GF's phone has been off for almost 3 days

[MattS]

Alright so my GF is a little nuts you can say. Shes depressed sometimes and has anxiety she is on meds but she just gets weird once in a blue moon. She just got back from vacation. When she was in the airport her phone died. When she got back we hung out fvcked and thought she was fine. I did have to her buy her food for the week though cause she is broke after her vacation.

She did mention at her house that "i get depressed after I drink a lot i told myself to stop doing bad things to my body." I was like well maybe you get depressed more cause you dont eat normally. typical chick issues. So that morning i leave to work kiss her on the lips and say bye. She usually calls around 730 or so. Well no call. I call her goes straight to voicemail. Im like uh ok. I try again like 30 minutes later straight to voicemail and try one more time same thing. Today I left my phone at home. I get home and no call from her. I call her around 745 straight to voicemail try agian with my home phone same thing. Now im like wtf is going on? I do remember one time when she left her phone off for a couple of days but i dont recall how long maybe a day or two but i was with her so her phone had to be on at some point. Im going to drive to her house and see if shes even home or her lights are on. Cause you never know. Im not going to knock or anything cause if shes home she just wants to be left alone which is fine. I just wanna make sure shes ok though. And no shes not fvcking anyone shes just fvcked up in the head sometimes. any similar situations? She wouldnt be dumb enough to fvck anyone else considering I live 30 secons away from her.

 

[MattS]

Bump...I drove by her place she wasnt home. she does stay at work late so shes probably there but still. Now that I think of it also she was listening to that new beyonce song "if I were a boy" she was like listen to these lyrics this is my new favorite song. At one point the song goes "I would turn off my phone tell everyone its broken so they would think im sleeping alone, i put myself first blah blah blah cause I know he would be faithful and wait for me to come home." lol wtf shes fvckin 28 acting like a little dam kid. When the phone calls come from her either tomorrow or within the next 3 days she is going to hear it, unacceptable sh1t.

When she calls im thinking of saying "well let me start out by saying fvck you did your mommy pick up from daycare and let you turn on the phone now?" Shes going to say sorry i lost my phone i was just at work cause i had to catch up or some lame excuse. THen I will go on to say "wtf is up with doing that? you 10 years old or what? grow the fvck up. I dont even know if I wanna see you let alone talk to u cause that is ridiculous and disrepectful towards me. Your attitude is sh1t keep acting like that and youll find yourself not alone for 3 days but for a while atleast from me." Depending on her reaction if its not what i want im going to say "well someone came down from so and so to see me tonight (shell immediatley think of my ex) and im going to see them so ill talk to you when they leave town if my phone dies ill call you in 5 days."

 

[DJDamage]

Why are you putting up with her bullsh1t??!! Listen your girl is fvcked up, she probably is bipolar (look up the symptoms).

I used to date a chick like that. One day she was fine and the next she could be depressed. She used to make me believe that she was capable of killing herself if she got really depressed and I was always on pins and needles hoping she will get over her 'episode' and be happy again.

This girl is fvcking with your mind, the fact that you feel the need to go over there proves it. In all likelyhood she is fine and she will call you again out of the blue like nothing happen (she will come up with some bullsh1t excuse that will be unsatisfactory to you - a sane human being).

 

[MattS]

i know shes ok she told me her ex let her do anything she wanted and they sometimes didnt talk for a day or two. I know shell call im just thinking of a good way to go about it. Either talk to her sternly and let her know whats up or act like i dont care and be nonchalant.

 

[DJDamage]

Either talk to her sternly and let her know whats up or act like i dont care and be nonchalant.

You got to put your foot down. Tell her that you ain't her ex and this kind of behaviour you won't tolerate especially since of the nature of her condition. One more bullsh1t like this and you are out.

Acting like you don't care will just shows that you will put up with her sh1t and she will do it again.

Personally I think she needs a shrink and nothing you say or do will help in the long run.

 

[MattS]

Good cause i was considering acting like its ok. When I was younger I would right away just say fvck it and cuss their azz out like to no end. I probalby wont do that but im goin to say she better buy me dinner suck my d1ck under the dinner table at the restaurant and next time there is going to be no answer to her phone calls. geezus this is what I get for dropping and picking her up from the airport buying her azz food so she can survive to her next paycheck buying her azz a massage nice dinner and not making her pay for liquor at the bar. That sh1t is probably gong to stop for a while. I should get her back bad and say "something happened last night...i met a girl at the bar and I fvcked her wore a condom of course thoguh...im sorry i thought we were done cause we didnt talk for 3 days." she will probalby lose it then.

 

[penkitten]

damage is right... she can't help it, but she's fvcked up in the head. she seriously needs help. by turning off her phone for a few days, she is trying to get you all worried so that you will show her some attention, and attention is what a bipoloar person thinks they need.
bipolar people don't mean to mess things up or cause drama or mess up their relationships, but with lack of meds and therapy... it happens and it happens alot.
she needs to seriously work on herself , rather than be in a relationship right now.

and if she really is hiding in the apartment, wanting to be left alone, and possibly contemplating killing herself, or if you are scared of that, perhaps the police should be the ones to go check on her. you can call them and say she has been depressed since the return of her vacation and is now not answering her phone for days, please send an officer out to do a welfare check to see that she didn't hurt herself.

 

[KontrollerX]

Why are you even messing around with this nutcase when you have the DJ Bible, the great posters here and just all the information in general of this site to get you practically any chick that you want without the mental fvck ups???

Do you enjoy frustration and the never ending drama rollercoaster or something??

 

[Gamble]

Why are you putting up with her bullsh1t??!! Listen your girl is fvcked up, she probably is bipolar (look up the symptoms).

I used to date a chick like that. One day she was fine and the next she could be depressed. She used to make me believe that she was capable of killing herself if she got really depressed and I was always on pins and needles hoping she will get over her 'episode' and be happy again.

This girl is fvcking with your mind, the fact that you feel the need to go over there proves it. In all likelyhood she is fine and she will call you again out of the blue like nothing happen (she will come up with some bullsh1t excuse that will be unsatisfactory to you - a sane human being).

wow that is a great post, my ex-gf i was dating for 1 year we just recently split. She was the exact same. I know exactly how you feel and now I understand what it is that makes her act this way.

 

[shaunuk]

What everyone else said. Why would a normal girl not take a call from her boyfriend for three days...and if she HAD lost/broke her phone, any normal girl would walk the 2 minutes to your house to say hi. She's not right in the head.

 

[MattS]

Well I wrote her a text this morning. "U 5 yrs old? Grow the fvck up. U know how to turn someone off. Im not a fvckin chump so go be fvcked up to someone else. Im done, good job.
The sick part is I wrote those words so one I can tell her she's an idiot and two I know when she reads that she isn't going to pull back and shell call me when she puts her phone on. Im going to answer. The convo well probably go something like this

Her hey
Me u didn't get my text?
Her no I just turned my phone on I've been working late
Me oh...so u think u can call me up after two days and being disrespectful and talk to me normal? Ur fvcked up.
Her I jusr wanted to be alone and catch up at work
Me good for u can't even turn on ur phone or stop by?
Her I was getting home late.
Me god ur fvckin selfish I can't deal with this sh1t. Go be like that to someone else. Why do u think ur entitled to act like that im not a fvcking push over? I see u later
Her no wait..im sorry
Me tell me ur sorry and will never pull some sh1t like that again cause I will be done for good next time.
Her blah blah blah sorry.

Then when I see her in person im going to lay into her one more time and bring up that she is mentally fvcked up.

Shell call soon I know her well enoigh that what I said will have her come to me.

I know she's a nut. I just wanna let her know she's fvcked up and a coupole of other things. Lol why can't I ever get a normal girl? Probably cause3 im a little nuts myself but she defenatley taskes the cake and eats it too.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Keep us posted, i gotta know how this ends.

 

[MattS]

Yea oak I willl post as soon as I know. I know crazy sh1t. Im thinking she will call around 6 or 7 tonight if not then at 2am, if not then tomorow morning. If no calls ill call her tomorrow afternoon after a poker tourney but shell most likley call before that. Im curious too. Im thinking after I give her a stern talk well end up being normal again that is if she caklls or answers.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

RE:Well I wrote her a text this morning. "U 5 yrs old? Grow the fvck up. U know how to turn someone off. Im not a fvckin chump so go be fvcked up to someone else. Im done, good job.

guys - any example of NOT what to do.

instead this is how it works;

say ' your phone seems to be off all the time. I am worried about if you are OK. Can you please let me know everything is alright. I didnt get any sleep last night'

then when you next see her, you tell her calmly that you were worried, and it was not fair on you to be left in that position. If it was reversed, you would never want to put her in the position of worrying whether you were safe or not. In future, whatever the reason, please do not do this again.

THEN if she ever does do it again, YOU give her the boot because then she really has crossed the line AFTER you told her straight up what the deal is.

game set and match to you :yes:

 

[MattS]

Dude u gotta realize this girl aint normal. I've been nice to her all the time and calmly said sh1t to her. She's like fine. But I've also said stiff like its probably not best to do so and so so don't do that sh1t again. She responds more to that. Honestly she doesn't call she doesntprobably beter for me cause this girl flips moods like a dam pancake. A normal girl I would be respectful. Wtf would I be respectful to someone who doesn't contact me for three days who @can simply drive 30 seconds down the street? Would u? This girl is going to be lonely and crack when she sees that text. She might not call today but this weekened I can put my car on it thaty shell call. If im like im worried blah blah shell think oh that's cute thanks for caring ill talk to u later. She knowswhat she's doing. I do care but im doing it in a way to let her know that sh1t doesn't fly and im willing to walk away right now unlees she puts in the effort to call me. Look wher being respectful and nice got me. In this situation of being disrespected. I give u the whole convo when or if she calls cause I aint calling her im going to make her feel lonely and isolated. She's emotional and will respond and do whaylt I say unless I call first and reward her for doing this.

 

[Jeffst1980]

MattS-- You are a mess. Your girl isn't the only one with issues. You just spend 4-5 stalker-ish posts imagining how you were going to tell her off!

You claim that you are worried about her and care about her, but in reality you're just being desperate and selfish. That text message you sent her was needy and classless, and now you want to try to make her feel "lonely and isolated" and tell her that she's messed up in the head to get back at her. That's NOT a healthy mindset for a DJ to adopt.

Your girl has issues and you shouldn't be dating her. This is a typical "red flag" woman, and the fact that she's 28 means she's unlikely to change. You are certainly not going to change her behavior no matter what you do.

Just walk away. I would say trying to contact her out of worry for her safety is fine, but you're not genuinely worried about her safety. Don't send any more angry texts--it's not going to raise her IL. Don't make up stories about having sex with another girl--that's pathetic high school behavior. When you do finally talk to her, stay completely calm and state that you no longer wish to be with her because her behavior was unacceptable to you. That's it--no lecture. Wish her well and cut contact with her.

That's how a DJ breaks up with a girl. There's no game playing. There's no emotional manipulation. There's no lashing out in anger. It's just business. You are the boss and you are "firing" the girl.

This is important because you have a reputation to uphold. When you let some chick sully your reputation by provoking you to behave like an angry, desperate chump, you compromise yourself as a man.

Walking away is the most powerful thing you can do. YOU are the prize, and as such there is no need to state this to her.

 

[DJDamage]

MattS-- You are a mess. Your girl isn't the only one with issues. You just spend 4-5 stalker-ish posts imagining how you were going to tell her off!

You claim that you are worried about her and care about her, but in reality you're just being desperate and selfish. That text message you sent her was needy and classless, and now you want to try to make her feel "lonely and isolated" and tell her that she's messed up in the head to get back at her. That's NOT a healthy mindset for a DJ to adopt.

Your girl has issues and you shouldn't be dating her. This is a typical "red flag" woman, and the fact that she's 28 means she's unlikely to change. You are certainly not going to change her behavior no matter what you do.

Just walk away. I would say trying to contact her out of worry for her safety is fine, but you're not genuinely worried about her safety. Don't send any more angry texts--it's not going to raise her IL. Don't make up stories about having sex with another girl--that's pathetic high school behavior. When you do finally talk to her, stay completely calm and state that you no longer wish to be with her because her behavior was unacceptable to you. That's it--no lecture. Wish her well and cut contact with her.

That's how a DJ breaks up with a girl. There's no game playing. There's no emotional manipulation. There's no lashing out in anger. It's just business. You are the boss and you are "firing" the girl.

This is important because you have a reputation to uphold. When you let some chick sully your reputation by provoking you to behave like an angry, desperate chump, you compromise yourself as a man.

Walking away is the most powerful thing you can do. YOU are the prize, and as such there is no need to state this to her.

 

[WalkingStick]

MattS-- You are a mess. Your girl isn't the only one with issues. You just spend 4-5 stalker-ish posts imagining how you were going to tell her off!

You claim that you are worried about her and care about her, but in reality you're just being desperate and selfish. That text message you sent her was needy and classless, and now you want to try to make her feel "lonely and isolated" and tell her that she's messed up in the head to get back at her. That's NOT a healthy mindset for a DJ to adopt.

Your girl has issues and you shouldn't be dating her. This is a typical "red flag" woman, and the fact that she's 28 means she's unlikely to change. You are certainly not going to change her behavior no matter what you do.

Just walk away. I would say trying to contact her out of worry for her safety is fine, but you're not genuinely worried about her safety. Don't send any more angry texts--it's not going to raise her IL. Don't make up stories about having sex with another girl--that's pathetic high school behavior. When you do finally talk to her, stay completely calm and state that you no longer wish to be with her because her behavior was unacceptable to you. That's it--no lecture. Wish her well and cut contact with her.

That's how a DJ breaks up with a girl. There's no game playing. There's no emotional manipulation. There's no lashing out in anger. It's just business. You are the boss and you are "firing" the girl.

This is important because you have a reputation to uphold. When you let some chick sully your reputation by provoking you to behave like an angry, desperate chump, you compromise yourself as a man.

Walking away is the most powerful thing you can do. YOU are the prize, and as such there is no need to state this to her.

+1 PERFECT.

For God sakes, Matt, be a man

 

[scottfall]

Ive been there Matt and like the last few posts have said.. be the bigger person. If you are tired of the BS, move on. If not, work the situation to favor you. You hold all the power and choose to give it away through txt'ing, calling and driving by to check up on her.