"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Gf's jealous friend trying to ruin my relationship!?

kev me723

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Women are b*tches. My relationship with my gf is great, but her best friend is now single and wants to ruin it. The advice from this very site is true! She wants my gf to be single with her. It's not my fault she can't get a guy what the hell.

In short, she bought my gf a 140$ christmas preasant and claims that half of it will get me really pissed off. Aside from that she whines that the never hang out nemore etc.. don't look at me though, my gf always says she'd rather hang out with me anyway, so it's not a problem yet, but I can definetly see where this is going. Do I just ignore it? say something? suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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crust45833

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Tough situation. If you ignore it it could develop into a problem. If you confront it it could seem like you are paranoid or insulting her best friend. My advice would be to lightly bring up the situation to your girlfriend. Dont act paranoid or worried just inform her and keep your cool.
 

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I also had that. Dont let Your girl chill with this 'friend' an say that it looks bad for You. Dont ignore situation because it may get very dangerous. Also try to diss the friend a little like saying 'damn shes still alone? She has really bad character propably'''
 
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I would just relax, and just see how it would turns out. Try not to think of this so negatively becuase she might be doin that cus she likes you, its untelling but being relax and comfortable with any sitiation your in is rare!
 

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your gf doesnt like that chick either and is just being nice to her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Just be calm through the "storm".....Handle things strategically. Be calm about it...just talk to the gf of your gf...in a calm fashion....just let her know that, " your girl is 'yours' and that there is nothing she can do to break you two up."
 

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Well this chick is her best friend so they are gonna keep hangin out. But it turned out 2 not be that big of a deal anyway. Her friend gave her her preasents today and mine is gonna be just as good if not better anyway. She would still always rather hang out with me (like we are tomorrow) and her friend isn't mean enough to actually try to break us up. I'll probably just chill for now.

I've got some other sh*t since we work together, so there's plenty of problems there.. look for another post about that sumtime soon..
 
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