GF went cold after 7 months. Need advice.

[Cejay]

I've been dating my current GF since September. We've exclusive since late November. Its always been good, and she has always initiated a lot of contact, such as lots of texts or calls when we are too busy to see one another.

Its been cooling a bit but recently really dropped off. Given what I know about her I doubt there is a new guy but anythings possible.

We both had a really busy 7-8 days or so but that shouldn't have stopped electronic contact. I cannot think of any event (fight etc) that would have caused this.

I've written this post for SS about 6 times now, I've left a lot out to try to keep it short enough that people will read it so if you feel something pertinent is missing, please ask.

I don't have a lot of time for games. I was unhappy in my marriage for a long time, am never going to let a relationship make me feel that way again.

I'm confident and can spin new plates without much effort but I like this one and given the investment would like to see where it could go at the same time, it can't go on like this, I'd rather end it.

I've made sure not to initiate that much contact so as not to be seen as needy. Its almost always been 2/3s her, 1/3 me.


My question is:

How can I broach the subject without coming off as needy? I don't want to waste my time.

We're "exclusive" so I can't just start dating other women without breaking our agreement (cheating) and I'm not going to cheat.

Thanks in advance.

CJ

 

[ubercat]

Hmm need more info. I d try making a date with her the usual way. I m going to blah... u ll love it because... Let's go. Nothing beta bout that. But we need more info. Maybe u ve been hanging out too much as opposed to dating. Maybe some biatch friends in her ear etc. also hate to say but normally once they go hamster they're looking for the next branch :-(

 

[ZTIME]

I've been dating my current GF since September. We've exclusive since late November. Its always been good, and she has always initiated a lot of contact, such as lots of texts or calls when we are too busy to see one another.

Its been cooling a bit but recently really dropped off. Given what I know about her I doubt there is a new guy but anythings possible. After 7 months, the "honeymoon phase" is over. And yes you're right, "Anything is possible", especially when a chick is truly showing less interest in you.

We both had a really busy 7-8 days or so but that shouldn't have stopped electronic contact. I cannot think of any event (fight etc) that would have caused this. I don't get it. Are you afraid to contact her? Are you afraid you might look beta if you do so?

I've written this post for SS about 6 times now, I've left a lot out to try to keep it short enough that people will read it so if you feel something pertinent is missing, please ask. The pertinent thing is that you've posted 6 times about a topic that really shouldn't be bothering you so much. Seems like you're starting to develop oneitis for this one and are afraid to let go. Maybe something insecure about yourself?

I don't have a lot of time for games. I was unhappy in my marriage for a long time, am never going to let a relationship make me feel that way again. 2 facts: #1. If you didn't have time for games, you wouldn't be asking others for your next move. You would just do what you believe is right. #2. You are already letting another relationship alter your state of mind and the way that you would normally act.

I'm confident and can spin new plates without much effort but I like this one and given the investment would like to see where it could go at the same time, it can't go on like this, I'd rather end it. If you can confidently spin other plates, then why not do it? You can still see where things will go with this current chick, however it seems like it's going nowhere pretty quickly.

I've made sure not to initiate that much contact so as not to be seen as needy. Its almost always been 2/3s her, 1/3 me. Never understood the "counting texts" thing. If you want to hook up with a chick or see what's going on you should be able to. It's weird to think that if I wanted to send the following text: "Going out to "Sully's bar" Thursday night. You in?" that I would have to wait for a chick to send the proper amount of "pre-texts" before I could ask.


My question is:

How can I broach the subject without coming off as needy? I don't want to waste my time. You're saying 2 different things here! What should I do, and I don't want to waste my time are certainly mixed signals.

We're "exclusive" so I can't just start dating other women without breaking our agreement (cheating) and I'm not going to cheat. It's kind of hard to cheat on a girl who really doesn't seem to be that into you. Does she understand the meaning of "exclusive"? I don't think I'd be waiting around for her to make a decision on how your relationship is going to work. Unless that's what you want to do.

Thanks in advance.

CJ

Good Luck Brother! Living your life for the hopes of response from others is a rough road to travel.


“Be yourself—not your idea of what you think somebody else’s idea of yourself should be.”

 

[Cejay]

Thanks guys. I really should have searched sosuave.net more before posting this, seems pretty common. The re-occurring theme is that its usually going to end, soon.

I contacted her and we ended it.

I'm going to take a little break from women to concentrate on self improvement and travel, and then jump back in.

CJ.