I dont want to cause gals to cheat on their bf's but since every single girl worth knowing at my school has one its kinda a situatuon im stuck in. Is there any way to just keep it casual but maby up your IL enouth that she will see me as a better choice to what she has now? Right now the one i would like to get to know has a bf on a long distance setup that doesnt do any work on his part. (she is always going to him to see him and he never makes an effort to at least visit once in a while. (baseball player))..
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Maby but the reason she told me was he was a baseball player with little time off in the past. now he didnt make the team (or starters or whatever you call it i can give a hoot about baseball) but since he has time now he still wont visit, and she said she is getting tired of it. Heck she is going out (not sure if its a full date or homework help like what i did) with some guy in her english class with the buck teeth she likes to talk about. So im guessing she is kinda looking around. I just need to rid myself of this nice guy to walk over and start being a bit more djish... just takes practice and time.. Though im wondering if i blew it already and should move on. I did pick up a friend and was bored stiff so we drove up to her work (starbucks) to grab a drink. (using my friend kinda as an excue why i went up ther and heck i do like the drink i ordered) When she saw me she said "long time no see" (she has a class with me 2 hrs earlier and I knew she would be workind) so i dono if that was a good thing or a bad thing. Sucks also because she is kinda hard to read and i would really like to move on this somehow. Heck she sits in front of me in class and i get to stare at her neck and cheek as we listn to calculas crap. Would like to say something or do something without her pulling awway jsut not sure what to do first lol.....
Maby but the reason she told me was he was a baseball player with little time off in the past. now he didnt make the team (or starters or whatever you call it i can give a hoot about baseball) but since he has time now he still wont visit, and she said she is getting tired of it. Heck she is going out (not sure if its a full date or homework help like what i did) with some guy in her english class with the buck teeth she likes to talk about. So im guessing she is kinda looking around. I just need to rid myself of this nice guy to walk over and start being a bit more djish... just takes practice and time.. Though im wondering if i blew it already and should move on. I did pick up a friend and was bored stiff so we drove up to her work (starbucks) to grab a drink. (using my friend kinda as an excue why i went up ther and heck i do like the drink i ordered) When she saw me she said "long time no see" (she has a class with me 2 hrs earlier and I knew she would be workind) so i dono if that was a good thing or a bad thing. Sucks also because she is kinda hard to read and i would really like to move on this somehow. Heck she sits in front of me in class and i get to stare at her neck and cheek as we listn to calculas crap. Would like to say something or do something without her pulling awway jsut not sure what to do first lol.....
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alright I got a couple of things for you.
the first. Calculus isn't crap. Take it back. And you stare at her neck? Kinda creepy.
The second how old are you guys?
The third. FrankWank has a good point. She tells you about her boyfriend who she is tired of.
BUT
she is sitting around talking about her boyfriend, who pisses her off, to you. She obviously likes him.
I would suggest, as much as I hate this response, that you click on the link in the upper-right hand corner of this page and read the bible. It is long as hell. But so were most of the required readings in high school english class, at least this will have a positive influence on your life. I would also suggest popping your question into the search function here and you will find the answer to this fairly easily.
the first. Calculus isn't crap. Take it back. And you stare at her neck? Kinda creepy.
The second how old are you guys?
The third. FrankWank has a good point. She tells you about her boyfriend who she is tired of.
BUT
she is sitting around talking about her boyfriend, who pisses her off, to you. She obviously likes him.
I would suggest, as much as I hate this response, that you click on the link in the upper-right hand corner of this page and read the bible. It is long as hell. But so were most of the required readings in high school english class, at least this will have a positive influence on your life. I would also suggest popping your question into the search function here and you will find the answer to this fairly easily.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ya
Ok calculus isnt crap... The algebra to do it though is lol. I suck at math so ya..
Im 19, she is 18. I have to admit I like gals over 19 becasue the 18 or lower just seam to young and immiture for me to waste my time. Im slightly seeing this from her but not as much as most of the youngins that I have seen around here. (also I may seam young but being 19 I already have 2 years and my AA from this college. Last semester before I head off to a 4 year college.)
She has a nice face, eyes, and neck... She doesnt reveal much more than that lol. (and hair is nice to)
Ya your probably right about the BF issue.. Still It feals like she is trying to get over him but well ya she still loves him. ohwell. And yes im reading the bible. But like the real one its a long process.
Ill probably drop this one soon but since all my classes are like 1:10 Girl : Guy ratio its kinda slim pickins.
Ok calculus isnt crap... The algebra to do it though is lol. I suck at math so ya..
Im 19, she is 18. I have to admit I like gals over 19 becasue the 18 or lower just seam to young and immiture for me to waste my time. Im slightly seeing this from her but not as much as most of the youngins that I have seen around here. (also I may seam young but being 19 I already have 2 years and my AA from this college. Last semester before I head off to a 4 year college.)
She has a nice face, eyes, and neck... She doesnt reveal much more than that lol. (and hair is nice to)
Ya your probably right about the BF issue.. Still It feals like she is trying to get over him but well ya she still loves him. ohwell. And yes im reading the bible. But like the real one its a long process.
Ill probably drop this one soon but since all my classes are like 1:10 Girl : Guy ratio its kinda slim pickins.