"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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GF's birthday in 3 days... anyone?

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K so my girlfriends bday is in 3 days. We've been together for about 2 months. What do I get her? I've never really bought a present for a girl at all hah... I'm thinking some kind of jewelry, not rediculously expensive, but obviously not cheap. I have money, I just don't really want to spend a rediculous amount, because I don't need to :cool: However, I still want to get something really good. I'm going to the mall thurs, but I don't really know what works well in this situation for sure. Who knows whats going on here?
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Originally posted by The Master Disaster
give her a high 5
Lol yeah... go to her... say "I got you something." Reach in your pocket and pull your hand out flat and give her a high 5...

Just like people when they owe somebody "Oh yeah, here you go." and pull out their middle finger from when they take their hands out of their pocket
 

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nah here i don't think you have to do anything so unique. I think the high 5 idea will get her to laugh somewhat but I wouldn't JUST give her a high 5. I think buying her a neclace from tiffany's or something. Remember this is your GF not just a random girl you know!
 

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Originally posted by toddC
nah here i don't think you have to do anything so unique. I think the high 5 idea will get her to laugh somewhat but I wouldn't JUST give her a high 5. I think buying her a neclace from tiffany's or something. Remember this is your GF not just a random girl you know!
this is highschool not rich boys who are looking for marriage. A tiffany's braclet is well over $2000.
 

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I QUOTE Buy her something small, stupid and UNIQUE.

ie) a bobblehead of orlando bloom (as an example) UNQUOTE Myself
 

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just make her dinner or a picnic something simple and cheap.... they love it and youl get some serious macking .... =P
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

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I'm thinking of getting a friend of mine a charm bracelet for xmas, personalised pieces etc, about 30$. If you're willing to look, alwyas go for something unique and memorable that they can have with them any time.
 

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You stole my idea for my friend!!! Stop reading mind with mind powers!!

*uses the Force on MrS*
*Reflected back by you not being here right now*
*..ow!*
 

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You guys are stupid. A ****in bobblehead?


Dude, dress up nicely, take her out to anice dinner, bring flowers, and take like a nice little walk or something. Something she'd love to tell to her friends after you drop her off.


No wonder you guys get no girls!

Originally posted by Morphiex
just make her dinner or a picnic something simple and cheap.... they love it and youl get some serious macking .... =P
This is pretty good also.
 

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ok dude you might think im cheap but where i live, i dun really buy girls really expensive stuff.

So here it goes,

1) Go to the movie with her and buy her ticket ($15)

2) Get her a bracelet (like the silver ones / $10)

3) Get her a necklace... (they can be cheap too / $10)

4) if u have money buy her purfume ($20)

5) bake her a cake or buy her one ($15)

yeah thats it. Arent i so smart:)

heh...high five....:crackup:
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Buy her something......and take her somewhere special...it doesn't have to be expensive.....but take her some where that you haven't been in awhile....
 

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Dude, you know her better than we do...

Buy her a stuffed animal of her favorite...Whatever it is. If you are feeling really generous, get one of those little trinkets (necklace, ring, bracelet, whatever) that you can get for a small price somewhere. Then put it around/on the stuffed animal. Done.

Oh, and dinner couldn't hurt. But don't overplay it.
 

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Alright kids, listen up. I went to the mall yesterday and after some looking, got the goods. I got a bracelet that has some silver and has blue topaz stones in it (december birthstone). It is nice, and actually with after thanksgiving deals, wasn't too pricey. The plan is to take her out to dinner at a new place that just opened, which is romantic and nice and not over the top in price by any means. Great plan right. it was.

That is, until my parents picked me up at 3am sat morning, drunk, with the police, from my friends house, where we were partying. Dammit. This means that I have to delay the bday dinner until next weekend. This is fine with her and is really my only choice.

There is one more slight problem, however. Her dad took her out tonight and gave her blah blah and a BLUE TOPAZ BRACELET. seriously. my luck CANNOT get any worse right now. That's ok though, cuz I'm not giving up and I *know* that soon enough, I will kick ass again.

The question is, though, do I give her my bracelet (it CAN'T be the same one, that would just be way too rediculous) or get something else instead. i am pretty sure I'm just giving it to her instead cuz she'll like it better than the other one anyway cuz it's from me :) but if anyone has some crazy or good or preferably both of those 2 ideas, let me know. Thanks boys
 

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Ok, so here's what happened. Her dad gave her money for her bday and she liked this braclet and picked it ou HERSELF. So I go over to her house yesterday to hang out and give it to her. Well goddamn what do you kno it's the same one. hilarious i kno. quite funny to everyone except for me. At least i picked something that she would have liked since she bought it herself anyway.

She actually said she wasn't expecting anything from me and loved it anyway. Good thing I got the gift receipt so I can get her something she didn't ALREADY BUY.

It's ok though, I just have her something else she didn't have for a little while while I was over there :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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