Gf would let me have 3some. Advice needed!

[AdamJ]

We were in bed after sex last night and I brought up the topic of fantasies. I talked about stuff I'd want to do just for the experience and a 3some was one of them.

My gf said she wouldn't like to see me having sex with someone else but would do it if it was a one off or for something special like my birthday. I asked her why she would want to do something that might hurt her. She replied by saying "Because I want to please you. I'd do it if it makes you happy".

Now I am torn. I actually like this girl and we've been together almost 3 years. I'm the only guy (and girl lol) she's ever been with as well. I guess I just don't want to hurt her or do something that could jaepordise our relationship. But at the same time it's the tricycle. The holy grail of sexual experiences.

 

[Jaylan]

The quickest way to damage your relationship is inviting others into it in any way. Its the rare couple that can deal with sex with outsiders, and not have negative ramifications.

Id advise not doing it. And speaking from experience, 3-somes are overrated. Id much rather have great sex with a woman I cared about.

If your gf doesnt want to see you have sex with someone else, dont fvk your relationship up by being selfish.

 

[TheException]

The quickest way to damage your relationship is inviting others into it in any way. Its the rare couple that can deal with sex with outsiders, and not have negative ramifications.

Id advise not doing it. And speaking from experience, 3-somes are overrated. Id much rather have great sex with a woman I cared about.

If your gf doesnt want to see you have sex with someone else, dont fvk your relationship up by being selfish.

Cosigned.

Never invite people into your sex life within an exclusive relationship....someone is gonna get jealous or maybe she feels like you now owe her a 3 some with a guy.

Keep threesomes to complete strangers.....works best that way.

 

[El Payaso]

Personally, I never saw the appeal of threesomes. Do what makes you happy but consider her feelings as well.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dude if you are really the first guy she has been with then do her a favor and assume she has no idea what she is talking about. Trust me she is not ready to watch you pipe some other girl (that might look better than her) in front of her. At least let her pick the girl if you're gonna try it.

On another note it's a minor red flag that she is so casual about your relationship.... jus sayin man.

 

[VladPatton]

Maybe you said threesome and she's thinking about you, another dude, and her getting boned in the middle like a pig on a spit. Or perhaps The Eiffel Tower? lol

Seriously, keep that crazy sex shıt  away from a good, solid relationship. That stuff is good for when you know a bunch of drunk, coked-up, hot club chicks that are bored on a Friday night.

 

[goldengoose]

My gf said she wouldn't like to see me having sex with someone else but would do it if it was a one off or for something special like my birthday. I asked her why she would want to do something that might hurt her. She replied by saying "Because I want to please you. I'd do it if it makes you happy".

She goes from "I'm too tired to have sex" to "I would do a 3 some to make you happy but I really don't want you to bang another girl."

Chicks who talk like this are insecure and have issues They will do anything even though they don't want to for the sake of another person to please them. These chicks feel uncapable of pleasing you normally so they have to do other things to make you happy. Mostly through sexual favors, buying you stuff, cleaning etc. Confident women with self esteem will do things they want because they want to, not compromise their self worth for another person.

If you do this, it will ruin your relationship, and more of her self esteem watching you banging another girl and enjoying yourself doing it. She will feel less than what she does already and feel guilty for doing something she really doesn't want to do. Only do that if she wants to, not because she is trying to "please" you in some way she normally can't. I wouldn't even attempt this at all, even if she says it's a good idea.

 

[AdamJ]

She goes from "I'm too tired to have sex" to "I would do a 3 some to make you happy but I really don't want you to bang another girl."

Chicks who talk like this are insecure and have issues They will do anything even though they don't want to for the sake of another person to please them. These chicks feel uncapable of pleasing you normally so they have to do other things to make you happy. Mostly through sexual favors, buying you stuff, cleaning etc. Confident women with self esteem will do things they want because they want to, not compromise their self worth for another person.

If you do this, it will ruin your relationship, and more of her self esteem watching you banging another girl and enjoying yourself doing it. She will feel less than what she does already and feel guilty for doing something she really doesn't want to do. Only do that if she wants to, not because she is trying to "please" you in some way she normally can't. I wouldn't even attempt this at all, even if she says it's a good idea.

Your negativity is beyond comprehension. It's sad.

If you even bothered to read the past situation the problem was with me not being sexually aggressive enough. Nowhere was there said I'm too tired to have sex. I didn't even try to have sex with her. FYI we screwed the night before. That's why she was so tired...oh and then on the Tuesday, oh and then the Thursday. Turnip. :rockon:

 

[Jaylan]

OP, dont ignore the advice given by fixating on a comment made regarding a past thread. Btw, in that thread YOU interpreted her saying she was tired as her being too tired for sex (or an outright denial of sex), and then YOU overreacted to that situation. So trying to jump on goldengoose for doing the same thing you did is reallly hypocritical.

Lets stick to the topic at hand though. Everyone has told you to stay away from the 3-some. What are you thoughts on that?

 

[Atom Smasher]

Not only that, but dollars-to-donuts, if the threesome happens, she'll start fantasizing about sex with another man in order to compensate for the jealously she will feel.

Listen to what the guys have unanimously said... they're right.

 

[goldengoose]

Your negativity is beyond comprehension. It's sad.

If you even bothered to read the past situation the problem was with me not being sexually aggressive enough. Nowhere was there said I'm too tired to have sex. I didn't even try to have sex with her. FYI we screwed the night before. That's why she was so tired...oh and then on the Tuesday, oh and then the Thursday. Turnip. :rockon:

What negativity? There is none. Your memory is a bit fuzzy because you wrote a thread where you were pissed off when you said you were denied sex when your girlfriend said she was "tired". You said that.

My gf and I see each other 2 or 3 times a week on average. We are just making our way back from a gig. It's still quite early. About 10. I expect her to come back to mine but she says she's "tired". I say fair enough and then come back home alone but to be honest I'm quite annoyed.

That's the thing though. I dont want do tolerate this at all. Ive spoken to guys who have been with their gfs 2+ years who've never been denied sex. Even in their periods their gfs will suck them dry.

I can't see her getting the message any other way than a dump or overt cheating.

Your words and thoughts that you overreacted to. What do you think of that? Jaylan pointed it out as well.

 

[AdamJ]

OP, dont ignore the advice given by fixating on a comment made regarding a past thread. Btw, in that thread YOU interpreted her saying she was tired as her being too tired for sex (or an outright denial of sex), and then YOU overreacted to that situation. So trying to jump on goldengoose for doing the same thing you did is reallly hypocritical.

Lets stick to the topic at hand though. Everyone has told you to stay away from the 3-some. What are you thoughts on that?

True. I guess you and exception are right.

Going through with it would be selfish since I know she's not really as interested.

Plus, it's one of those things where was you've done it it can't be undone and I'd rather not ruin a good thing.

Thanks.

 

[F8009]

Would you be Ok with a threesome with another man?

Because that very well could be her request a month later.

THIS.

Or not even a request, but a silent right to do it behind your back. And this time she actually has nice foundation for rationalisation.

 

[MOTU]

Now if it were HER fantasy to be eating the other chick while you banged her from behind, THAT would be better

 

[Bible_Belt]

Now if it were HER fantasy to be eating the other chick while you banged her from behind, THAT would be better

Yeah, I was going to say that the girl has to be into the other girl for a threesome to work. If you can send her out onto a dance floor to go find another chick to make out with and bring back to you, then that's a setup for good threesome. "Make it all about her" is the rule for threesomes.

I think the OP got good advice here, and he is on the right track.

 

[Greasy Pig]

If you do it, make sure you bust with your girlfriend, not the other chick.
I heard that's the first rule of these situations.