurity of a ghetto chick is key to getting what you want out of them.
There are three main ways I know that work for ghetto chicks (and a combination of the three of the for keeping a ghetto chick)
1) Speak her language: aka be as insecure as she is
For example, I know a chick that was abandonded temporarily when she was younger. As expected, when it comes to people she loves, she has trust issues. In her relationship life, she is happiest when she is bragging to others about how her boyfriend went through her phone and deleted all the guys phone numbers she had, how he acts possessive or gets into physical fights with her when she goes out and parties. She keeps repeating a phrase he says, that "she doesn't understand the effect she has on him" as if it really struck a chord with her
This guy is "speaking her language" because he is acting as insecure as she is. Because of her past, she needs constant reaffirmation of his 'love' for her and he does this, unknowingly, and albeit, in a rather poor fashion. Words simply won't do, and neither will roses and chocolate. This chick NEEDS to know that she is having the utmost affect on his life and that he needs her in his life 24/7. Possessive behaviour and physical abuse lets her know she is 'loved'.
Another tactic that works with these chicks is just being over the top with them. These are the kind of chicks who will believe you if you tell them you love them when you barely know anything about them, or pump their ego up so that they think they are God's gift to man.
2) Speak your own language aka be confident enough for the both of you
When a ghetto chick comes at you. You have to be Alpha (for lack of a better phrase). However, it is not as simple as telling a b!tch what she gonna do, you have to be unphazed by what she does.
Ghetto chicks are notorious for trying to insult or talk sh!t if they feel threatened or insecure. Once they do that, instead of exchanging insults or walking away, smile and feign being hurt by what she said in an obviously comical way or do a little jig randomly. There shouldn't a drop of malicious intent in your response because, like a child, you know that she is acting out. She doesn't mean what she says but that is how she defends herself.
You should be happy she does this because that is when you know you are in like Erroll Flynn. She is trying to hurt you before you can hurt her. Perception precedes reality with the insecure and they would rather look in control and hurt on the inside than look out of control. Once you take the power away from her words and actions in the situation, she has nothing left to fall back on.
3) Elicit Values aka make her more confident
Probably the quickest one, but it's the least used. Find out what she is insecure about, find out how she would feel if she was takin out of that environment or how she felt when she was in that environment and then do whatever makes her feel good.
For example:
You: So what was it like growing up?
Ghetto Chick: Yo man, sh!t was mad tough, Knaaamean son. You understand me, so come get some of this ghetto pvssy!
Lol. alright jokes aside
You: So what was hardest about growing up?
Ghetto Chick: Not having any money, hustling to survive, blah blah
You: Yea that must be pretty tough... that must have made you feel weird having to do that at such a young age, innit?
Ghetto Chick: yea. I remember going to school and hoping people didn't realize I was wearing the same clothes that my sister wore the week before.
You: Wow that must have been tough, how did you feel those days?
Ghetto Chick: I... dunno. Helpless? Some days I just felt like the world isn't fair. Look this is depressing, lets change the subject.
You: Yea no prob. *changes subject*
In that short conversation you see that she cares about what others think of her and she doesn't like feeling helpless. Use these values to determine what courses of actions to take in seducing her.
So to wrap things up before I start rambling, Ghetto chicks are chicks who have seemingly different values than the societal norm but if you elicit values then they are pretty much your typical chick, albeit way more insecure. If you are confident or extremely insecure, it's like, 'Holy Open Three's Batman!!!' but when you think about it... is it worth it?
These chicks are sometimes only good for a fvck but sometimes not even that because they are the kind of chicks who say that 'if he didn't want a baby he would have worn a rubber' and try and keep you in their lives by having a child, or that "Since X is a better father figure I will tell him that the baby is his" even though she would need multiple visits to the Maury Show to determine who the real father is.
What do you think about ghetto women?
First things first, I don't think being ghetto is correlated to having no money. For example, I think a JAP (Jewish American Princess) who feels she is entitled to everything is acting ghetto, as is a gold-digger who has money but wants yours. To me the idea of acting ghetto is being overly materialistic or confrontational to mask insecurities. In my opinion, the underlying reason behind ghetto behaviour is an upbringing with warped values based on previous experiences.
These out of wack values are the hardest thing for your average Joe to understand about these chicks. It is almost unfathomable to imagine how ghetto girls were either spoiled rotten or treated like sh!t all their lives, and why they act the way they do. they practically come from a different planet
so as a result, the average guy has little/no success with these women. Once you understand how her illogical behavior is actually logical based on the experiences she has had in life, the game gets so much easier.
Speaking of different planets, Ghetto people are, for the most part, either on one side of the end of the spectrum or the polar opposite when it comes to their relationship experiences. The reason being that middle class morality concerning dating and etiquette don't apply for either the spoiled or the abused. You are either too downtrodden to buy into the romantic ideals... or so spoiled that you feel entitled to them.
For spoiled ghetto chicks, their lives really are akin to the materialism you see on The OC or 90210. Since I have had little experience dealing with these kind of ghetto chicks personally, I won't delve into this.
For the abused ones, their lives really are as fvcked up as an after-school special. For the ghetto women I've encountered thus far, they have had to deal with sh!t that has had a lasting result on their lives. These chicks have complexes so big it can house a football stadium full of people.
Like most things in seduction, it all boils down to insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something, but the difference is with abused ghetto chicks they try to veil their insecurities with aggressive behaviour. Understanding the insecurity of a ghetto chick is key to getting what you want out of them.
There are three main ways I know that work for ghetto chicks (and a combination of the three of the for keeping a ghetto chick)
1) Speak her language: aka be as insecure as she is
For example, I know a chick that was abandonded temporarily when she was younger. As expected, when it comes to people she loves, she has trust issues. In her relationship life, she is happiest when she is bragging to others about how her boyfriend went through her phone and deleted all the guys phone numbers she had, how he acts possessive or gets into physical fights with her when she goes out and parties. She keeps repeating a phrase he says, that "she doesn't understand the effect she has on him" as if it really struck a chord with her
This guy is "speaking her language" because he is acting as insecure as she is. Because of her past, she needs constant reaffirmation of his 'love' for her and he does this, unknowingly, and albeit, in a rather poor fashion. Words simply won't do, and neither will roses and chocolate. This chick NEEDS to know that she is having the utmost affect on his life and that he needs her in his life 24/7. Possessive behaviour and physical abuse lets her know she is 'loved'.
Another tactic that works with these chicks is just being over the top with them. These are the kind of chicks who will believe you if you tell them you love them when you barely know anything about them, or pump their ego up so that they think they are God's gift to man.
2) Speak your own language aka be confident enough for the both of you
When a ghetto chick comes at you. You have to be Alpha (for lack of a better phrase). However, it is not as simple as telling a b!tch what she gonna do, you have to be unphazed by what she does.
Ghetto chicks are notorious for trying to insult or talk sh!t if they feel threatened or insecure. Once they do that, instead of exchanging insults or walking away, smile and feign being hurt by what she said in an obviously comical way or do a little jig randomly. There shouldn't a drop of malicious intent in your response because, like a child, you know that she is acting out. She doesn't mean what she says but that is how she defends herself.
You should be happy she does this because that is when you know you are in like Erroll Flynn. She is trying to hurt you before you can hurt her. Perception precedes reality with the insecure and they would rather look in control and hurt on the inside than look out of control. Once you take the power away from her words and actions in the situation, she has nothing left to fall back on.
3) Elicit Values aka make her more confident
Probably the quickest one, but it's the least used. Find out what she is insecure about, find out how she would feel if she was takin out of that environment or how she felt when she was in that environment and then do whatever makes her feel good.
For example:
You: So what was it like growing up?
Ghetto Chick: Yo man, sh!t was mad tough, Knaaamean son. You understand me, so come get some of this ghetto pvssy!
Lol. alright jokes aside
You: So what was hardest about growing up?
Ghetto Chick: Not having any money, hustling to survive, blah blah
You: Yea that must be pretty tough... that must have made you feel weird having to do that at such a young age, innit?
Ghetto Chick: yea. I remember going to school and hoping people didn't realize I was wearing the same clothes that my sister wore the week before.
You: Wow that must have been tough, how did you feel those days?
Ghetto Chick: I... dunno. Helpless? Some days I just felt like the world isn't fair. Look this is depressing, lets change the subject.
You: Yea no prob. *changes subject*
In that short conversation you see that she cares about what others think of her and she doesn't like feeling helpless. Use these values to determine what courses of actions to take in seducing her.
So to wrap things up before I start rambling, Ghetto chicks are chicks who have seemingly different values than the societal norm but if you elicit values then they are pretty much your typical chick, albeit way more insecure. If you are confident or extremely insecure, it's like, 'Holy Open Three's Batman!!!' but when you think about it... is it worth it?
These chicks are sometimes only good for a fvck but sometimes not even that because they are the kind of chicks who say that 'if he didn't want a baby he would have worn a rubber' and try and keep you in their lives by having a child, or that "Since X is a better father figure I will tell him that the baby is his" even though she would need multiple visits to the Maury Show to determine who the real father is.
What do you think about ghetto women?