"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cordoncordon

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bigneil said:
I've gone NC after EVERY date for the past month. She has texted first the last 12 straight times (every 2.5 days on average - note we don't communicate most days).

You know exactly how many times she has texted you straight after a date, and have it figured out to a daily average. THAT my friends is being AFC.

I am still mystified how a bisexual druggie stripper is the most "beautiful" girl in the world, but to each his own I guess.

Good luck.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What am I going to do? Call and check on her? I've gone NC after EVERY date for the past month. She has texted first the last 12 straight times (every 2.5 days on average - note we don't communicate most days). She'll text me when she's back and - get this - we'll have sex that night. When you've slept with an HB9+ for 6 months straight, there is no AFC. Some just can't handle the truth because - let's face it, they're not sleeping with a hot 20 year old.

If my lady isn't the most beautiful girl who I KNOW, then let God strike me down!

And that, my friends is the goal of every SS member: to be having a romantic relationship with the hottest girl they know. One their friends and family adore despite certain taboo. But remember: when you're over the target, you catch flak.

Bigneil...I dont know man. I just see so many red flags. I understand she is beautiful. And when you are with her you feel like you are on top of the world. It is a good feeling I am sure. Also I hope everything is on the up and up. But I would be worried for several reasons.

From her end.

-Her age. I wager she still looking for what she likes and is mentally still in the party stage.

-She is a lap dancer. I think this says something about her character.

From your end:

-you are putting a premium on her beauty I think. We all do. But dont let it blind you to reality.

When you have all the temptations going on...party..alchool...fun..guys with muscles..youth and hormes..peer pressure from her girls.bad things are liable to happen.
 

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How could dating someone be considered afc, If all this is true I certainly don't consider him afc
 

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EvilAgenda said:
Fk the other guys. If you are the sht, and women want you left and right, would you really worry about her talking to some other guy?
Exactly! Too many insecure women on here.

I wouldn't personally date a stripper though, i prefer women with class.
 

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MM92 said:
Exactly! Too many insecure women on here.

I wouldn't personally date a stripper though, i prefer women with class.
That's obviously a generalization. Some are college girls who choose lap dancing over $100,000 in debt or spending daddy's money. Mine is a lady or I wouldn't have introduced her to my friends and family (who adored her). Meanwhile, she lives alone and has lots of money saved. What a concept.

As for chickencordon's claim that I'm AFC for observing and providing statistics of my own success, that's comical. What is the point of the forum except to share details of (hopefully positive) experiences? There is nothing "Average" or "Frustrated" about having sex with your (personal) dream girl for 6 straight months or 5 straight weeks. In hopes to assist others, I simply made the important observation (looking at my cell phone history) that for the past month, I hadn't contacted her (first) once in a given day.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bigneil said:
That's obviously a generalization. Some are college girls who choose lap dancing over $100,000 in debt or spending daddy's money. Mine is a lady or I wouldn't have introduced her to my friends and family (who adored her). Meanwhile, she lives alone and has lots of money saved. What a concept.

As for chickencordon's claim that I'm AFC for observing and providing statistics of my own success, that's comical. What is the point of the forum except to share details of (hopefully positive) experiences? There is nothing "Average" or "Frustrated" about having sex with your (personal) dream girl for 6 straight months or 5 straight weeks. In hopes to assist others, I simply made the important observation (looking at my cell phone history) that for the past month, I hadn't contacted her (first) once in a given day.
You have this girl on a big pedestal in your mind! "Dream girl, Dream girl, dream girl........." To me it seems like you haven't had much success with fine girls in the past because all I hear you talk about his how good looking your girl is. You might think that in your head but it really isn't a good idea to verbalize it or show it. You need to have the mentality that you deserve dimes. Get that mack from within out. You shouldn't be saying how good your girl is to you. You should be talking about how you deserve that ****. Once you have that mentality the dimes will be coming buddy . Keep that in mind big Neil. Just my piece of advice to you because in all reality it seems like your bragging about this girl and it is rubbing people the wrong way.

Also you said you can score with other woman but this will be cheating? This isn't your girlfriend buddy, it's fair game. You have to always display that you have options. ALWAYS. Get out of fairyland and keep your eyes open buddy because if you fall your going to fall hard. Just some words of wisdom from AJ.
 

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You have this girl on a big pedestal in your mind! "Dream girl, Dream girl, dream girl........." To me it seems like you haven't had much success with fine girls in the past because all I hear you talk about his how good looking your girl is. You might think that in your head but it really isn't a good idea to verbalize it or show it. You need to have the mentality that you deserve dimes. Get that mack from within out. You shouldn't be saying how good your girl is to you. You should be talking about how you deserve that ****. Once you have that mentality the dimes will be coming buddy . Keep that in mind big Neil. Just my piece of advice to you because in all reality it seems like your bragging about this girl and it is rubbing people the wrong way.

Also you said you can score with other woman but this will be cheating? This isn't your girlfriend buddy, it's fair game. You have to always display that you have options. ALWAYS. Get out of fairyland and keep your eyes open buddy because if you fall your going to fall hard. Just some words of wisdom from AJ.
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This is SO TRUE. I wish someone had made me believe this while I was still with my "dream girl" - especially the part about showing you have options - THIS IS A MUST - of course you need to do it subtley - please do this - she has guy friends please tell me you have at least as many girl friends???? This is a must or she will start to feel she has the power (and she will). No matter how classy she is if you dont keep that balance she will take the power and everything will die
 

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I agree there. I'm going out tonight to make sure I have some exciting stories to tell her when she gets back tomorrow.

Also, she can never get the power so long as she is the one who is chasing me. I wait and she writes or I walk.
 
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