GF's mother hates me

Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Da Realist

Master Don Juan

Sep 9, 2006

Sounds like what happened to me. Keep in mind I'm as far from being a thug as you can get, but the my gf's mom didn't believe in interracial dating and thought I shouldn't be with her daughter. I met her and though things went well, but heard she hadn't changed her mind. A year later, my girl wanted to break up just to make her mom happy. I asked her what she really wanted to do and she said it was to be with me, and we're still together. My only advice is to toughen up and keep treating your girl good. Her mom is going to dislike you no matter what you do, so do what you can and leave the rest alone.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.